Cheek dude...

...tucked me in last night. We were making out and there came a time when he had to leave or he wasn't going to be going anywhere. So, before he left I asked him if he would tuck me in. He did. That was so sweet.

I really like this one. I have some odd things going through my head about how to handle this relationship. Like, when do you finally give it up to a guy that you like? The guys that I don't like are easy enough, I know what to do with them. But, I haven't had one that I liked in so long that I can't remember what I'm supposed to do.

Do you actually discuss it first? Do you plan it? Do you just surprise him by not stopping? I don't know what the heck I'm doing here.

I could discuss it with him and tell him my thoughts but I don't know how to bring it up. I don't think it's appropriate at this point but I'd like to know when it is appropriate, if ever.

We're on a daily phone call with an implied date at least once a week. He has custody of his kids and they're with the grandparents for the holidays so I'm taking advantage of his free time. FULL advantage. He's going to the Peach Bowl (Chik-fil-a bowl?) so I needed to grab as much of his time as I could until then.

I don't know who he's going to that game with and I didn't ask. It's entirely possible that he had plans with another woman that he couldn't break and that doesn't bother me one bit. I'm still going out with the guy in the video...the one who honked his horn when he came to get me. I found out why he did that, by the way. His driver side door was broken and he didn't want me to have to open the door to let him out. I had to let that slide. Anyway, I am still seeing other guys so I can't worry about whether or not cheek dude is seeing other chicks.

So, that brings up another question...at what point do you make a relationship exclusive and does it need to be said? I went out with a guy once who assumed that we were "going steady" when I didn't know it. I don't make assumptions like that. If that guy would have asked me not to see other guys, I wouldn't have. But when I did see them, he would find out easily enough because his sister was my baby-sitter.

When he found out that I had gone on a date with another guy, he wasn't happy. I told him that he should have said something and he thought that it should have been a given. There were no "I love you's" at the time, I had no way of knowing that he wanted to be exclusive. But maybe he's right and at some point it IS just assumed...I hope not, but it could be. If that's the way it is, it's sort of stupid because you could end up with the situation that I just described.

I can just add that question to the question about how to broach the subject of sex and be totally confused. It seems as though the longer we go without doing that the more likely it is that it needs to be discussed. Damn. Oh well, if that's the way it is, fine.

I know one thing for sure, it's a sober decision. I wouldn't make that decision after I had ANYTHING to drink, even one beer. It's not as though I go out and get drunk, but even one beer could sway my better judgement enough to make me do something stupid.

When he comes over here or I go to his place, I don't drink. I only drink if I'm out at a drinking place. He did bring over a bottle of wine that day I made the lasagna but other than that, I'm completely sober when we're close to my bed. Thank goodness for that.

Tonight I'm making a man's meal, country fried steak. All men love that, even my son. I make mashed potatoes with it so my sister will be happy. Tonight everyone will be happy with dinner if I don't burn it. Well, I have to cook and clean a bit if I'm going to have a guy over to not sleep with again.