What I think is ruining this country is a rampant irresponsibility.
Yep, that’s why I added the part about the “if it feels good, do it” mentality. It is behind drug use and it is behind the "can’t keep your penis in your pants" or a "married man out of your trailer" syndromes. Far too many people suffer from it. People feel as though they “deserve” to be happy every day. Life isn’t like that. Sometimes you can’t be happy everyday. But if you try to live by some of life’s most basic standards, you will generally find that the good days outnumber the bad.
On the other hand, we have my charming husband who beamed with pride as he bragged thusly about his son, “He is just like me, once he has had enough, he leaves.” Enough of what, he never said. Whatever it was, it must a been a great big secret because nobody ever mentioned it. What honor he must feel to have his son follow in his own grubby galoshes.
There was a time when my biggest fear was the day that one of us would have to bury the other. I couldn’t imagine how I could ever live without him. I don’t think he can think in terms of forever. He can say it...but he doesn’t know how to think or feel it. Oh well, it is a tough concept and he does think of “Nothing” quite often so maybe it isn’t his fault. Maybe some people are simply ethically challenged and require some form of government assistance and a special interest group all their own. They can all dress up like Joey Greco and have parades down Michigan Avenue. Vex and my ex brother-in-law could lead the entire entourage.
My sister’s wedding was pushed ahead a few months by a slightly mis-planned pregnancy. Sadly, that was an ectopic pregnancy and she lost her tube with the baby. Eventually they became pregnant again and the same thing happened. My 23 year old sister had no fallopian tubes. A few months after the second miscarriage, he had an affair that resulted in a pregnancy. When I asked the girl how she could do that with a married man she responded, “That marriage was having problems already.” Jeez, they had only been married for two years. They had lived together for a few more. Two years isn’t enough time to spend fixing a marriage, much less beginning and ending one.
When loyalty is repaid with deception, it pretty much strikes at your soul. Faithful people don’t give loyalty away easily. Somewhere deep inside they have turned themselves over to another person in a way that they don’t take lightly. The pain caused by a betrayal of that devotion is sharp and to the core.
Many people drift in and out of a life, the ones who stick around become more valuable with time. They know you and accept you for exactly who you are, faults and all. You don’t get many life friends on this planet. If you were stranded on the side of the highway, how many people do you know that would come absolutely come and get you? How many of those people were around over twenty years ago? Those are your life friends. Unless, of course, you are only twenty to begin with, in which case I think the rule is five years. :) Anyway, with every bridge we burn, we cut off an average of 3 life friends. That’s a huge price to pay for one little bridge that could just as easily be reinforced and made so much stronger. Those who lack the tools for that chore make life very difficult for those who trust them.
Wouldn’t it be neat of we could just choose up sides? The more decent people would end up smarter and more disciplined so we could make T.V. shows out of the other people. Oh, wait, we already do that.
Well, I am very tired. I think I shall go to sleep now.
Good night.
Meg
Yep, that’s why I added the part about the “if it feels good, do it” mentality. It is behind drug use and it is behind the "can’t keep your penis in your pants" or a "married man out of your trailer" syndromes. Far too many people suffer from it. People feel as though they “deserve” to be happy every day. Life isn’t like that. Sometimes you can’t be happy everyday. But if you try to live by some of life’s most basic standards, you will generally find that the good days outnumber the bad.
On the other hand, we have my charming husband who beamed with pride as he bragged thusly about his son, “He is just like me, once he has had enough, he leaves.” Enough of what, he never said. Whatever it was, it must a been a great big secret because nobody ever mentioned it. What honor he must feel to have his son follow in his own grubby galoshes.
There was a time when my biggest fear was the day that one of us would have to bury the other. I couldn’t imagine how I could ever live without him. I don’t think he can think in terms of forever. He can say it...but he doesn’t know how to think or feel it. Oh well, it is a tough concept and he does think of “Nothing” quite often so maybe it isn’t his fault. Maybe some people are simply ethically challenged and require some form of government assistance and a special interest group all their own. They can all dress up like Joey Greco and have parades down Michigan Avenue. Vex and my ex brother-in-law could lead the entire entourage.
My sister’s wedding was pushed ahead a few months by a slightly mis-planned pregnancy. Sadly, that was an ectopic pregnancy and she lost her tube with the baby. Eventually they became pregnant again and the same thing happened. My 23 year old sister had no fallopian tubes. A few months after the second miscarriage, he had an affair that resulted in a pregnancy. When I asked the girl how she could do that with a married man she responded, “That marriage was having problems already.” Jeez, they had only been married for two years. They had lived together for a few more. Two years isn’t enough time to spend fixing a marriage, much less beginning and ending one.
When loyalty is repaid with deception, it pretty much strikes at your soul. Faithful people don’t give loyalty away easily. Somewhere deep inside they have turned themselves over to another person in a way that they don’t take lightly. The pain caused by a betrayal of that devotion is sharp and to the core.
Many people drift in and out of a life, the ones who stick around become more valuable with time. They know you and accept you for exactly who you are, faults and all. You don’t get many life friends on this planet. If you were stranded on the side of the highway, how many people do you know that would come absolutely come and get you? How many of those people were around over twenty years ago? Those are your life friends. Unless, of course, you are only twenty to begin with, in which case I think the rule is five years. :) Anyway, with every bridge we burn, we cut off an average of 3 life friends. That’s a huge price to pay for one little bridge that could just as easily be reinforced and made so much stronger. Those who lack the tools for that chore make life very difficult for those who trust them.
Wouldn’t it be neat of we could just choose up sides? The more decent people would end up smarter and more disciplined so we could make T.V. shows out of the other people. Oh, wait, we already do that.
Well, I am very tired. I think I shall go to sleep now.
Good night.
Meg
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