It appears as though...
...Vex still thinks that he can be 30 days late on the alimony without being in contempt. I called my attorney Friday to let him know that Vex hasn't sent me the medical insurance card, the dental insurance card nor has he returned my passport and title to my car...all in addition to being late on the alimony.
Today he told me that Vex's counsel has not returned his phone calls and to give it until tomorrow before I go to the court and file contempt charges. So, I will.
I wouldn't hold my breathe waiting for her call. Vex has always been cheap, when I married him and moved into his apartment, he had a box of Pat-ti-oh's in his freezer...they couldn't call them meat. He fried them and put them on buns like they were hamburgers. Apparently, he shops for attorneys like he shops for food.
In discussing her and her tactics with another attorney, we came to the conclusion that she couldn't be as stupid as she appears so, in our humble opinions, she must think that my divorce is one big game. For example, in the paperwork that said that Vex and I would be filing jointly, the section about any "tax liability" was worded quite carefully to avoid saying that there WAS a tax debt while she and Vex openly said that there was one in mediation. As a matter of fact, it was the first thing he said when he walked in and sat down..."We owe back taxes and I want her to file jointly so that we can pay down the debt." That was a lie.
The artful wording of the legal document that was to be presented to a judge never made mention of the "marital assest" that was a $2,500+ refund that Vex had no intention of sharing with me. And THEN...they e-file without my signature! H&R Block apologized all over, but their tax dude lied to me...he outright lied to me. On April 14th, I found out that they had e-filed without my signature on April 7th. I called the IRS and did what they told me to do...I filed my own tax return by regular mail. I received a tax refund that I wouldn't have received if I had filed jointly. So, he not only wanted to steal my half of the return, he wanted to deny me my own chance at getting back a few bucks. And on top of ALL of that, he claimed my 22 year old son who works and filed his own return...from his home in Chicago.
Mediation was a surprise, I thought we had an agreement. I had signed a paper that gave me $800 a month for the first year, then $700 a month for the second and so on for 5 years. Were they happy that I agreed to that? Nope. They wanted to go to mediation.
Now, I get $800 a month for 5 years...Period. And, Vex has to pay my medical insurance for 3 years. And, he had to pay the dental bill that wouldn't have been incurred had he given me the insurance cards. And, he has to pay a check that I wrote to the grocery store after he left so that the last bit of money that I had deposited into the checking account would go for the most important thing, food. He did something...I don't know what, and the check bounced. And, there's something that I am forgetting...there were 5 things on the list. (The mediator told me to write a list of 8 things that I wanted. Then, she told me to scratch off 3. I did. I got the 5 things left on the list.)
So anyway, last week my attorney called me in to sign the final papers that Vex had signed and his attorney had prepared. In it, it says that I am to receive $800 a month. But then, she put in there that I will be paid $369 and some change on the first and the fifteenth of every month. That's NOT $800 a month. (And Vex doesn't even get paid like that...this is not even convenient for him, he gets paid every other Thursday. You tell me that someone isn't playing games here.) I didn't get past that point before my attorney took it back and told me not to sign it. So...who knows what else is in there? Or isn't in there?
Now, that's bad enough. But those are only his civil matters (Except for the pending IRS investigation...I hope for his sake he didn't cash that check.) We can't forget his little anger management problem now, can we?
He denied that he ever touched me for months. But last summer, he consented to the restraining order although he had an attorney at his side. He allowed the restraining order to be incorporated into the divorce without hesitation...it's there for posterity. Insistent on his "innocence", he demanded his right to a trial by jury. And then he plea bargained his way out of that jury trial.
It takes a lot of man/woman hours to handle all of this. I hope Vex has a coupon.
Now, I don't want to see this yahoo go to jail, but I'll be damned if I am going to continue being shit on. If I wanted to be "vindictive", I would have filed the contempt charges already. I'm waiting until tomorrow. I want those insurance cards, the title to my car, my passport and I want the alimony brought up to date. But...do you know what else would be nice?
A shred of respect.
But...if that were an option, we wouldn't be here...would we?
Meg
...Vex still thinks that he can be 30 days late on the alimony without being in contempt. I called my attorney Friday to let him know that Vex hasn't sent me the medical insurance card, the dental insurance card nor has he returned my passport and title to my car...all in addition to being late on the alimony.
Today he told me that Vex's counsel has not returned his phone calls and to give it until tomorrow before I go to the court and file contempt charges. So, I will.
I wouldn't hold my breathe waiting for her call. Vex has always been cheap, when I married him and moved into his apartment, he had a box of Pat-ti-oh's in his freezer...they couldn't call them meat. He fried them and put them on buns like they were hamburgers. Apparently, he shops for attorneys like he shops for food.
In discussing her and her tactics with another attorney, we came to the conclusion that she couldn't be as stupid as she appears so, in our humble opinions, she must think that my divorce is one big game. For example, in the paperwork that said that Vex and I would be filing jointly, the section about any "tax liability" was worded quite carefully to avoid saying that there WAS a tax debt while she and Vex openly said that there was one in mediation. As a matter of fact, it was the first thing he said when he walked in and sat down..."We owe back taxes and I want her to file jointly so that we can pay down the debt." That was a lie.
