Good Morning!
I had a particular reason for posting my email addy the other day (meg.kelso@gmail.com) and then I received a few emails that I hadn’t expected, a couple emails from chicks who enjoy reading this thing. That surprised me because although I expected women to read this when I began writing it, I realized long ago that 9 out of 10 of the people that write me are men. I was surprised then but I’ve since gotten used to it and I’ve pretty much assumed that I was speaking to men. I’m just glad that there are some ladies out there as well. So, since I know that now, I’m going to write for them today.
Aren’t men asses?!?!? Not really, most of them are pretty cool....I just keep choosing asses. In the past year, I’ve learned more about men then I ever did in my entire life. I used to think that they were sort of like us. I guess I didn’t really THINK about the differences at all, I just figured people were people.
But...that is NOT the truth, men are extremely different. I’ll never trust one again the way I have in the past but that’s turned into a good thing.
For example, I now know that there isn’t one man on this planet who wouldn’t cheat given the right circumstances. The only difference is what it would take for one man to cheat as opposed to another. Rick would screw anyone who became horizontal for him and other men might break at the sight of Angelina Jolie. We as women won’t ever know what it would take for our man so all we need to know is that it IS a possibility. We need to take that knowledge and figure out what we need to do to keep ours from cheating.
I have a cousin who would go to her husband’s office and bring gifts for his staff. She didn’t like them, she just wanted to befriend them and let her presence be known. At the time, I thought it was rather ballsy of her, but now I think she was just being quite smart.
I don’t want to come off sounding like some 50’s housewife who is about to tell you to stay home, bake cookies and “stand by your man” but it would be smart to try to be his mistress yourself. I don’t think any of you need advice in that arena...but if you do, go to sugardaddies.com and read some of the profiles of women who are out there advertising themselves to your men, blatantly asking for the men to come up and see them some time...for a price. Now, most of our men don’t have that price, but they can always lower their standards and find a cheaper women who is willing to act a fool for them. If you doubt that, just go to this funky little trailer park in Kennesaw Georgia and look where mine ended up. My ex was certainly no prize, but to some women, he was da bomb because....well, damned if I know why, maybe just because he had a job, who knows. The point is, a goofy looking nerdy technician guy CAN find some flea bitten tramp to screw if he waits long enough.
If you are married to man a with money...look out! There are men out there who wine and dine women like Richard Gere in Pretty Woman and there are plenty of pretty women waiting for their own Richard Gere.
If you’re out there thinking, “Not my man!”...get over it...YES, your man too. They will tell women how rotten you are, how they’re in a loveless marriage, that you have cancer and he can’t leave while you’re so sick, that you’ve been sleeping in separate rooms for years, that you have agreed to a divorce as soon as the youngest graduates college, whatever. I’ve heard all of those this past year and I never even knew I was accepting dates from married men until they decided to share it with me and thank God they did, I would hate to end up being the other woman in any marriage.
I’ve been stunned at the numbers of married men out there on the prowl. One of them hung out at a place that I go to all the time. I’d seen him so many times before and he was always alone. One night I needed a ride home (one of the freaky dates that I had to ditch) and he was happy to help. I asked him in and we ended up making out like banshees on my couch. The next week he left a note in between my screen door and side door asking me to call him. I did. I asked him over for dinner and while he was here, he decided to mention his wife. His story was that she was older than he (I was older than she!) and that she was sort of the bread winner and he didn’t know how to leave her because he didn’t think he could afford to live alone. I sent him packing but all that did was get him to start leaving little gifts in my door next. It took a while to dissuade that one. I feel awful knowing that there’s a married woman close by me who thinks her hubby is being true to her. This guy is a drummer in a band and as cute as he can be. I don’t know why he bothered with me...he certainly has his choice of little girls who would love to hang out with some drummer from a third rate band.
Then there was the one who’s wife "had cancer". He waited quite a while to tell me that one. It was easy for him because he lives in California and travels all the time. That’s another type of husband to look out for. These men actually put out ads saying, "I travel to Atlanta quite often and I need an escort when I’m in town.” They tell you that they are “wealthy” and willing to ‘buy the clothes you need to accompany me”. These guys literally have a girl in every port.
