My house is all clean now...
...and I’m waiting for my father to get here with his ex-wife. If you were reading last spring you might remember that I had a big problem with her when she came to “visit her cats” and ended up staying for a few weeks. She will only be here long enough to sleep and eat brunch on their way to Florida so I can tolerate her for that long.
I do worry about my father though, he is 71 and a HALF! He has no business caring for a woman so sick but I think he’s probably lonely enough to want to do it. He was trying to get me to move to Florida which I had considered but if she’s going to be there requiring a bunch of care, I don’t know if I would be in so much of a hurry to move there.
She has Alzheimer’s on top of a few other serious illnesses so she certainly is a handful. Being a nurse, I get called for all illnesses and I don’t mind when it’s family, but I have never really known this woman, she and my dad were married when I lived in another state and our entire relationship consists of a few short visits plus her extended stay of last spring.
One night when I was in bed, there was a loud knock on my door and I looked up and just had time to turn my head toward the door when it opened. When it did, there was a flashlight shining in my face and a cop behind the stupid thing holding the flashlight. That’s what I got for sleeping in my room that night, I wanted to get away from her. When I didn’t entertain her, she would do stupid things like call the cops. I could handle it most of the time but every so often, I truly needed a break. I feel for people who have to care for such relatives indefinitely.
I worry about my father dealing with it too. I think that at the very least I will be visiting Tampa often. And, now that BOTH of my sisters are down there, I can visit them as well. The last time my father and I discussed my moving down there, I told him that if he had his ex there, I would have to have his permission to walk out of the condo and leave any time that I felt that I needed to. I know he would think that rude but if I didn’t have that ability, it would make me insane. He said he understands so maybe I’ll at least start staying down there part time to see how it goes. That is, if the damn divorce is ever finalized. I am still waiting for Rick to sign away his rights to me so that I can go and start having some fun. Not that I haven’t had a bunch of fun already, but I hate having to say my “husband” when I’m out on a date. It makes me feel uncomfortable. The divorce changes my name back to Broderick but I won’t be able to use that name until I get all of my ID’s switched over. I don’t have the spare cash to do that right now but I hope to get my maiden name back soon. I think I’ll keep it for a while. My father always told me not to go near men who had a vowel at the end of their last names so I know I don’t want this name...it has a vowel at the end of it.
You know, I can’t imagine how I will be able to trust anyone else anytime soon. What with being married to a chronic prevaricator and seeing how men react to my ass picture, I am beginning to think that my mother was right to spend her life single after her divorce. She always said how nice it was to be able to come and go as she pleased. The longer I am alone the less it bothers me, I actually kind of like it. I have friends that I can call and if I don’t want to be alone I don’t have to be. I still have a freezer full of Hot Pockets but I also have some stuff frozen to make meals with. I’m able to cook what I want to cook. For years I had to cook everything bland for Rick because he hated onions, peppers, mushrooms, any vegetable except peas and corn. He liked chicken, cow, pig, peas, corn and potatoes. I made so many meals with diefferent combinations of those ingredients that I'm sick of them all. When we first got married I would cook two of everything, like two meat loafs or two pots of chili. After a while, I got sick of cooking two of everything and just started making stuff the way he liked it. Now, I can cook whatever I want to cook. I can eat salad for a meal or just have a bunch of fruit. Every so often I would try to cook really healthy but I couldn’t with Rick because of the foods that he liked. Now, I can pack the fridge with fruit and just grab a bunch of grapes or a bowl full of berries when I'm hungry.
My dad is easy to cook for, he grew up right after the Depression and his family was pretty poor so he will eat just about anything. When he was a kid, onion sandwiches were a treat for him. He’s funny, he loves Sam’s Club and buys everything in bulk. He’ll buy 20 pounds of rice and eat rice everyday for a month. He worries me, it’s like he’s turning into a crazy old man. Well, he was a crazy young man in his day so I guess I should expect that. I’m just glad that he and I are such good friends. Next to my daughter, I think he’s probably my best friend and that’s nice.
Our relationship will have quite a jolt I’m sure with his ex coming down. She was so used to speaking to him everyday that when he was in New Jersey for that reunion and his sister’s memorial service, she freaked because she couldn’t call him. She called me from the hospital last night, apparently, she worked herself into quite a state and ended up in the hospital. I hope this isn’t a sign of things to come. Anyway, my father showed up there shortly after we spoke and I was very pleased that he did.
