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Saturday, August 16, 2014

I Put 2 Posts Back Up...

...that I had taken down to avoid hurt feelings. It didn't work. Apparently, it did annoy one person but not enough for that person to call me and confront me about it. Rather, they called their own father who had never read what I wrote but chose to call my 80 year old father and complain to him about what I had written. I guess they were thinking that talking directly to me wasn't good enough when they could harass my father in hopes of causing a rift between the two of us. Knowing the yahoos involved, my guess is they hoped that my father would scold me, and if they were really lucky, he might even kick me out and leave me homeless again.

I tried to assuage people who may have been annoyed but it got me nowhere so I've decided to change my tactics. (I chose that word for someone who has a problem with the definition of it.) But, to protect my father from any further emotional turmoil, I chose to discuss it with him myself before I did anything. I stated my view and told him what I planned on doing. He understood where I was coming from but he didn't agree with my plans so we simply agreed to disagree. As it stands now, any further phone calls to my father are now without any logical reason.

I've been having one health problem after another lately including a heart attack, a stroke, renal failure and a diagnosis of "broken heart syndrome". My heart was demolished in 2004 so I'm surprised it took that long to attack me. The worst health problem that I have today is major depressive disorder and a hideous case of anxiety disorder. My depression has kept me isolated to the point that I haven't even been able to utilize my usual cathartic mechanisms, this blog and my writing.

When I began this blog in January of 2005, it helped me quite a bit. I had a place to espouse my honest feelings, raw and unpleasant though they may have been. Unfortunately, lately I've allowed myself to worry more about the feelings of other people than I did my own. That would have been fine if it had done me any good in my relationships with certain people but all it did was make me feel worse and eventually I suffered a heart attack...I actually had a HEART ATTACK! I attribute it directly to the way I allowed myself to be treated and my lack of an outlet for my feelings which I simply kept bottled up inside of me, much to my own detriment.

That's what I wanted to explain to you all and next I will start telling you all exactly what led me to this point. It won't be pretty but it will be honest. I will be admitting to some things of which I am not very proud. I've come to the conclusion that this tact is the only way that I can live with myself. Right now it's almost midnight so I'm going to go to bed. But as soon as I've gotten some shut eye and given the matter some more thought, I will be back to begin spewing the ugly truths that I can no longer keep inside of me without further harm to my own health.

Ciao, be back very soon...I promise. I need to sing a better song.


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Saturday, August 02, 2014

TIMELY RERUN

FRIDAY, DECEMBER 23, 2005


Kim Basinger seems to love backing causes...it would seem as though she is now vying for the title, “Saint of Mothers Who Assassinate Father/Child Relationships For No Good Reason”. After co-parenting daughter Ireland for 10 years, Basinger has decided that Alec Baldwin is no longer worthy of the role of father because there has not been enough “consideration for my time and work commitments” and Baldwin’s presence is a “disruption to Ireland’s life.”

Court documents filed by Baldwin request the “disruption” of “co-parenting counseling” and a change in therapists. Co-parenting counseling seems quite reasonable to most people. Especially considering the history of the couple who have been bickering over the 10 year old since their 2001 divorce.

Of course, we are not privy to any of the particulars in the case. But one would expect that had Mr. Baldwin committed some hideous infraction in the time since the brutal divorce, Basinger would have seen to it that the media was aware of the situation. So, in this case, surely no news is good news. Yet Basinger's attorney fills 69 pages of court documents with reasons why she should not attend co-parenting classes with her ex.

Basinger seems to be leading the charge of women who seek to remove superfluous husbands by proxy. They effectively take away all access to their children from father’s who are guilty of nothing more than existing past their usefullness. Beyond child support, these women are convinced that the men with whom they produced these children serve no purpose. So, these men are banished from the lives of their children by women who find them to be more of an inconvenience than an asset.

Shortly after these men become burdens to their wives, all too often, they come home to an empty house. Phone calls fail to verify the location of the man’s family. That’s because the men don’t seem to call the people who DO know what’s going on, the police. Of course, he needn’t call them, they’re on their way over to arrest him for domestic violence or something worse. Now, the first step is done. He’s out of the house.

The next step is to keep him out of the house and that takes a very long time. But, as an affront to women who are truly victimized, these women manipulate the court system for years in their efforts. The more sadistic of these women begin poisoning the minds of innocent children. A “victimized” wife can get a man out of the house overnight. It takes a “victimized” child to keep them out for good.

The brainwashing that these children receive is extremely effective. It takes some particularly accomplished manipulation to evoke such “obsessional hatred”, that it “extends to the targeted parent's extended family without any guilt or remorse.”

In The Parental Alienation Directory, Dr. Douglas Darnall states that the young victims of mothers consumed with hatred, "have no capacity to feel guilty about how they behave towards the targeted parent or forgive any past indiscretions." Dr, Darnell describes a pattern of behavior that he has termed Parental Alienation Syndrome and it is not a pretty picture. Although men most assuredly have the ability to exact this behavior upon children, for whatever reasons, the majority of parents who inflict PAS upon children are women.