Then there was the doctor from Emory who wanted to date me. He just moved to Atlanta in June and didn’t know a soul. When I mentioned that I used to work at Emory, he freaked and said, “Ooh, I’m married and that’s too close for comfort.” So, once again, there’s another woman in Atlanta who thinks she is lucky to be married to a doctor and there she is, waiting at home as he goes out making “house calls”.
I don’t assume that I should ask questions like, “Are you married?”. I assume that they must be single or they wouldn’t be asking me out. But, I can say with a good degree of certainty that 7 out of 10 of the guys who’ve asked me out in the past year are married men who’s wives are sitting at home thinking they have a decent husband.
Of course there are decent husbands out there, but not as many as you would think. I’m corresponding with one married man who is trying very hard to make his marriage work but his wife is making it tough for him by treating him like he is always lying or doing something “bad”. He isn’t. Not now anyway. He is doing everything that he can to learn how to be faithful. I know that shouldn’t take effort but it does for some people and when there’s one who is trying, you have to support them all that you can or stop bitching when they do cheat. If Rick had EVER tried to ask me to help him stop or if he would have told me what was making him cheat, I would have rolled up my shirt sleeves and jumped on that job. But he didn’t. I didn’t see it coming. I had him on some pedestal for the longest time and the day that he jumped off of it was the end of our marriage and that happened 15 years before we separated. I just didn’t figure it out until last year.
The worst part of cheating is that you leave someone at home who deserves to be out there having a little fun themselves. When I think of all the fun that I could have had while Rick was playing games in that trailer park, I wish I had bought some anti-freeze before he left. I hear it makes a great chili.
Anyway, I’m not sure what to tell anyone to do with this information...I just wish I had known it myself. There are PLENTY of other women out there who DO know this stuff...so if we know it too, we might have a chance. So, go forth and spy on your hubby if you have any suspicions.
Oh, one more thing...EVERY SINGLE TIME I THOUGHT RICK WAS CHEATING...HE WAS. Trust yourself and your gut. Unless you are a total psycho wench from hell, you are most likely right when you start having suspicions. I think that every married woman should have a wad of cash around to use to hire a private detective when she has suspicions. No one need ever know but you and the dick.
See ya!
Meg
I had a particular reason for posting my email addy the other day (meg.kelso@gmail.com) and then I received a few emails that I hadn’t expected, a couple emails from chicks who enjoy reading this thing. That surprised me because although I expected women to read this when I began writing it, I realized long ago that 9 out of 10 of the people that write me are men. I was surprised then but I’ve since gotten used to it and I’ve pretty much assumed that I was speaking to men. I’m just glad that there are some ladies out there as well. So, since I know that now, I’m going to write for them today.
Aren’t men asses?!?!? Not really, most of them are pretty cool....I just keep choosing asses. In the past year, I’ve learned more about men then I ever did in my entire life. I used to think that they were sort of like us. I guess I didn’t really THINK about the differences at all, I just figured people were people.
But...that is NOT the truth, men are extremely different. I’ll never trust one again the way I have in the past but that’s turned into a good thing.
For example, I now know that there isn’t one man on this planet who wouldn’t cheat given the right circumstances. The only difference is what it would take for one man to cheat as opposed to another. Rick would screw anyone who became horizontal for him and other men might break at the sight of Angelina Jolie. We as women won’t ever know what it would take for our man so all we need to know is that it IS a possibility. We need to take that knowledge and figure out what we need to do to keep ours from cheating.
I have a cousin who would go to her husband’s office and bring gifts for his staff. She didn’t like them, she just wanted to befriend them and let her presence be known. At the time, I thought it was rather ballsy of her, but now I think she was just being quite smart.
I don’t want to come off sounding like some 50’s housewife who is about to tell you to stay home, bake cookies and “stand by your man” but it would be smart to try to be his mistress yourself. I don’t think any of you need advice in that arena...but if you do, go to sugardaddies.com and read some of the profiles of women who are out there advertising themselves to your men, blatantly asking for the men to come up and see them some time...for a price. Now, most of our men don’t have that price, but they can always lower their standards and find a cheaper women who is willing to act a fool for them. If you doubt that, just go to this funky little trailer park in Kennesaw Georgia and look where mine ended up. My ex was certainly no prize, but to some women, he was da bomb because....well, damned if I know why, maybe just because he had a job, who knows. The point is, a goofy looking nerdy technician guy CAN find some flea bitten tramp to screw if he waits long enough.
