Weird Guy,You're a regular Alan Alda.
But is that a good thing?
I can't decide.
Neither can I. The only thing I can think of when I hear Alan Alda is Mash. I'm not a wacky wartime doctor, so I don't really get the connection.I guess only you know whether or not you were insulting or complimenting me.
Well, Guy, I can tell you. There was a time, about the 1980’s, when Alan Alda was considered to be the perfect man, to be compared to him was to say you were a very sensitive man. So, what this person was basically saying was that you sound too good to be true. I don’t blame them, if I didn’t know you the way I did, I would question you as well. Especially considering that most men are not as open and honest as you are. So, technically, this was not an insult or a compliment. It was just an observation. But in actuality, it is a compliment, unless of course, you hate Alan Alda.
...so I walked into the bathroom-only to find him naked-jerking off to my Cosmo! I slammed the door shut-AND HE DIDNT STOP!! I felt a mix of emotions. I wanted to laugh at how ridiculous it all was. I wanted to cry and felt hurt because he wouldn’t even touch me, but he would do that with a magazine?!?! I felt worthless, because it seemed almost disrespectful in some strange way that he didn’t even stop....
No, it’s not us, honey, it’s not us at all. These guys are just pathetic...Cosmo?...Slanted television reception? These guys don’t have the ability to feel much more than animal urges, like I said before, and they use the women in their lives as toilets for their sperm. Be glad that for this night anyway, this man didn’t use you.
"I thought I was being really good last time we were out by letting you put your arm around me so you could show me off like a trophy."
That says so much more about her than it ever could say about you.
You know what? I could accept this if it's a phone number I got at a bar or if I went on one date. But this was a woman I went on 4 or 5 dates with. She could have at least written an email saying that she wasn't interested.
You know, it’s stuff like this that gets you called Alan Alda, any woman could have written it.
We women have seen more of the type of guy that Purp is referring to and guys like Vex so we are little bit jaded when we hear one that sounds as though he can “feel our pain”. Thus, the Alan Alda reference. Although I think we went a little overboard with our appreciation of that type of man, I like to think that somewhere, the guys are getting it together and starting to think a little bit more like we do. Not in a “woman’s way” but more in a human way.
I think that we have seen men starting to think of us as something other than sex objects (not Vex or Purps dude, but a lot of other ones.) ever since AIDS came about. I am not sure if it had anything to do with AIDS or if it is just a coincidence. But, it does seem as though a lot of men are trying anyway.
But I think it’s a little too late for guys my age. That’s unfortunate but I can see that the younger men don’t seem to be as disrespectful as they use to be. You can tell that you were raised by a woman, Guy. Most men would never come out and speak their feelings like you do. The things you say about your father and about the women that you have encountered make you sound very vulnerable and I just don’t think that a lot of men are ready for that.
Apparently, we women aren’t really ready to buy it either. But I hope that I am right and that the younger guys are growing up with a little bit more respect for women. After all, every one of us is someone’s sister, mother, daughter or niece. The only reason that I have the faith that I do in men is because I am the mother of two good men, the sister of three and the daughter of one. So, I have met six decent men. Those six give me faith that there are more like them. Of course, then the freaks like Vex and Purp’s dude are always there so we have to be just a little bit careful.
And you are right, it’s a shame that there are men who make us feel as though we need to keep our visits confined to public places. I don’t like having to say that I will meet a man somewhere. It would be so much easier to have them come to my home and pick me up than to take two vehicles. But I’ll be damned if I’m gonna turn around and see another whacko standing in the doorway of my bedroom. I knew he wasn’t going to get violent, after all, my son was there. It was just too creepy. I don’t know how else to explain it.
Well, I am going to go out and laugh at some karioki (sp?) singers. See ya when I get back.
Meg
But is that a good thing?
I can't decide.
Neither can I. The only thing I can think of when I hear Alan Alda is Mash. I'm not a wacky wartime doctor, so I don't really get the connection.I guess only you know whether or not you were insulting or complimenting me.