Loving mothers want to see their children surrounded by as many people who love them as possible. But the mother’s who cause children to have “difficulty making any differentiations between...personal experiences with the targeted parent” and “what they are told by the Obsessed Alienator.”, are more concerned with some fantasy life where the father simply does not exist than with the welfare of the children. In a society where we chastise men for not rising to the occasion when they father a child, how can we let these mothers off the hook when they steal not only the father, but the father’s entire family from the child? Grandmother’s, Grandfather’s, aunt’s and uncle’s are all fair game for these women.

When the accusations fly, the extended family is not immune. A women in metropolitan Atlanta accused her daughter’s grandparents of standing by while the father, “struck her once, throwing her to the ground. Then, he struck her again and she fell to the ground again.” In this devastatingly classic case of Parental Alienation Syndrome, this particular father is about the give up on his daughter after two years of fighting with his ex wife. He has been arrested 3 times, his elderly parents have been named in abuse accusations filed with the Paulding County Georgia court. During the Christmas holidays, the counselor ordered by Paulding County told this father that “the best Christmas gift that you can give your daughter is to stay away during the holidays.”

When Alec Baldwin requests a change in counselors, it’s entirely possible that he may have good cause. With “therapists” out there telling fathers that they can best serve their child by “staying away”, perhaps Baldwin’s request should be given due consideration.

Unfortunately, “severe alienation is usually irreversible” and more and more men like the Paulding County Georgia father are throwing up their hands in utter desperation after years of false accusations and alienation from their children. Until judges and therapists, along with the public in general, recognize PAS for the crime that it is, father’s without Baldwin’s resources will continue to “stay away”. Hopefully, Baldwin himself will continue...to the best of his ability...to be a “disruption” in his daughter’s life.

For more information, go to:http://www.parentalalienation.com/pasdirectory.htm

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To My Grandchildren

Chandler Driggers Cardis, Campbell Driggers, Joaquin, Dillon Colletti, Patrick Colletti are my grandchildren and I adore them, love them and miss them too much to bear.

I also adore my daughter Annie and her wonderful hubby. I miss them as well. I miss and love my sons, William Cardis and Timothy Colletti.


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Anonymous Anonymous said...

You have no parental approval to list the names of these minors.

August 02, 2014  
Blogger Meg Kelso said...

Without conceding to your assertion, I must say that you can't expect anyone to do less when you leave one with no option. That is a STUPID tactic. Stayed tuned, more to follow.

Freedom's just another word for nothing else to lose.

August 03, 2014  
Blogger Meg Kelso said...

One would think that an attorney (LMAO) would be familiar with legal matters.

August 03, 2014  
Blogger Meg Kelso said...

Hey, Chicken shit anon, how do you know I haven't "parental approval"?

August 03, 2014  

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Friday, July 25, 2014

Remember the old admonition...

...to "never discuss religion or politics"? You don't hear it much anymore. Have you ever wondered why?

It's because nowadays it's almost impossible to keep politics out of most discussions because our government has intruded into so many areas of our life that it's unrealistic to avoid talking about politics.

There was a time when socially aware people respected the fact that opinions on religion and politics were so important to people that most realized that no good could possibly come out of a heated discussion in a social atmosphere. You were much, much more likely to lose a friend than to change an opinion.

Life consisted of so many things that had nothing to do with politics so we could easily find relatively peaceful topics for conversation during any social get-together. But today, we can't seem to find an area of life to discuss without tossing politics into the fray. How sad for us all.

Where private citizens were once bright enough to hold our political views private in social settings, many now feel as though our views are so enlightened and those who disagree with us are, at the best, misguided and at the worst, racist, evil or just plain stupid. Far too many people take pride in espousing their political views daily and they sincerely believe that they look good while doing so and that those who disagree are so evil that the evil-thinkers must be exposed. The people who do this are so insecure that they actually feel better about themselves by pointing fingers at those who hold other views than their own. It's very easy to divide a people who ascribe to the philosophy of demonizing those who disagree and as many of us have heard, "United we stand, divided we fall."

Another axiom that has fallen by the wayside, "I may disagree with what you say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it." In today's world, we would be more likely to get shot for holding a differing opinion from our fellow citizens than to have one defend our right to freedom of thought and expression if they differ from a fellow citizen.

This isn't happening by accident. Many divisive people are devious enough to do their best to manipulate us into factions that are easier to destroy than are a united people. Please think twice before you attack someone who has an opinion that differs from your own. If their right to disagree is taken away, your right to do the same will be next.

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Friday, June 20, 2014

My dad irritated me this morning...

...so I said, "I hope your next shit is a porcupine." He responded, "And you're supposed to be the smart one?" Then he went on to illustrate how each of my siblings lack the senses of humor that goes along with being bright. (If you doubt me, just ask a Jew, I've never met one that wasn't witty and clever...and certainly not stupid.)

With that one comment, my father unwittingly let on that he believes something that I have always known...I AM the brightest one of the 6 children produced by my mother and (according to my mother) my father.