The memorial service that my dad went to was for his sister who was reported missing last year, spring 2004. Her son is the suspect in her disappearance. My father is in charge of her fiances, she hasn’t been declared dead so he's not in charge of the estate. But, her son is in prison for theft by possession (they found stolen guns in my aunt’s house where he was living when they searched it after she went missing.) and when he gets out, it should be long enough for her to be declared dead. My father is going to try to stop him from getting the estate. Apparently, if you can “prove” that he had something to do with her death, the judge can keep him from getting the money. The burden of proof is lesser than a criminal trial. I forgot exactly what my dad is doing but I think it’s similar to what the family did with O.J. only he doesn’t want money from the son, he just wants to keep him from getting the money from her estate. All of the evidence that they have against him is mostly just the way he acted after she was missing and all of the lies that he told. It’s not enough for a conviction but they have investigated him and found that he was also a suspect in an arson that resulted in the death of one of his ex girlfriends. His mother was his alibi and he, allegedly, killed her.
It’s amazing how much evidence they can have against you and still not be able to arrest you. Someone saw this freak driving away from the woman’s house at the time the fire was started and they still couldn’t bust him. Maybe that’s because of his alibi. My father’s other sister who still lives in Jersey is bugging those cops there trying to get them to investigate the arson case more.
It’s so weird to have an alleged murderer in your family. Of course, I have to say alleged to avoid a law suit but I firmly believe that this bum killed my aunt. I’ve heard all of the stuff that he did like spending thousands of her dollars. He would go to the same gas stations and fill up 5 cars with gas all on the same day. We think that he just pocketed the cash. He also went to Wal-Mart and bought a bunch of big ticket items all on the same day too. We don’t know what he did with those things but they weren’t in the house. He signed her name on a bunch of her checks for tens of thousands of dollars but they couldn't get him for forgery because you have to be able to prove that he DIDN’T have her permission in this state! Isn’t that insane? Anyway, he’ll get his, they always do. Karma is a bitch.
Well, I am going to visit one of my girlfriends tonight to help HER on her computer. People rarely ask me for my advice on such things so this is fun for me.
See ya!
Meg
...and I’m waiting for my father to get here with his ex-wife. If you were reading last spring you might remember that I had a big problem with her when she came to “visit her cats” and ended up staying for a few weeks. She will only be here long enough to sleep and eat brunch on their way to Florida so I can tolerate her for that long.
I do worry about my father though, he is 71 and a HALF! He has no business caring for a woman so sick but I think he’s probably lonely enough to want to do it. He was trying to get me to move to Florida which I had considered but if she’s going to be there requiring a bunch of care, I don’t know if I would be in so much of a hurry to move there.
She has Alzheimer’s on top of a few other serious illnesses so she certainly is a handful. Being a nurse, I get called for all illnesses and I don’t mind when it’s family, but I have never really known this woman, she and my dad were married when I lived in another state and our entire relationship consists of a few short visits plus her extended stay of last spring.
One night when I was in bed, there was a loud knock on my door and I looked up and just had time to turn my head toward the door when it opened. When it did, there was a flashlight shining in my face and a cop behind the stupid thing holding the flashlight. That’s what I got for sleeping in my room that night, I wanted to get away from her. When I didn’t entertain her, she would do stupid things like call the cops. I could handle it most of the time but every so often, I truly needed a break. I feel for people who have to care for such relatives indefinitely.
I worry about my father dealing with it too. I think that at the very least I will be visiting Tampa often. And, now that BOTH of my sisters are down there, I can visit them as well. The last time my father and I discussed my moving down there, I told him that if he had his ex there, I would have to have his permission to walk out of the condo and leave any time that I felt that I needed to. I know he would think that rude but if I didn’t have that ability, it would make me insane. He said he understands so maybe I’ll at least start staying down there part time to see how it goes. That is, if the damn divorce is ever finalized. I am still waiting for Rick to sign away his rights to me so that I can go and start having some fun. Not that I haven’t had a bunch of fun already, but I hate having to say my “husband” when I’m out on a date. It makes me feel uncomfortable. The divorce changes my name back to Broderick but I won’t be able to use that name until I get all of my ID’s switched over. I don’t have the spare cash to do that right now but I hope to get my maiden name back soon. I think I’ll keep it for a while. My father always told me not to go near men who had a vowel at the end of their last names so I know I don’t want this name...it has a vowel at the end of it.
