I agree. Were he happy, he wouldn't even worry about it. with most insurances, your premium doesn't change much whether a spouse is on it or not. I don't know if this has crossed your mind or not, but considering the predicament he left you in, he could be required in the divorce to provide you with insurance (dental, eye, medical) as well as car insurance and alimony payments. From what I've read, you aren't bitter because of what he did, and you seem to be adjusting to life without him just fine. I just don't think you should deny yourself what's rightfully due, like a car, with insurance, health care, and some form of income..
Not only wouldn’t his premium have changed much, he would have only had to wait one more month to drop me. I don’t want to get anyone in trouble so I can’t say too much but I know a bit about what he tried to do. (If she should try to make it tougher on me, I will tell you all what she said.) I don’t know if he DID do it...but I DO know what the dentist’s office said. I went to have my teeth cleaned last month (Rick...you should try it.) and they called to say that the insurance wouldn’t pay the bill. That is all I know for sure. If he DID cancel the insurance, I think he may be paying for that cleaning. But what do I know.
You know, in my first divorce, my husband actually HAD stuff. He owns his own business and I could have taken half of it but I wouldn’t have done that. He always gave me whatever I needed and I wouldn’t have been so nasty to someone who was being so reasonable. Besides, he is my children’s father and THEY don’t deserve that. To this day, I remind them to call their father on appropriate days. I enjoy my ex in laws...they have always acted like classy people. Blood will tell.
My ex and I went to the Marriott in Lincolnshire, Illinois for the weekend to sign our divorce papers. We went out the same way we went in. I didn’t expect THAT from Rick, but I would have expected some type of decency. Oh well. I obviously had him mis-categorized as an honorable human.
I never thought about “denying” myself anything, I have an attorney that offered to take my case pro bono because of the domestic violence involved. I have been told that he is the best in the county so I trust that office to do what is best for me. I asked about insurance, and he said that we should be able to get it but I didn’t ask any details. I HAD the car...Rick went in front of a judge and told her that I had another one. I do, but it doesn’t work and hasn’t since before he said it did. Not only that, but he had cancelled the insurance on it that had been paid through December (this was in September). If the judge had known that at the time, he wouldn’t have gotten away with the car. We had another car but he stopped making payments on it (along with everything else that had to do with me) and had it repossessed.
In Georgia, they have fault divorce. I am suing for 3 grounds and I don’t have to prove anything (according to someone who would know) because of the Restraining Order. Apparently, it is proof of at least one of the grounds. So, anyway, Rick did offer temporary alimony and I accepted his first offer. It didn’t include a car or any insurance but I am going to rethink this one. I was told, when we went to court on February 7th, that we would have a court date within 30 days at which time the divorce would be final, we would only have to wait for the paperwork. Since my attorney was taking this case pro bono, I didn’t want to take up anymore of his time than I had to. I am open to any experienced advice out there.
I have seen so many women behave so badly during a divorce and I didn’t want to be perceived as one of those type. I just wanted to get it over with quickly.
(Rick responded to my divorce petition with nasty allegations of his own. He is much better than I thought at lying. I shan’t underestimate him again. Since alimony in Georgia is based upon the parties' conduct during the marriage, he HAD to make stuff up about me to mitigate his losses. Of course, there was the option of just helping me out on his own, I would have never thought I would get alimony, if he had just tried to make it easy to separate with as little pain as possible, we would have gotten a nice divorce. But, I think he was under pressure from "someone" to leave. I hope they are happy. Selfishness is NEVER the smart way to go.)
I always said that a person who makes a divorce nasty like that is the one who is the most miserable. His ex was a miserable person and she was awful about the kids. I knew she was an unhappy person because of her behavior. Whenever a friend told me what a jerk their ex was being I told them to be happy about it at some level because it meant that the other person was miserable. So...once again, I need to listen to myself.