I have brothers who aren't smart enough to realize the benefits of a cohesive family. But, I haven't seen them in quite some time so I wasn't too sure that I was smarter than they but, as I said, my father, who would know...just said so. Nyuk Nyuk.

Of course I knew I was brighter than either of my 2 sisters who once got together on a birthday gift for me that was a charm with the word BITCH written in gold three times. So, I don't mind the risk that I might hurt their feelings by saying that I am smarter than they are. Besides, I'm pretty sure they already know.

Now...how to break it to my father that I am also much brighter than he?

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Blogger lisa wojeski said...

God, you make me laugh!

July 09, 2014  
Blogger Meg Kelso said...

That's what I'm here for! So glad to see someone is here! It could actually bring me back!

July 10, 2014  

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Wednesday, June 18, 2014

I have a brother who...

...is an asshole. Actually I have 2, but today I'm discussing the one who broke my nose when I was in a sleeping bag and couldn't fight back.
I was chatting with someone who remembered some of my brothers antics, but most of them were simply signs of cowardice. He hid in the bathroom when the photographer came to take the annual picture of our growing family. He screamed, kicked and eventually was dragged in front of the camera so now we have pictures of his snotty, red, swollen face and the rest of the clan.
He also was terrified of barbers and cried throughout every haircut and he shrunk his boy ass down so that his head came nowhere near the signs that told you how tall you must be to "ride this ride" at local amusement parks.
Even though my mother's dying wish was for her children to take care of each other, a couple of my siblings took her cash and ran, never thinking about what she wanted.
Now they're ignoring my 80 year old father. He wasn't perfect (who is?) but neither was my mother.  I love her and miss her something awful but I never refuse to look at the truth. And, the simple truth is, my parents, like the rest of us, did the best they could on any given days with the tools they had on that day. They meant well, slipping sometimes but none of us were buried in the crawlspace so I think it could have been much worse.
I say this not to bitch at my chicken shit brother for ignoring our father on Father's Day and hanging up on me when I called to invite him to my father's 80th birthday. It's more about me and my kids.
Last month, on May 23rd, I had a heart attack. I stayed in cardiac care until the following Tuesday when they took me to a floor. But within 2 hours of that move, I went into respiratory failure and almost died for the second time in 5 days. I went back to CCU and spent some time up there before going back to the floor. While I was in between near death experiences, I spoke to all of my kids.
I was diagnosed with Broken Heart Syndrome ( it sounds more ominous in Japanese which is the language used to identify it, but I can't remember how to spell it.) Anyway, it boils down to Broken Heart Syndrome and I have it. It was bad enough to actually cause a heart attack with damage to my heart muscle, but this too shall pass.
The point is, I may be much younger than my father, but seriously, how many more special days are there left for me? My father certainly has less...maybe not, but he hopes so as he does not want to bury any of his children.
I still have the Broken Heart thing and literally, a broken heart. The only thing that could break my heart more is if I couldn't have a relationship of some sort with my children and my favorite humans ever, my grandchildren. I assure you...I would not be here if it were not for them. (By the way, I have another grandbaby coming!)
When I think of my broken heart, I have to wonder what it does to my father when the boys he shuttled to sporting events and paid college tuition for, have totally erased him from their lives. A phone call from one of them would not only show that they have a touch of class, it would let them grow older proud that they didn't give in to the negativity life tries to suffocate us with.
My father's heart may or may not be broken, but with so few Father's Day's left, does it matter? One 5 minute phone call would spurt so much good karma into the world and the lack of the call does nothing but create pain at worst and negativity at best.
One of my brothers married a rather stout selfish woman who never wanted to give my brother kids. I always resented her for that. My other brother never married anyone young enough to have any eggs left so he avoided parenthood altogether.
When the karma they send out every day comes to bite them in the ass, they will be truly alone in this world.
Just remember this, forgiveness is for the person who forgives, not for the one who has been forgiven. Until you forgive another person, you will never benefit from that scenario.

BTW...To my kids, call me soon please! Preferably with grandchildren around but I'd like to chat with you. Skype if you can, you might have to call me to get me to the computer!

Love you!.

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Thursday, June 05, 2014

Cats Are Jealous of Me

Sorry to be gone so long. I just spent two weeks in critical care after they told me I had a heart attack. It turned out to be broken heart syndrome, Then, a few days later, I went into respiratory failure 2 hours after they transferred me to the floor, so back to CCU. This is what I had:

http://www.heart.org/HEARTORG/Conditions/More/Cardiomyopathy/Is-Broken-Heart-Syndrome-Real_UCM_448547_Article.jsp

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Blogger pipe dreams said...

I still love you after all that we have been thru .!!!!

June 16, 2014  
Blogger Meg Kelso said...

I don't think I've mentioned it enough, but I hate games. This is neither fun nor intriguing to me. You could be the love of my life but I'll never know, because you're playing games.

Too bad.

:)

June 18, 2014  
Blogger pipe dreams said...

? Playin games !!

August 08, 2014  
Blogger Meg Kelso said...

I respond to sentences, not meaningless phrases.

August 09, 2014  

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