You know, I can’t imagine how I will be able to trust anyone else anytime soon. What with being married to a chronic prevaricator and seeing how men react to my ass picture, I am beginning to think that my mother was right to spend her life single after her divorce. She always said how nice it was to be able to come and go as she pleased. The longer I am alone the less it bothers me, I actually kind of like it. I have friends that I can call and if I don’t want to be alone I don’t have to be. I still have a freezer full of Hot Pockets but I also have some stuff frozen to make meals with. I’m able to cook what I want to cook. For years I had to cook everything bland for Rick because he hated onions, peppers, mushrooms, any vegetable except peas and corn. He liked chicken, cow, pig, peas, corn and potatoes. I made so many meals with diefferent combinations of those ingredients that I'm sick of them all. When we first got married I would cook two of everything, like two meat loafs or two pots of chili. After a while, I got sick of cooking two of everything and just started making stuff the way he liked it. Now, I can cook whatever I want to cook. I can eat salad for a meal or just have a bunch of fruit. Every so often I would try to cook really healthy but I couldn’t with Rick because of the foods that he liked. Now, I can pack the fridge with fruit and just grab a bunch of grapes or a bowl full of berries when I'm hungry.
My dad is easy to cook for, he grew up right after the Depression and his family was pretty poor so he will eat just about anything. When he was a kid, onion sandwiches were a treat for him. He’s funny, he loves Sam’s Club and buys everything in bulk. He’ll buy 20 pounds of rice and eat rice everyday for a month. He worries me, it’s like he’s turning into a crazy old man. Well, he was a crazy young man in his day so I guess I should expect that. I’m just glad that he and I are such good friends. Next to my daughter, I think he’s probably my best friend and that’s nice.
Our relationship will have quite a jolt I’m sure with his ex coming down. She was so used to speaking to him everyday that when he was in New Jersey for that reunion and his sister’s memorial service, she freaked because she couldn’t call him. She called me from the hospital last night, apparently, she worked herself into quite a state and ended up in the hospital. I hope this isn’t a sign of things to come. Anyway, my father showed up there shortly after we spoke and I was very pleased that he did.
The memorial service that my dad went to was for his sister who was reported missing last year, spring 2004. Her son is the suspect in her disappearance. My father is in charge of her fiances, she hasn’t been declared dead so he's not in charge of the estate. But, her son is in prison for theft by possession (they found stolen guns in my aunt’s house where he was living when they searched it after she went missing.) and when he gets out, it should be long enough for her to be declared dead. My father is going to try to stop him from getting the estate. Apparently, if you can “prove” that he had something to do with her death, the judge can keep him from getting the money. The burden of proof is lesser than a criminal trial. I forgot exactly what my dad is doing but I think it’s similar to what the family did with O.J. only he doesn’t want money from the son, he just wants to keep him from getting the money from her estate. All of the evidence that they have against him is mostly just the way he acted after she was missing and all of the lies that he told. It’s not enough for a conviction but they have investigated him and found that he was also a suspect in an arson that resulted in the death of one of his ex girlfriends. His mother was his alibi and he, allegedly, killed her.
It’s amazing how much evidence they can have against you and still not be able to arrest you. Someone saw this freak driving away from the woman’s house at the time the fire was started and they still couldn’t bust him. Maybe that’s because of his alibi. My father’s other sister who still lives in Jersey is bugging those cops there trying to get them to investigate the arson case more.
It’s so weird to have an alleged murderer in your family. Of course, I have to say alleged to avoid a law suit but I firmly believe that this bum killed my aunt. I’ve heard all of the stuff that he did like spending thousands of her dollars. He would go to the same gas stations and fill up 5 cars with gas all on the same day. We think that he just pocketed the cash. He also went to Wal-Mart and bought a bunch of big ticket items all on the same day too. We don’t know what he did with those things but they weren’t in the house. He signed her name on a bunch of her checks for tens of thousands of dollars but they couldn't get him for forgery because you have to be able to prove that he DIDN’T have her permission in this state! Isn’t that insane? Anyway, he’ll get his, they always do. Karma is a bitch.
Well, I am going to visit one of my girlfriends tonight to help HER on her computer. People rarely ask me for my advice on such things so this is fun for me.
See ya!
Meg
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