Well, my father never came. I did all that house cleaning for nothing. I am sitting in an immaculate house and I have no one to show it off to. I know he will be here sooner or later because I have his car (Thanks Dad!). So, now, no one else can come here until he gets here because I am not cleaning up anymore, I am just going to tippy-toe around the clean stuff and leave it like that. I slept on my couch, which I usually do, but I went to bed so early that my back is killing me from lying there so long. I caught up on my sleep and it is the weekend. It is supposed to be a lovely weekend so I think I will go to the Battlefield for my daily walk. I live right next to Kennesaw Battlefield and it is a great place to hike. There is a beautiful mountain over there and it takes me a while to get up it, but I do enjoy the view. My daily walks are my nicest times of the day. I say hello to the neighbors, I know a few dogs personally and I think that my dog is finally getting used to the leash although I left it on him the other day and he chewed his way through it. He wasn’t chained to anything, it was hanging off of his neck and he just hates that thing so he ate it. Luckily, I have another one. I don’t know if this dog is continually hungry or what. He eats twice a day and at both feedings I give him two cups of dry dog food mixed with half a large can of wet food. Given a chance, he will also eat the cat's food. He is a boxer and will be about 80 pounds unless he is some mutant in which case he will weigh more. I am starting to think he is a mutant. He can’t be 50 pounds yet. Do any of you know how much a growing puppy is supposed to be eating? The can says 1 1/2 to 2 cans but I give him 4 cups of dry food with the can in the course of a day. I am going by his weight but does he need more because he is a puppy?
He is so funny. And smart. (Either he is smart or I have spent far too much time with him.) That’s what I do at night, I teach the dog tricks. He has about 10 of them so far and if he wants something, he will sit in front of me and go through every one of them. It is my fervent hope that one day he will be good enough to make the Letterman show. Does Dave still do that Stupid Pet Trick thing? I don’t know, I am usually in bed by the time he comes on. If the dog doesn’t want to be picked up, he just makes himself dead weight. It cracks me up that he can figure that out. I don’t know if I have a smart dog or a weird dog. I guess I don’t understand dogs anymore than I understand men. But I DO know that the dog mess is much more pleasant to clean up than the man mess is.
Have a good day! See ya soon.
Meg
Not only wouldn’t his premium have changed much, he would have only had to wait one more month to drop me. I don’t want to get anyone in trouble so I can’t say too much but I know a bit about what he tried to do. (If she should try to make it tougher on me, I will tell you all what she said.) I don’t know if he DID do it...but I DO know what the dentist’s office said. I went to have my teeth cleaned last month (Rick...you should try it.) and they called to say that the insurance wouldn’t pay the bill. That is all I know for sure. If he DID cancel the insurance, I think he may be paying for that cleaning. But what do I know.
You know, in my first divorce, my husband actually HAD stuff. He owns his own business and I could have taken half of it but I wouldn’t have done that. He always gave me whatever I needed and I wouldn’t have been so nasty to someone who was being so reasonable. Besides, he is my children’s father and THEY don’t deserve that. To this day, I remind them to call their father on appropriate days. I enjoy my ex in laws...they have always acted like classy people. Blood will tell.
My ex and I went to the Marriott in Lincolnshire, Illinois for the weekend to sign our divorce papers. We went out the same way we went in. I didn’t expect THAT from Rick, but I would have expected some type of decency. Oh well. I obviously had him mis-categorized as an honorable human.
I never thought about “denying” myself anything, I have an attorney that offered to take my case pro bono because of the domestic violence involved. I have been told that he is the best in the county so I trust that office to do what is best for me. I asked about insurance, and he said that we should be able to get it but I didn’t ask any details. I HAD the car...Rick went in front of a judge and told her that I had another one. I do, but it doesn’t work and hasn’t since before he said it did. Not only that, but he had cancelled the insurance on it that had been paid through December (this was in September). If the judge had known that at the time, he wouldn’t have gotten away with the car. We had another car but he stopped making payments on it (along with everything else that had to do with me) and had it repossessed.
In Georgia, they have fault divorce. I am suing for 3 grounds and I don’t have to prove anything (according to someone who would know) because of the Restraining Order. Apparently, it is proof of at least one of the grounds. So, anyway, Rick did offer temporary alimony and I accepted his first offer. It didn’t include a car or any insurance but I am going to rethink this one. I was told, when we went to court on February 7th, that we would have a court date within 30 days at which time the divorce would be final, we would only have to wait for the paperwork. Since my attorney was taking this case pro bono, I didn’t want to take up anymore of his time than I had to. I am open to any experienced advice out there.
