I was thinking about something...
...while I was fishing this morning. (That’s what I like about fishing, the thinking. I didn’t catch anything and that’s just as good…I'm afraid of those suckers. I just like to sit and think in a pretty place. Vermont is about as pretty as it gets. And it's 80 here! Just lovely.) I was thinking about how most people seem to discuss the more negative aspects of marriage and love…not so much the positive. When somebody does write a book about the positive things that happen when people are in love…it’s usually fiction and has a picture of some fantasy gorgeous guy and girl on the cover.
Then, in magazines people wax poetic as they offer vague, innocuous, relatively useless relationship advice. And they don’t get many ratings when they talk about happy marriges on talk shows so all we ever see are the bad relationships and the husbands who wear their wives clothing. I even admit to spending a lot of time on the bad side of my marriage. But that's where I was in my mind when I wrote the kind of stuff that got this blog mentioned as the Cruel Site of the Day on some cruel web site. I'm much better now, thank you.
Anyway, I was thinking that it's probably about time for me to figure outhow to tell if a guy is interested in me or not, what with the divorce beoming final (soon, I hope!) and all. I can usually read people pretty well, but sometimes we tend to think with our heart, or some other part of the human body, not with our brains. There are some things that we can read about each other, but only TO AN EXTENT! We will never quite know much for sure. But we can certainly manage an educated guess if we pay attention and hold on to our brains.
When a man says, “Wow, baby, you’re hot!!!” 5 times an hour, you can assume one of two things, either he really, really likes you, or he's a gigantic ass. It isn’t difficult to figure that one out, an ass is always an ass and a guy who just really, really likes you follows it up with things like, “What would you like to do tonight?” Did you know there where guys who actually ENJOYED taking a woman out and showing her a good time?! Why didn’t anyone tell me about this before?
And, did you know that there are men who send you flowers for no reason at all? And some of them actually call you in the middle of the day, not for any reason and not for any length of time, just long enough to say, “Hi, I was thinking about you…I had to call and tell you that.” Now, enough of that and sooner or later you have to find yourself thinking, "This guy likes me!"
But there's even more! If someone really, really likes you, Cher was right, it's in his kiss. And in the way he holds your hand, waqks arm in arm with you and waits outsdie the fitting room for just one more look at you modeling clothes for him. He makes you smile at the thought of him smiling back at you with a look that says, "Are you nuts? Of course I really, really like you."
You know, nobody needs anyone else to tell you how to be sure, it should be blatantly obvious or it isn't worth the time it takes TO figure it out! The trick is holding onto your heart until your brain gives it the "All clear" on any given person. That's tough at times, but it really does work out for the best.
I am going to purposely digress here for a minute…no I’m not, I forgot what I was going to say.
Oh well, I think it’s not so much in the things he does as in the way he makes you feel. So, THINK about that. Someone wrote to this blog and said that if you are truly in love, you want to be a better person for the other and I agree, I felt that way about Vex. It was misplaced, but I did feel that way. But, what I didn’t feel was attractive, appealing, appreciated, special, encouraged, challenged or happy. And the worst part is that I DID feel all of those things before I met him, and I didn’t need anyone else to make me feel that way!
But, that feeling went away and I couldn’t find it again by myself. But let me tell you something, it’s back. That’s exactly how I feel today. And I will NEVER let anyone else take that away from me again, as long as I live. You just watch and see what I am capable of now that I remember my own value!
OK, I am still on my vacation, I just wanted to tell you thaqt...oh, I am going to post something I did a long time ago just for the heck of it so that I don't feel as though I am abandoning you guys...see ya later!
Meg
...while I was fishing this morning. (That’s what I like about fishing, the thinking. I didn’t catch anything and that’s just as good…I'm afraid of those suckers. I just like to sit and think in a pretty place. Vermont is about as pretty as it gets. And it's 80 here! Just lovely.) I was thinking about how most people seem to discuss the more negative aspects of marriage and love…not so much the positive. When somebody does write a book about the positive things that happen when people are in love…it’s usually fiction and has a picture of some fantasy gorgeous guy and girl on the cover.
Then, in magazines people wax poetic as they offer vague, innocuous, relatively useless relationship advice. And they don’t get many ratings when they talk about happy marriges on talk shows so all we ever see are the bad relationships and the husbands who wear their wives clothing. I even admit to spending a lot of time on the bad side of my marriage. But that's where I was in my mind when I wrote the kind of stuff that got this blog mentioned as the Cruel Site of the Day on some cruel web site. I'm much better now, thank you.
Anyway, I was thinking that it's probably about time for me to figure outhow to tell if a guy is interested in me or not, what with the divorce beoming final (soon, I hope!) and all. I can usually read people pretty well, but sometimes we tend to think with our heart, or some other part of the human body, not with our brains. There are some things that we can read about each other, but only TO AN EXTENT! We will never quite know much for sure. But we can certainly manage an educated guess if we pay attention and hold on to our brains.
When a man says, “Wow, baby, you’re hot!!!” 5 times an hour, you can assume one of two things, either he really, really likes you, or he's a gigantic ass. It isn’t difficult to figure that one out, an ass is always an ass and a guy who just really, really likes you follows it up with things like, “What would you like to do tonight?” Did you know there where guys who actually ENJOYED taking a woman out and showing her a good time?! Why didn’t anyone tell me about this before?
And, did you know that there are men who send you flowers for no reason at all? And some of them actually call you in the middle of the day, not for any reason and not for any length of time, just long enough to say, “Hi, I was thinking about you…I had to call and tell you that.” Now, enough of that and sooner or later you have to find yourself thinking, "This guy likes me!"
But there's even more! If someone really, really likes you, Cher was right, it's in his kiss. And in the way he holds your hand, waqks arm in arm with you and waits outsdie the fitting room for just one more look at you modeling clothes for him. He makes you smile at the thought of him smiling back at you with a look that says, "Are you nuts? Of course I really, really like you."
You know, nobody needs anyone else to tell you how to be sure, it should be blatantly obvious or it isn't worth the time it takes TO figure it out! The trick is holding onto your heart until your brain gives it the "All clear" on any given person. That's tough at times, but it really does work out for the best.
I am going to purposely digress here for a minute…no I’m not, I forgot what I was going to say.
Oh well, I think it’s not so much in the things he does as in the way he makes you feel. So, THINK about that. Someone wrote to this blog and said that if you are truly in love, you want to be a better person for the other and I agree, I felt that way about Vex. It was misplaced, but I did feel that way. But, what I didn’t feel was attractive, appealing, appreciated, special, encouraged, challenged or happy. And the worst part is that I DID feel all of those things before I met him, and I didn’t need anyone else to make me feel that way!
But, that feeling went away and I couldn’t find it again by myself. But let me tell you something, it’s back. That’s exactly how I feel today. And I will NEVER let anyone else take that away from me again, as long as I live. You just watch and see what I am capable of now that I remember my own value!
OK, I am still on my vacation, I just wanted to tell you thaqt...oh, I am going to post something I did a long time ago just for the heck of it so that I don't feel as though I am abandoning you guys...see ya later!
Meg
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