Well, Guy, I can tell you. There was a time, about the 1980’s, when Alan Alda was considered to be the perfect man, to be compared to him was to say you were a very sensitive man. So, what this person was basically saying was that you sound too good to be true. I don’t blame them, if I didn’t know you the way I did, I would question you as well. Especially considering that most men are not as open and honest as you are. So, technically, this was not an insult or a compliment. It was just an observation. But in actuality, it is a compliment, unless of course, you hate Alan Alda.
...so I walked into the bathroom-only to find him naked-jerking off to my Cosmo! I slammed the door shut-AND HE DIDNT STOP!! I felt a mix of emotions. I wanted to laugh at how ridiculous it all was. I wanted to cry and felt hurt because he wouldn’t even touch me, but he would do that with a magazine?!?! I felt worthless, because it seemed almost disrespectful in some strange way that he didn’t even stop....
No, it’s not us, honey, it’s not us at all. These guys are just pathetic...Cosmo?...Slanted television reception? These guys don’t have the ability to feel much more than animal urges, like I said before, and they use the women in their lives as toilets for their sperm. Be glad that for this night anyway, this man didn’t use you.
"I thought I was being really good last time we were out by letting you put your arm around me so you could show me off like a trophy."
That says so much more about her than it ever could say about you.
You know what? I could accept this if it's a phone number I got at a bar or if I went on one date. But this was a woman I went on 4 or 5 dates with. She could have at least written an email saying that she wasn't interested.
You know, it’s stuff like this that gets you called Alan Alda, any woman could have written it.
We women have seen more of the type of guy that Purp is referring to and guys like Vex so we are little bit jaded when we hear one that sounds as though he can “feel our pain”. Thus, the Alan Alda reference. Although I think we went a little overboard with our appreciation of that type of man, I like to think that somewhere, the guys are getting it together and starting to think a little bit more like we do. Not in a “woman’s way” but more in a human way.
I think that we have seen men starting to think of us as something other than sex objects (not Vex or Purps dude, but a lot of other ones.) ever since AIDS came about. I am not sure if it had anything to do with AIDS or if it is just a coincidence. But, it does seem as though a lot of men are trying anyway.
But I think it’s a little too late for guys my age. That’s unfortunate but I can see that the younger men don’t seem to be as disrespectful as they use to be. You can tell that you were raised by a woman, Guy. Most men would never come out and speak their feelings like you do. The things you say about your father and about the women that you have encountered make you sound very vulnerable and I just don’t think that a lot of men are ready for that.
Apparently, we women aren’t really ready to buy it either. But I hope that I am right and that the younger guys are growing up with a little bit more respect for women. After all, every one of us is someone’s sister, mother, daughter or niece. The only reason that I have the faith that I do in men is because I am the mother of two good men, the sister of three and the daughter of one. So, I have met six decent men. Those six give me faith that there are more like them. Of course, then the freaks like Vex and Purp’s dude are always there so we have to be just a little bit careful.
And you are right, it’s a shame that there are men who make us feel as though we need to keep our visits confined to public places. I don’t like having to say that I will meet a man somewhere. It would be so much easier to have them come to my home and pick me up than to take two vehicles. But I’ll be damned if I’m gonna turn around and see another whacko standing in the doorway of my bedroom. I knew he wasn’t going to get violent, after all, my son was there. It was just too creepy. I don’t know how else to explain it.
Well, I am going to go out and laugh at some karioki (sp?) singers. See ya when I get back.
Meg
posted by Meg Kelso | 4:46 PM
1 Comments:
Meg, pardon me for non-sequiting here, but I came up with a name for your post-divorce blog if you rename it. It would involve your using another variation on your name, though:
Perils of Peg
TWG, Alan Alda is one of my favorites, not just because of his M*A*S*H days, but also because of some of his movie roles. If someone calls you that, take it as a supreme compliment!
Y'all have a good weekend, now, hear?
Anne
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