The artful wording of the legal document that was to be presented to a judge never made mention of the "marital assest" that was a $2,500+ refund that Vex had no intention of sharing with me. And THEN...they e-file without my signature! H&R Block apologized all over, but their tax dude lied to me...he outright lied to me. On April 14th, I found out that they had e-filed without my signature on April 7th. I called the IRS and did what they told me to do...I filed my own tax return by regular mail. I received a tax refund that I wouldn't have received if I had filed jointly. So, he not only wanted to steal my half of the return, he wanted to deny me my own chance at getting back a few bucks. And on top of ALL of that, he claimed my 22 year old son who works and filed his own return...from his home in Chicago.
Mediation was a surprise, I thought we had an agreement. I had signed a paper that gave me $800 a month for the first year, then $700 a month for the second and so on for 5 years. Were they happy that I agreed to that? Nope. They wanted to go to mediation.
Now, I get $800 a month for 5 years...Period. And, Vex has to pay my medical insurance for 3 years. And, he had to pay the dental bill that wouldn't have been incurred had he given me the insurance cards. And, he has to pay a check that I wrote to the grocery store after he left so that the last bit of money that I had deposited into the checking account would go for the most important thing, food. He did something...I don't know what, and the check bounced. And, there's something that I am forgetting...there were 5 things on the list. (The mediator told me to write a list of 8 things that I wanted. Then, she told me to scratch off 3. I did. I got the 5 things left on the list.)
So anyway, last week my attorney called me in to sign the final papers that Vex had signed and his attorney had prepared. In it, it says that I am to receive $800 a month. But then, she put in there that I will be paid $369 and some change on the first and the fifteenth of every month. That's NOT $800 a month. (And Vex doesn't even get paid like that...this is not even convenient for him, he gets paid every other Thursday. You tell me that someone isn't playing games here.) I didn't get past that point before my attorney took it back and told me not to sign it. So...who knows what else is in there? Or isn't in there?
Now, that's bad enough. But those are only his civil matters (Except for the pending IRS investigation...I hope for his sake he didn't cash that check.) We can't forget his little anger management problem now, can we?
He denied that he ever touched me for months. But last summer, he consented to the restraining order although he had an attorney at his side. He allowed the restraining order to be incorporated into the divorce without hesitation...it's there for posterity. Insistent on his "innocence", he demanded his right to a trial by jury. And then he plea bargained his way out of that jury trial.
It takes a lot of man/woman hours to handle all of this. I hope Vex has a coupon.
Now, I don't want to see this yahoo go to jail, but I'll be damned if I am going to continue being shit on. If I wanted to be "vindictive", I would have filed the contempt charges already. I'm waiting until tomorrow. I want those insurance cards, the title to my car, my passport and I want the alimony brought up to date. But...do you know what else would be nice?
A shred of respect.
But...if that were an option, we wouldn't be here...would we?
Meg
posted by Meg Kelso | 3:09 PM
8 Comments:
Christ woman. You're probably making more than him now, and ya dont do shit. Funny thing is, he's gotta claim the taxes on the money he gives you. Aint that grand.
Fkn women
he should've thought about that before he threw an end table at her and beat her and while he was screwing some piece of trash.
Thank you Kristan... you are quite right. And the angry dude was wrong...he DOES get to deduct it from his income tax and I DO have to pay taxes on it.
These guys are only going by the one post, they don't know the entire story like you do. They just popped in directly to ONE post...not the entire blog. So, they can spout off a bit, I don't mind:):):)
Meg
money-grubber? LOLOLOLOL.
But you know what? Now that I think of it, it DOES say in there that he was guilty of domestic violence, so what the heck are you guys upset at? Defending one of your own are ya? You know, that anger management thing may be worth a shot.
Not to mention he up and left during a time he knew your health was failing and you COULDN'T work. So much for in sickness and in health. He made his bed... and I don't feel the least bit sorry seeing him lie in it.
Normally I disagree with alimony because I think it is sorely abused, but in your case I do not see that. Just my take on the matter.
Oh yes... and as to the uh "*you* chose bit" we all make mistakes... some are just worse than others... better that she realized it now before she caught some despicable disease from him, or he managed to kill her in one of his fits of anger. You know... hindsight... 20/20.
Yep, all I asked of him was to wait until I could go back to work. Or, maybe, he could have left me a car. Or, maybe he could have left me gas money. But, instead, he left before I even started my chemotherapy and he threw that table at me 3 days after the surgery to remove the tumor. The struggle had blood dripping from my incision and the cops thought he had slit my throat. (The tumor was on my parathyroid gland.)
I didn't need to testify at all, I read the police report. I guess that maybe he did too, perhaps that's why he decided to plea it down.
Meg
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