OK...
...I got it. The person who wrote the post that was deleted has e-mailed me and it is safe for me to address her subject at this point, her anonymity is ensured.
I found her comment intriguing. She wondered what effects that pornography would have on GIRLS as opposed to boys. She though that perhaps her early introduction to porn had something to do with the fact that she HAD to fantasize and couldn't just “go with the flow” of it all. I get it.
Yeah, it is quite a bit of work for us. We have entire scenarios going on in there and if you don’t ask us, you may miss some good stories.
I wonder if she is right, can you get something caught in your mind at such a young age that it becomes almost a fetish...somehow necessary for you to enjoy sex?
I never saw many dirty magazines when I was growing up, if my father had them, he kept them well hidden. I found more by having brothers than anything else. Heck, when I was a kid, National Geographic and the underwear section of the Sears Catalogue were pornographic to me.
The point that I wanted to make was that there is such a dichotomy between what is expected of us as women and how pornography can impacts us as little girls.
When we are forming our perceptions of ourselves, we are susceptible to all kinds of influences. When we are trying to figure out how to be nice young ladies, we get quite a mixed message. It comes from pornography and from society in general. Women are in charge of applying the sexual brakes. It seems as though the easiest way to teach a young girl to do that is to teach them that sex is BAD. We do get that message early in life and then when it is time to say yes, we can feel so guilty somewhere so deep inside that we have to come up with elaborate fantasies instead of just being able to “go with the flow.”
Do I think it has to do with pornography? Yes. And so many other things that you see whenever you look around.
I was serious about the “fantasy training”, you really can train yourself to fantasize more “in the moment”. It takes a long time but it also took a long time to develop those patterns. We all have fantasies that evolve, just take control over the evolution of your fantasies.
It not only will allow you to do what you want to do, which is to feel more of what is going on and therefore lesson the need for the fantasy in the first place, it will also help to lose any fantasies that, for whatever reason, you are uncomfortable with. So, either way, you can learn to change that, you have the rest of your life to practice. You’ll get it right.
OK...now I am going to go back to searching for those television quotes. I’m getting annoyed with this.
Meg
Big D, I've got a disc with some shots you might like, comment again and I'll show them to you.
Oh, I see you've been back again. HI!
...I got it. The person who wrote the post that was deleted has e-mailed me and it is safe for me to address her subject at this point, her anonymity is ensured.
I found her comment intriguing. She wondered what effects that pornography would have on GIRLS as opposed to boys. She though that perhaps her early introduction to porn had something to do with the fact that she HAD to fantasize and couldn't just “go with the flow” of it all. I get it.
Yeah, it is quite a bit of work for us. We have entire scenarios going on in there and if you don’t ask us, you may miss some good stories.
I wonder if she is right, can you get something caught in your mind at such a young age that it becomes almost a fetish...somehow necessary for you to enjoy sex?
I never saw many dirty magazines when I was growing up, if my father had them, he kept them well hidden. I found more by having brothers than anything else. Heck, when I was a kid, National Geographic and the underwear section of the Sears Catalogue were pornographic to me.
The point that I wanted to make was that there is such a dichotomy between what is expected of us as women and how pornography can impacts us as little girls.
When we are forming our perceptions of ourselves, we are susceptible to all kinds of influences. When we are trying to figure out how to be nice young ladies, we get quite a mixed message. It comes from pornography and from society in general. Women are in charge of applying the sexual brakes. It seems as though the easiest way to teach a young girl to do that is to teach them that sex is BAD. We do get that message early in life and then when it is time to say yes, we can feel so guilty somewhere so deep inside that we have to come up with elaborate fantasies instead of just being able to “go with the flow.”
Do I think it has to do with pornography? Yes. And so many other things that you see whenever you look around.
I was serious about the “fantasy training”, you really can train yourself to fantasize more “in the moment”. It takes a long time but it also took a long time to develop those patterns. We all have fantasies that evolve, just take control over the evolution of your fantasies.
It not only will allow you to do what you want to do, which is to feel more of what is going on and therefore lesson the need for the fantasy in the first place, it will also help to lose any fantasies that, for whatever reason, you are uncomfortable with. So, either way, you can learn to change that, you have the rest of your life to practice. You’ll get it right.
OK...now I am going to go back to searching for those television quotes. I’m getting annoyed with this.
Meg
Big D, I've got a disc with some shots you might like, comment again and I'll show them to you.
Oh, I see you've been back again. HI!
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