When my son was a year old...

...and I married a man other than his father, I let my son call him Daddy. But, that was only because his biological father had checked out, never to be heard from again. My other kids called the man Daddy and he certainly was acting the part. So I didn't mind.

But, every so often, starting from before my son could understand the words that I was saying, I would tell him, "Daddy Mark isn't your first daddy. You have another man who was your daddy before Daddy Mark. But Daddy Mark wants to be your daddy so I'm letting you call him Daddy." I repeated that at least once a month and one day the kid just understood what that meant. It wasn't a shock, he had grown up hearing those words over and over again. I never had to sit him down and rock his world by telling him about Daddy Number 1...he always knew about that guy.

Luckily, he didn't suffer too much. At least not when it came to having a father. He had one. You can't tell Mark or William that they aren't father and son and I would certainly never try. I could have had William call Rick Daddy but it wouldn't have been right and I never did that. If you care about your children, you don't change Mommys and Daddys like Hollywood changes spouses.

Unless a parent has died or abdicated their parental responsibilities completely, they are either Mommy or Daddy. Period. NO responsible adult who cares for the mental health of a child more than they care about their own ego would allow a child to call them Mommy or Daddy unless it was appropriate.

Speaking of ego, Tom Cruise has decided to encourage Nicole Kidman's children to call the empty headed dolt that he married "Mom". This without Nicole's approval. This even though it is a mean and hurtful thing to do. This because the couch jumping cult member is far too egotistical to put his children's emotional health ahead of his own obsessional need to be an asshole.

And the little Stepford Wife that he married is too immature to see what a hideous thing she's doing. Not that she cares about Nicole's feelings, but how will the foolish little brat feel when Tom tells his NEXT wife to call Katie's child Mommy? Perhaps Tom's next wife will be as pliable as Katie AND do his bidding without thought like Katie.

Is no one in this entire situation thoughtful enough to consider the kids here? How will they feel when they eventually realize the pain that they themselves caused their REAL mother? Who in that self absorbed household will teach those kids the coping mechanisms to handle their own guilt in a non-destructive manner? It's parenting like this that gave us the current crop of Hollywood trash that keeps our jaws dropped and heads shaking back and forth. I can't wait to see what a great job Tom and Katie do messing up the psyche of Sura, Suru, Suree, or whatever the kid's name is.

If Katie were 18, I might not be so disgusted by her behavior. But the nit wit is 29 years old. That's old enough to know that allowing those kids to call her "Mom" is a bad thing. This fool not only doesn't grasp that, she actually thinks it's worthy of bragging:

"His children are incredible, really smart and kind. They call me 'Mom'."

Kind people don't go out of their way to hurt other people. Tom and Katie have conspired to hurt Nicole and in doing so, they are making those kids pay the price. This is a case of turning the kids into weapons with which they attack the other parent. They have even gone so far as to teach the children to call Nicole by her first name. They may deny it but kids don't suddenly start calling their parents by the first name without a reason. If they did, both parents should take that as an opportunity to teach the children about respect and consideration.

Tom and Katie have chosen to live in their own little fantasy world and on their planet there is nobody else. They do what they want to do when they want to do it and the consequences, not to mention karma, be damned. There's nothing smart nor kind about that.