Good morning!

OK, now I have pontificated upon what NOT to do. I thought I might mention a few things that are very nice to do. Most of us are very easy to please, we are usually pretty happy just to be loved. I've heard it said that women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex. So, you have to figure out what love means to your woman. Some of us are cryptic, and some of us aren't but I think that most of us would tell you exactly what it means to us if you asked. So ask. Ask what you can do to make her feel as loved as she is. Tell her you don't want to ever look back and say, "If only I had done more for you." But, on your own you could:

Bring her coffee in the morning before she gets out of bed.

Offer a backrub after the day is over. (And EVERY SINGLE TIME she says, "My back is killing me.")

Surprise her with flowers, delivered to her, for absolutely no reason at all. (Can you imagine her co-workers telling her what a great guy she has?)

Call her unexpededly just to say "Hi, I was thinking about you and had to call."

Demand that she take a day off and take care of her "chores" for that day leaving her to be free to do whatever she wants to do.

Call her, tell her to dress up and go to a local nightspot. Then go there yourself and pick her up like you've never met her before.

When shopping, be alert to little things that she would enjoy and take them to her. (Pay for them first.)

On a fine spring day, make her a little flower patch in your yard.

Pitch in while she's cooking dinner.

Ask her if she knows how much you love her.

There are a million and four things you can do that are not at all costly, no matter what currency is involved. And they are ALL good investments. A woman who knows she is loved is just plain better in bed. She has less to worry about in the self esteem department and can then take more time to feel and enjoy you. When we don't feel loved, we get pretty worried about it and we can spend a great deal of time wondering what we could do to make you love us.

Rick once told me that he missed the self confidant woman that I used to be. He forgot something. I was self confidant because I felt loved. When he stopped doing nice little things for me, I was no longer so confidant and I was worried all the time. He didn't like me and I didn't like me much either.

I'm not saying that she should be dependent upon you for her happiness, just that if you want a more carefree, responsive wife, make sure she hasn't anything to care about except making you a happy husband. It pays off in dividends you never thought about. I promise.

Meg