If you are married to man a with money...look out! There are men out there who wine and dine women like Richard Gere in Pretty Woman and there are plenty of pretty women waiting for their own Richard Gere.
If you’re out there thinking, “Not my man!”...get over it...YES, your man too. They will tell women how rotten you are, how they’re in a loveless marriage, that you have cancer and he can’t leave while you’re so sick, that you’ve been sleeping in separate rooms for years, that you have agreed to a divorce as soon as the youngest graduates college, whatever. I’ve heard all of those this past year and I never even knew I was accepting dates from married men until they decided to share it with me and thank God they did, I would hate to end up being the other woman in any marriage.
I’ve been stunned at the numbers of married men out there on the prowl. One of them hung out at a place that I go to all the time. I’d seen him so many times before and he was always alone. One night I needed a ride home (one of the freaky dates that I had to ditch) and he was happy to help. I asked him in and we ended up making out like banshees on my couch. The next week he left a note in between my screen door and side door asking me to call him. I did. I asked him over for dinner and while he was here, he decided to mention his wife. His story was that she was older than he (I was older than she!) and that she was sort of the bread winner and he didn’t know how to leave her because he didn’t think he could afford to live alone. I sent him packing but all that did was get him to start leaving little gifts in my door next. It took a while to dissuade that one. I feel awful knowing that there’s a married woman close by me who thinks her hubby is being true to her. This guy is a drummer in a band and as cute as he can be. I don’t know why he bothered with me...he certainly has his choice of little girls who would love to hang out with some drummer from a third rate band.
Then there was the one who’s wife "had cancer". He waited quite a while to tell me that one. It was easy for him because he lives in California and travels all the time. That’s another type of husband to look out for. These men actually put out ads saying, "I travel to Atlanta quite often and I need an escort when I’m in town.” They tell you that they are “wealthy” and willing to ‘buy the clothes you need to accompany me”. These guys literally have a girl in every port.
Then there was the doctor from Emory who wanted to date me. He just moved to Atlanta in June and didn’t know a soul. When I mentioned that I used to work at Emory, he freaked and said, “Ooh, I’m married and that’s too close for comfort.” So, once again, there’s another woman in Atlanta who thinks she is lucky to be married to a doctor and there she is, waiting at home as he goes out making “house calls”.
I don’t assume that I should ask questions like, “Are you married?”. I assume that they must be single or they wouldn’t be asking me out. But, I can say with a good degree of certainty that 7 out of 10 of the guys who’ve asked me out in the past year are married men who’s wives are sitting at home thinking they have a decent husband.
Of course there are decent husbands out there, but not as many as you would think. I’m corresponding with one married man who is trying very hard to make his marriage work but his wife is making it tough for him by treating him like he is always lying or doing something “bad”. He isn’t. Not now anyway. He is doing everything that he can to learn how to be faithful. I know that shouldn’t take effort but it does for some people and when there’s one who is trying, you have to support them all that you can or stop bitching when they do cheat. If Rick had EVER tried to ask me to help him stop or if he would have told me what was making him cheat, I would have rolled up my shirt sleeves and jumped on that job. But he didn’t. I didn’t see it coming. I had him on some pedestal for the longest time and the day that he jumped off of it was the end of our marriage and that happened 15 years before we separated. I just didn’t figure it out until last year.
The worst part of cheating is that you leave someone at home who deserves to be out there having a little fun themselves. When I think of all the fun that I could have had while Rick was playing games in that trailer park, I wish I had bought some anti-freeze before he left. I hear it makes a great chili.
Anyway, I’m not sure what to tell anyone to do with this information...I just wish I had known it myself. There are PLENTY of other women out there who DO know this stuff...so if we know it too, we might have a chance. So, go forth and spy on your hubby if you have any suspicions.
Oh, one more thing...EVERY SINGLE TIME I THOUGHT RICK WAS CHEATING...HE WAS. Trust yourself and your gut. Unless you are a total psycho wench from hell, you are most likely right when you start having suspicions. I think that every married woman should have a wad of cash around to use to hire a private detective when she has suspicions. No one need ever know but you and the dick.
See ya!
Meg
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