Meg...
...Maybe it's the confidence men build as they get a bit older.
Yeah, and maybe it’s just that they don’t have as much time left. Seriously though, the older men do seem to have far more confidence than you would expect out of them. And that does seem to translate into sexual aggression that you wouldn't expect from them either. I am not really too sure why some of them do have so much confidence, but I have noticed that men who were once very attractive have a hard time accepting the man in the mirror. Not that it's a bad thing to be confident...to the contrary, it can be a very attractive trait in itself.
I just find it interesting that a man who was considered good looking 30 years ago can maintain the same level of confidence even though he has lost his hair and gained 30 pounds. Oddly, I don’t see the same trend in women. They seem to lose their confidence and end up settling for less than they should because of it. We are much more self conscious of our age related changes than they are. I don’t know why that is, but it seems to be true.
Of course there are confident women and insecure men. But as I said earlier, the numbers seem to be in favor of the men being happier with their own body images. It’s not just that they are more confident, they expect their women to be of a certain age and body type that they don’t measure up to themselves. In reading through those ads on that fish dating site, I see older men that aren’t terribly attractive searching for women that are much younger. It’s amazing how many 50-something men are searching specifically for 20-35 year old women. I’m sure that they don’t want to hear from women that have been ravaged by the years to the same extent that they have.
The one thing that I do find that more than a few men ARE insecure about is their age. I guess it’s because they are searching for those younger women but for some reason, an inordinate number of men lie about their ages. That’s one of the more popular lies that men seem to tell. Of course, marital status is another biggie. Most men seem to add at least one “ego inch” to their heights and subtract at least 10 or 15 pounds from their weights. I’ve seen them lying about their jobs as well, but the age seems to be the most oft told lie.
When they lie about their ages, or anything else that basic, you have to question their intent. They may SAY that they are interested in a long term relationship...but if they were, they wouldn’t lie about something that would be exposed eventually. Perhaps the habitual liars, like Vex, would lie about their age AND be looking for something long term, but who has any use for an habitual liar?
I’m sure it appears as though I’m ragging on the men...but I can’t comment on the women because I don’t study THEM. Some dude will just have to bitch about us...I have enough on my plate with the guys. But I’m sure that, given the time and the opportunity, they could come up with plenty of things to say about us. Maybe this guy can do it, he seems to have the sense of humor to handle the task:
http://chazinc.blogspot.com/
It certainly isn’t hard to figure out why the men would want to go after the younger, more attractive women. I just find it funny that they think that THEY are still of any value to those women. They must look in the mirror and see a man that hasn’t existed since 1983. I’ve known men who I’ve watched grow old yet they don’t seem to realize that they have done it. One in particular was a very, very good looking man in 1978, but now he is just a short bald dude who is still out there looking for woman of a certain physical standard that wouldn’t look twice at him unless he could lay claim to a whole lot of cash or a profession such as a doctor or a lawyer. OH...those are another interesting lot. Women fall at the feet of men with such impressive credentials and they seem to think that there is something about them besides the letters at the end of their names that is attracting these women. Not that it matters, there will always be women who will fall at the feet of men who can sign their names with an MD or JD at the end of it, no matter what the heck the guys looked like.
I went to college with a chick who never made it any secret that she wanted to be a nurse so that she could marry a doctor. The joke was on her, though. She ended up marrying one of our professors.
Anyway, I don’t really understand why the older men are so much more aggressive than the younger men are. But trust me, I am going to keep studying those suckers until I find out!
Meg
...Maybe it's the confidence men build as they get a bit older.
Yeah, and maybe it’s just that they don’t have as much time left. Seriously though, the older men do seem to have far more confidence than you would expect out of them. And that does seem to translate into sexual aggression that you wouldn't expect from them either. I am not really too sure why some of them do have so much confidence, but I have noticed that men who were once very attractive have a hard time accepting the man in the mirror. Not that it's a bad thing to be confident...to the contrary, it can be a very attractive trait in itself.
I just find it interesting that a man who was considered good looking 30 years ago can maintain the same level of confidence even though he has lost his hair and gained 30 pounds. Oddly, I don’t see the same trend in women. They seem to lose their confidence and end up settling for less than they should because of it. We are much more self conscious of our age related changes than they are. I don’t know why that is, but it seems to be true.
Of course there are confident women and insecure men. But as I said earlier, the numbers seem to be in favor of the men being happier with their own body images. It’s not just that they are more confident, they expect their women to be of a certain age and body type that they don’t measure up to themselves. In reading through those ads on that fish dating site, I see older men that aren’t terribly attractive searching for women that are much younger. It’s amazing how many 50-something men are searching specifically for 20-35 year old women. I’m sure that they don’t want to hear from women that have been ravaged by the years to the same extent that they have.
The one thing that I do find that more than a few men ARE insecure about is their age. I guess it’s because they are searching for those younger women but for some reason, an inordinate number of men lie about their ages. That’s one of the more popular lies that men seem to tell. Of course, marital status is another biggie. Most men seem to add at least one “ego inch” to their heights and subtract at least 10 or 15 pounds from their weights. I’ve seen them lying about their jobs as well, but the age seems to be the most oft told lie.
When they lie about their ages, or anything else that basic, you have to question their intent. They may SAY that they are interested in a long term relationship...but if they were, they wouldn’t lie about something that would be exposed eventually. Perhaps the habitual liars, like Vex, would lie about their age AND be looking for something long term, but who has any use for an habitual liar?
I’m sure it appears as though I’m ragging on the men...but I can’t comment on the women because I don’t study THEM. Some dude will just have to bitch about us...I have enough on my plate with the guys. But I’m sure that, given the time and the opportunity, they could come up with plenty of things to say about us. Maybe this guy can do it, he seems to have the sense of humor to handle the task:
http://chazinc.blogspot.com/
It certainly isn’t hard to figure out why the men would want to go after the younger, more attractive women. I just find it funny that they think that THEY are still of any value to those women. They must look in the mirror and see a man that hasn’t existed since 1983. I’ve known men who I’ve watched grow old yet they don’t seem to realize that they have done it. One in particular was a very, very good looking man in 1978, but now he is just a short bald dude who is still out there looking for woman of a certain physical standard that wouldn’t look twice at him unless he could lay claim to a whole lot of cash or a profession such as a doctor or a lawyer. OH...those are another interesting lot. Women fall at the feet of men with such impressive credentials and they seem to think that there is something about them besides the letters at the end of their names that is attracting these women. Not that it matters, there will always be women who will fall at the feet of men who can sign their names with an MD or JD at the end of it, no matter what the heck the guys looked like.
I went to college with a chick who never made it any secret that she wanted to be a nurse so that she could marry a doctor. The joke was on her, though. She ended up marrying one of our professors.
Anyway, I don’t really understand why the older men are so much more aggressive than the younger men are. But trust me, I am going to keep studying those suckers until I find out!
Meg
posted by Meg Kelso | 10:00 PM
2 Comments:
Yeah I think I did it backwards... they say to marry fr money first and then for love. I married for love... *sigh*... sometimes it's hard, but in the end I think I'll have a better life to look forward to than those hussy's that do swoon (drama queens) at the feet of the good doctors. Ce La Vie.
Hi Square1!
Yeah, it's amazing that anyone would want to marry for less than love. Oddly, I had always heard that you were supposed to marry for love when you are young and stupid, then marry for money when you were older and wiser. Go figure.
Meg
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