What is it about men...
...that make them want you more when, for whatever reason, you're unavailable to them? I don't understand that at all. Rick was a prime paradigm of that little canon. I learned early on that if we were separated, the mere hint of another man would bring him running back.
He was so predictable in that way that the last time we separated (before the FINAL separation), I just lied and told him that I had run into an old boyfriend of mine. It was much more efficient than the usual hoops that I had to jump through for him.
It isn't necessarily break ups that this silly rule applies to...it could be phone calls or even attention in general. If a woman appears to be disinterested, a man will come around much more quickly than if she seems to be ready, willing and able. That's particularly tough for me because I don't like to play games...if I'm interested, I'll tell you. If I'm not, then you won't hear from me at all. But, I'm starting to get the gist of this tenet well enough to actually NEED to use it more than I'm comfortable with.
This is just stupid. At my age, I should be able to just be honest and forthright in a relationship but the stupid law doesn't seem to leave men with age...so I have to play the game whether I like it or not. Men say they like women who don't play "head games" and that they prefer honesty but then they are so blantantly predictable as it applies to wanting women more when women aren't at their beck and call. What's up with that, dudes? Do you want us to be honest or do you want us to ignore the phone when it rings? Whichever you prefer, you better make up your minds and get it together. I, for one, am totally confused.
I was unavailable yesterday because of my daughter's surprise visit and my phone never rang so much. Today, except for a job interview and some phone calls that I had to make, I've been right where I'm supposed to be and I'm not getting one little piece of attention. The only difference is that today I'm available and yesterday I wasn't. There's no fight going on. I'm the same woman that I was yesterday. My appearance hasn't changed. I didn't gain or lose massive amounts of weight. Yet, here I sit, completely neglected. This just blows.
I suppose that, according to the "rules", I should go out with another man or at the very least, just go out. That'd get me some attention. But, I can't go out unless I want to call my son and go wherever HE wants to go. I could make a few phone calls and find one man who'd take me somewhere easily enough. But...that would be wrong and I do at least TRY to do the right thing. But, unless I find some other endeavor for the evening, chances are that I will sit here, miserable and alone for the duration. You guys are truly a hoot.
Oh! The phone just rang...I got a 42 second call. Whoop-dee-fucking-doo.
Well, that's better than nothing. Barely.
Even my charming son does this to me in a son way. If he needs me for anything, he's a peach. If he has a few bucks in his pocket and a paycheck coming, mom is one big giant pain in the ass.
When a man knows that a woman's waiting for him, she's as useless to him as fourth tit to a two handed man with his mouth full. A guy friend of mine once told me that it's the "chase" that men like. Well, why in the hell do you chase something that you don't want? All the running that we do is just wasted energy once you catch us. We never wanted to run in the first place...why in the heck do you come after us? That same guy told me that a even man who has "filet mignon every night wants a hamburger every so often". So, we can't win whether we're chopped meat or a nice piece of steak. How much effort do you really think that we want to put into this crap?
Oh well...I'm not gonna change the world with my little blog but maybe I've made one man think a bit. I hope so. If you're thinking about filet tonight...just remember that some other man might have a taste for your hamburger.
All this meat talk has made me hungry. I'm going to go make myself something to eat. And then, I'm going to eat it alone. Damn.
Meg
...that make them want you more when, for whatever reason, you're unavailable to them? I don't understand that at all. Rick was a prime paradigm of that little canon. I learned early on that if we were separated, the mere hint of another man would bring him running back.
He was so predictable in that way that the last time we separated (before the FINAL separation), I just lied and told him that I had run into an old boyfriend of mine. It was much more efficient than the usual hoops that I had to jump through for him.
It isn't necessarily break ups that this silly rule applies to...it could be phone calls or even attention in general. If a woman appears to be disinterested, a man will come around much more quickly than if she seems to be ready, willing and able. That's particularly tough for me because I don't like to play games...if I'm interested, I'll tell you. If I'm not, then you won't hear from me at all. But, I'm starting to get the gist of this tenet well enough to actually NEED to use it more than I'm comfortable with.
This is just stupid. At my age, I should be able to just be honest and forthright in a relationship but the stupid law doesn't seem to leave men with age...so I have to play the game whether I like it or not. Men say they like women who don't play "head games" and that they prefer honesty but then they are so blantantly predictable as it applies to wanting women more when women aren't at their beck and call. What's up with that, dudes? Do you want us to be honest or do you want us to ignore the phone when it rings? Whichever you prefer, you better make up your minds and get it together. I, for one, am totally confused.
I was unavailable yesterday because of my daughter's surprise visit and my phone never rang so much. Today, except for a job interview and some phone calls that I had to make, I've been right where I'm supposed to be and I'm not getting one little piece of attention. The only difference is that today I'm available and yesterday I wasn't. There's no fight going on. I'm the same woman that I was yesterday. My appearance hasn't changed. I didn't gain or lose massive amounts of weight. Yet, here I sit, completely neglected. This just blows.
I suppose that, according to the "rules", I should go out with another man or at the very least, just go out. That'd get me some attention. But, I can't go out unless I want to call my son and go wherever HE wants to go. I could make a few phone calls and find one man who'd take me somewhere easily enough. But...that would be wrong and I do at least TRY to do the right thing. But, unless I find some other endeavor for the evening, chances are that I will sit here, miserable and alone for the duration. You guys are truly a hoot.
Oh! The phone just rang...I got a 42 second call. Whoop-dee-fucking-doo.
Well, that's better than nothing. Barely.
Even my charming son does this to me in a son way. If he needs me for anything, he's a peach. If he has a few bucks in his pocket and a paycheck coming, mom is one big giant pain in the ass.
When a man knows that a woman's waiting for him, she's as useless to him as fourth tit to a two handed man with his mouth full. A guy friend of mine once told me that it's the "chase" that men like. Well, why in the hell do you chase something that you don't want? All the running that we do is just wasted energy once you catch us. We never wanted to run in the first place...why in the heck do you come after us? That same guy told me that a even man who has "filet mignon every night wants a hamburger every so often". So, we can't win whether we're chopped meat or a nice piece of steak. How much effort do you really think that we want to put into this crap?
Oh well...I'm not gonna change the world with my little blog but maybe I've made one man think a bit. I hope so. If you're thinking about filet tonight...just remember that some other man might have a taste for your hamburger.
All this meat talk has made me hungry. I'm going to go make myself something to eat. And then, I'm going to eat it alone. Damn.
Meg
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