Meg, I thought I should clarify on the sports comment.. to be clear on this what I really mean here are men that sit in front of the tube with sports. I call these guys football duds. Now it's just too damn bad that this might offend the widdle feewings of a few men reading here. The bottom line is, in my personal anecdotal experience I have NEVER had a good man who was a sports dud, they've all been the same. I see televised sports as the #1 indicatorof problems with a man, period. When I decided that I did not want any man like that, and that I wanted a man who hated sports as much as I do, it was like the assholes disappeared overnight. I'll tell you what else goes hand in hand with this crap, and that's the porn. You can bet if a man is calling phone sex or looking at porn he's also a sports dud on the couch in front of the TV with bad personal hygiene and a cheating heart. And I say this as a former phone sex operator people!!! When I worked in the phone sex business we could predict our traffic and plan our business based on whether or not "the big game" was on TV that weekend or night. EVERYTHING in the business in regards to traffic planning was made like this:1. Game on TV (gonna be slow)2. The Stuporbowl (we take the day off, no business at all)3. Family Holidays, (men are with their wives and families, slow traffic)4. Business always picks up during tax refund season 5. Business picks up after football and basketball have gone away.Ok, and here's something else, the men who call phone sex are just like Rick. JUST LIKE HIM. Take it from someone who knows. When I worked in the biz I talked to so many heartbroken wives on the phone who had their credit cards used by these guys it was insane. THEY ARE ALL MARRIED LOSERS!!!

Dear Fannie,

I believe you and I am sure that you are speaking from your own personal experience. That is ALWAYS valid. My experience was different but hey, we all make our own rules and go with what works for us. Don't ever feel as though you need to prove anything to anyone...it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, your experience is your experience. I speak from my own experience and I don't feel as though I need to prove anything, I put it out there and I take my lumps if I must.

That being said, I think that perhaps men in general just like sports. Home Depot is empty during the Super Bowl as well. Rick never cared much about any sports unless the Vikings made it to the play-offs. I had another husband (I can’t believe I have let him off so easily, I imagine I will get to him someday) and he only watched games that he had money on. Do you want to hear something funny? I LOVE sports! I am the biggest Cubs fan you will ever meet, my first crush was on Bobby Hull (until I saw a picture of his bald, toothless self) and I dated a quarterback for the Bears. I am totally into baseball, football and hockey. When I was a little girl, I would RUN home from school to catch the end of the Cubs games and I remember wearing a hidden radio with an ear plug to school during the 69 baseball season. I was 11. I used to take my allowance and catch a bus to Wrigley Field to watch the Cubs play and my parents never knew. I would even go sneak into the ballpark on off days to watch the players practice. I would sit on the first base dug out and chat with the players, Cubs, Phillies, Mets, Cardinals...all of them. So, I see the appeal of sports and to me, a guy who was into sports would be a plus because it would be something we could enjoy together.

I am absolutely convinced that you are sincere and I am positive that you are not the only woman who feels like you do. That is why I put your last comment up here. There are some very decent guys who read this blog (if there are any ladies near Monument Colorado, do I have a guy for you!) and I think that they read it to learn about women. You are a woman and you have shared your experience with the men who are reading. They will most likely not appreciate your opinion, but I think that is because they are mostly good men. Whack jobs like Rick wouldn’t bother reading something like this because they are far too self involved to care a bit about a woman’s opinion.

Personally, I appreciate it. I said in the beginning that I wanted to learn from other people and I meant it. I have read and absorbed what you have written and I am glad that you took the time to write it. And, as annoyed as they might be by your opinion, I think that they are the type of men who are open to hearing what different women think.

So, are there any other women out there that have identified a trait that they find to be revealing about men? And men, what do you have to say about us? Inquiring minds want to know.

Meg