I just saw a commercial...
...for a show that asks, “Is it still cheating if it’s just on the internet?”
I don’t even have to watch the show...I can tell you, if you have to hide it from your spouse, it most certainly IS cheating. Deception is the bullet that comes out of the infidelity gun.
That’s what rips through your guts and destroys lives.
Vex sat here on this computer for countless hours IM’ing and visiting porn sites. He lied about it every time. Even when I showed him the highlighted links that led me straight to his porno-sites, he blamed it on my sons. Funny how when Vex left, my sons lost their taste for pornography.
Even if it starts out “innocently” enough, like marijuana leads to stronger drug abuse, it will lead to further and more deviant behavior. The thing about marijuana that leads to other drugs is the thing that makes the internet so dangerous. It’s the access that combines with each other to be a potential disaster. (Which is why I think marijuana should be legalized, but that's another subject.)
If someone has constant access to something as tempting as sex, they will seek further access and sooner or later, the anonymous people that they are speaking to will be close enough for them to actually meet. Internet predators are not only after children, they are after married people too.
They don’t care, they really, really don’t. Married is even an appealing trait to some of them who find a married person less likely to “talk”.
The thing that hurt the most in all that I went through with Vex was the hideous deception. Nothing else hurt me as much. If you have to lie about your behavior, it is wrong. It’s the lies that cause the pain and once you start lying, you have to tell more lies. When the lying starts to get easy and the access to other horny freaks is right there, trouble is right around the corner.
I’d be interested to hear how some people can justify an internet relationship as being anything but innocent if they have to lie about it. Some people might compare internet porn to a Playboy Magazine but there’s a big difference, the Playboy Magazine women don’t speak back to you. They can’t carry on a relationship with a man simply because he looks at their picture in the bathroom. On the internet, there are too many ways for a person to communicate.
Just like it isn’t the actual sex that holds a relationship together, it doesn’t take actual sex to tear it apart. Years of wonderful moments and shared experiences can be trashed by one lie. That one lie can turn a devoted soul into a distrustful person that can’t find their way back to you. Is it worth it? Is it worth hurting the one person who counts on you?
So many people engage in internet tom-foolery and they consider it something innocent or innocuous. It isn’t. Unless you can tell your spouse about what you are doing, it isn’t innocent and it isn’t innocuous.
If you are lucky enough to have someone who loves you and wants to be with you...why would you risk that for an unknown thrill that could never equal the contentment that you feel when you’re with the person that loves you already? It may seem like fun and you may even feel “justified” by something that has been going on in your relationship. But it isn’t worth it.
It isn’t worth it because when you start out being deceptive, you will never find anything worth having. If it is something that you have to lie about, it IS cheating. And the person that you are cheating the most out of is yourself.
Meg
...for a show that asks, “Is it still cheating if it’s just on the internet?”
I don’t even have to watch the show...I can tell you, if you have to hide it from your spouse, it most certainly IS cheating. Deception is the bullet that comes out of the infidelity gun.
That’s what rips through your guts and destroys lives.
Vex sat here on this computer for countless hours IM’ing and visiting porn sites. He lied about it every time. Even when I showed him the highlighted links that led me straight to his porno-sites, he blamed it on my sons. Funny how when Vex left, my sons lost their taste for pornography.
Even if it starts out “innocently” enough, like marijuana leads to stronger drug abuse, it will lead to further and more deviant behavior. The thing about marijuana that leads to other drugs is the thing that makes the internet so dangerous. It’s the access that combines with each other to be a potential disaster. (Which is why I think marijuana should be legalized, but that's another subject.)
If someone has constant access to something as tempting as sex, they will seek further access and sooner or later, the anonymous people that they are speaking to will be close enough for them to actually meet. Internet predators are not only after children, they are after married people too.
They don’t care, they really, really don’t. Married is even an appealing trait to some of them who find a married person less likely to “talk”.
The thing that hurt the most in all that I went through with Vex was the hideous deception. Nothing else hurt me as much. If you have to lie about your behavior, it is wrong. It’s the lies that cause the pain and once you start lying, you have to tell more lies. When the lying starts to get easy and the access to other horny freaks is right there, trouble is right around the corner.
I’d be interested to hear how some people can justify an internet relationship as being anything but innocent if they have to lie about it. Some people might compare internet porn to a Playboy Magazine but there’s a big difference, the Playboy Magazine women don’t speak back to you. They can’t carry on a relationship with a man simply because he looks at their picture in the bathroom. On the internet, there are too many ways for a person to communicate.
Just like it isn’t the actual sex that holds a relationship together, it doesn’t take actual sex to tear it apart. Years of wonderful moments and shared experiences can be trashed by one lie. That one lie can turn a devoted soul into a distrustful person that can’t find their way back to you. Is it worth it? Is it worth hurting the one person who counts on you?
So many people engage in internet tom-foolery and they consider it something innocent or innocuous. It isn’t. Unless you can tell your spouse about what you are doing, it isn’t innocent and it isn’t innocuous.
If you are lucky enough to have someone who loves you and wants to be with you...why would you risk that for an unknown thrill that could never equal the contentment that you feel when you’re with the person that loves you already? It may seem like fun and you may even feel “justified” by something that has been going on in your relationship. But it isn’t worth it.
It isn’t worth it because when you start out being deceptive, you will never find anything worth having. If it is something that you have to lie about, it IS cheating. And the person that you are cheating the most out of is yourself.
Meg
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