Well...
...that was a dumb movie. I just watched J.I. Jane and for a minute, I thought that Demi Moore had actually made a movie without crying. Damn, I was wrong. She blubbered in one of the very last scenes. She almost did it, but just couldn't get through one whole movie without crying.
Actually, I don't know how any of the people in the movie kept a straight face. It was so stupid...and predictable. I couldn't believe the way they stole from Top Gun, the country relied upon students to save the day. If I were a man, I would have found that movie particularly offensive. The country would have been screwed twice if it weren't for Ms. Moore. The stupid men couldn't have figured anything out without her.
Rick used to bring home the lamest movies in Blockbuster, I don't know how he left that one out. I guess if no one did any karate chopping, it wasn't worth renting. Moore did look like she was about to karate chop the Master Chief, but she just kicked him in the cahones instead. Then, she let him get up. That was stupid. If I ever got a guy down, the last thing I'd do is let him get up. Oh well.
Rick hasn't called yet. I don't sit around waiting for him to call anymore, but I do make mental notes of the promises that he doesn't keep. I didn't ask him to call, he just said that he would. Still, he lies for no reason at all.
My father told me once that people lie for one of four reasons and I can only remember two of them, to make themselves look better and to get out of trouble.
Whatever the other two were, they were real reasons, not something stupid like people lie because they can't help it. Rick lied for a variety of reasons for sure, but he didn't have to have one at all. I guess some people just lie because they're so used to it that it comes naturally to them. He would lie as casually as most people say "Hi!".
Lying was so imbedded in is mind that he would answer a question with a lie before he stopped to see if it made any sense. I guess no one ever told him things like, "It will always be worse if you lie." So, he certainly didn't tell his kids things like that and they lie as easily as he does. It bothers him when they lie to him so I don't see why he does that. You'd think that sooner or later, it would occur to him that he CAN tell the truth and just deal with the chips wherever they land.
I have a brother and sister who lie pretty easily too. My parents divorced when I was grown and out of the house. Their marriage was pretty stable when I was little so they pretty much raised the kids. The two younger ones missed something when the marriage fell apart and you can see what not having stable parents did to them.
I think that the biggest mistake that I ever made was to leave my second husband when the kids were so little. The marriage was certainly over, he cheated with anything that would hold still. But, I didn't do myself any favors by leaving and I certainly didn't help the kids at all. Looking back, I should have just dealt with the marriage and stayed until the kids grew up. That happens so quickly and I owed it to them.
I know most people would say that the kids wouldn't have been happy if I stayed for the wrong reasons, but they weren't happy with the way things turned out either. So, I think that staying with their father would have been the lesser of two evils. I was actually thinking that we both deserved to be happy but if I had thought about the kids happiness instead, they would have done better. I would probably have been alone now too, but I would have been happier knowing that the kids had a stable life.
Who knows...they say things happen the way they're supposed to happen. I guess that's true. If it is, that means that something good will come out of all of this and I'm still waiting to see what it is. You know, I used to think about the fact that we are, each, the result of the survival of the fittest. We're the children of the strongest in our family. Generations ago, people struggled to survive and we are the result of their struggle. That's supposed to make a person feel stronger. But, sometimes when I look back, I see the people in my family who failed, not the stronger ones. I wonder who it is that my descendants will see when they look back.
...that was a dumb movie. I just watched J.I. Jane and for a minute, I thought that Demi Moore had actually made a movie without crying. Damn, I was wrong. She blubbered in one of the very last scenes. She almost did it, but just couldn't get through one whole movie without crying.
Actually, I don't know how any of the people in the movie kept a straight face. It was so stupid...and predictable. I couldn't believe the way they stole from Top Gun, the country relied upon students to save the day. If I were a man, I would have found that movie particularly offensive. The country would have been screwed twice if it weren't for Ms. Moore. The stupid men couldn't have figured anything out without her.
Rick used to bring home the lamest movies in Blockbuster, I don't know how he left that one out. I guess if no one did any karate chopping, it wasn't worth renting. Moore did look like she was about to karate chop the Master Chief, but she just kicked him in the cahones instead. Then, she let him get up. That was stupid. If I ever got a guy down, the last thing I'd do is let him get up. Oh well.
Rick hasn't called yet. I don't sit around waiting for him to call anymore, but I do make mental notes of the promises that he doesn't keep. I didn't ask him to call, he just said that he would. Still, he lies for no reason at all.
My father told me once that people lie for one of four reasons and I can only remember two of them, to make themselves look better and to get out of trouble.
Whatever the other two were, they were real reasons, not something stupid like people lie because they can't help it. Rick lied for a variety of reasons for sure, but he didn't have to have one at all. I guess some people just lie because they're so used to it that it comes naturally to them. He would lie as casually as most people say "Hi!".
Lying was so imbedded in is mind that he would answer a question with a lie before he stopped to see if it made any sense. I guess no one ever told him things like, "It will always be worse if you lie." So, he certainly didn't tell his kids things like that and they lie as easily as he does. It bothers him when they lie to him so I don't see why he does that. You'd think that sooner or later, it would occur to him that he CAN tell the truth and just deal with the chips wherever they land.
I have a brother and sister who lie pretty easily too. My parents divorced when I was grown and out of the house. Their marriage was pretty stable when I was little so they pretty much raised the kids. The two younger ones missed something when the marriage fell apart and you can see what not having stable parents did to them.
I think that the biggest mistake that I ever made was to leave my second husband when the kids were so little. The marriage was certainly over, he cheated with anything that would hold still. But, I didn't do myself any favors by leaving and I certainly didn't help the kids at all. Looking back, I should have just dealt with the marriage and stayed until the kids grew up. That happens so quickly and I owed it to them.
I know most people would say that the kids wouldn't have been happy if I stayed for the wrong reasons, but they weren't happy with the way things turned out either. So, I think that staying with their father would have been the lesser of two evils. I was actually thinking that we both deserved to be happy but if I had thought about the kids happiness instead, they would have done better. I would probably have been alone now too, but I would have been happier knowing that the kids had a stable life.
Who knows...they say things happen the way they're supposed to happen. I guess that's true. If it is, that means that something good will come out of all of this and I'm still waiting to see what it is. You know, I used to think about the fact that we are, each, the result of the survival of the fittest. We're the children of the strongest in our family. Generations ago, people struggled to survive and we are the result of their struggle. That's supposed to make a person feel stronger. But, sometimes when I look back, I see the people in my family who failed, not the stronger ones. I wonder who it is that my descendants will see when they look back.
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