How to leave a dreadful relationship
Most of our lives have been based on decisions made in our past. The size of the decision doesn't matter, the smallest of them can have you change tracks and send you reeling into places that are extremely difficult to exit. My first impression of Rick was an extremely negative one. But for some reason, his constant availability got to me. If I had stuck to my convictions, my life would be totally different. I can't change that but I can be more thoughtful of decisions I make today.
Most of us really DO know the difference between right and wrong yet we still do things that we know are wrong...at least for ourselves. If we could do the right thing when we were 6 years old, we can certainly do it as adults. The rules may have been easier then, but then again, we're smarter now.
So often we drift through life without a plan and circumstances occur beyond our control. If you are following a plan, you aren't likely to be swept away by life...especially if you're working toward a goal that is important to you.
Some people who are particularly manipulative are aware that a healthy stick is harder to break than a malnourished stick. They won't bother with situations that aren't easy for them to control. Put yourself first and keep yourself healthy. Anyone who has a problem with you taking care of yourself is not someone you need in your life. They're taking care of their own wants and needs at your expense...don't allow your life's blood to nourish someone who is more concerned with their own goals. That's what you call a parasite. Even the person paying all of the bills can be a parasite on one whom he wishes to manipulate.
Lastly, what would you advise your best friend to do under the same circumstances? Give them some advice. And then take it, you should be your own best friend.