I have seen so many women behave so badly during a divorce and I didn’t want to be perceived as one of those type. I just wanted to get it over with quickly.
(Rick responded to my divorce petition with nasty allegations of his own. He is much better than I thought at lying. I shan’t underestimate him again. Since alimony in Georgia is based upon the parties' conduct during the marriage, he HAD to make stuff up about me to mitigate his losses. Of course, there was the option of just helping me out on his own, I would have never thought I would get alimony, if he had just tried to make it easy to separate with as little pain as possible, we would have gotten a nice divorce. But, I think he was under pressure from "someone" to leave. I hope they are happy. Selfishness is NEVER the smart way to go.)
I always said that a person who makes a divorce nasty like that is the one who is the most miserable. His ex was a miserable person and she was awful about the kids. I knew she was an unhappy person because of her behavior. Whenever a friend told me what a jerk their ex was being I told them to be happy about it at some level because it meant that the other person was miserable. So...once again, I need to listen to myself.
Well, my father never came. I did all that house cleaning for nothing. I am sitting in an immaculate house and I have no one to show it off to. I know he will be here sooner or later because I have his car (Thanks Dad!). So, now, no one else can come here until he gets here because I am not cleaning up anymore, I am just going to tippy-toe around the clean stuff and leave it like that. I slept on my couch, which I usually do, but I went to bed so early that my back is killing me from lying there so long. I caught up on my sleep and it is the weekend. It is supposed to be a lovely weekend so I think I will go to the Battlefield for my daily walk. I live right next to Kennesaw Battlefield and it is a great place to hike. There is a beautiful mountain over there and it takes me a while to get up it, but I do enjoy the view. My daily walks are my nicest times of the day. I say hello to the neighbors, I know a few dogs personally and I think that my dog is finally getting used to the leash although I left it on him the other day and he chewed his way through it. He wasn’t chained to anything, it was hanging off of his neck and he just hates that thing so he ate it. Luckily, I have another one. I don’t know if this dog is continually hungry or what. He eats twice a day and at both feedings I give him two cups of dry dog food mixed with half a large can of wet food. Given a chance, he will also eat the cat's food. He is a boxer and will be about 80 pounds unless he is some mutant in which case he will weigh more. I am starting to think he is a mutant. He can’t be 50 pounds yet. Do any of you know how much a growing puppy is supposed to be eating? The can says 1 1/2 to 2 cans but I give him 4 cups of dry food with the can in the course of a day. I am going by his weight but does he need more because he is a puppy?
He is so funny. And smart. (Either he is smart or I have spent far too much time with him.) That’s what I do at night, I teach the dog tricks. He has about 10 of them so far and if he wants something, he will sit in front of me and go through every one of them. It is my fervent hope that one day he will be good enough to make the Letterman show. Does Dave still do that Stupid Pet Trick thing? I don’t know, I am usually in bed by the time he comes on. If the dog doesn’t want to be picked up, he just makes himself dead weight. It cracks me up that he can figure that out. I don’t know if I have a smart dog or a weird dog. I guess I don’t understand dogs anymore than I understand men. But I DO know that the dog mess is much more pleasant to clean up than the man mess is.
Have a good day! See ya soon.
Meg
posted by Meg Kelso | 5:45 AM
2 Comments:
I use to work for a club that rescued and rehabilitated abused Doberman Pinchers. Most big dogs will freeze if you can get all four of their feet up off the ground. Some dogs do get freakishly large. I had a dobie that weighed 120 pounds and stood head at my elbow (he was blue factored and that leads to giantism in dobes). My point is, if the puppy is hungry, feed him. As long as he gets plenty of exercise he won't be obese. You don't have to limit their food until they're adults and stop growing. Oh, and the leash thing, who ever has the leash is in control. By taking the leash (or killing it) he is asserting his dominence. Boxers are smart, energetic and pushy... don't let him bully you. Okay, I'm all done doggy-talkin', sorry :o)
You know, my grand-daughter's mother has a neopolitan (sp?)mastiff that is blue...it is HUGE. And, it just had $2,000 puppies.
Meg
Oh, I got my dog from them too.
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