After seeing this in my email...
Should I consider this the first warning of what is to come? This girl has spent the last year trying to break us up, fist fight me, or a number of other crappy things she has done. She's vandalized his vehicle, and spread my name through the entire town.
...I decided to answer it at the top of the post I had already completed.
First of all, you don’t want to be associated with the type of person who would do those things in the first place. That he even dated someone of her ilk speaks poorly of him.
Secondly, twenty years old is far too young to get married...period. But when you add deceitful behavior (which, at the very best, this guy’s most certainly WAS), you have a problem whatever age your are.
Yeah, Mandi, that’s bad. I am so sorry. I am on my way out to a patient’s house otherwise I would call you right now, but I will call you sometime today. There is no excuse for his deception. If you give him every benefit of the doubt (which wouldn’t be smart), the behavior that you are sure of is not acceptable. Maybe he will, at some point, grow up. My ex did, but it was too late for us. Maybe yours will even learn quickly. But you can’t get married until he does. And it takes a long, long time to build trust up once it is broken. So, even you would have some work to do before you should marry him.
But, as pretty, smart and kind as you are, you won’t be alone for long. Trust me, you will not be alone for long! Go have some fun girl, you will never have a better chance than you have right now. I try to go out and have fun but I can’t because everybody else is younger than my children. I wouldn’t mind so much except for everybody calls me “Ma’am” all the time. African-American adults call me Miss Meg. These are old people terms and I can’t really have fun with people who call me old people terms.
The most fun I ever had in my life was when I was in my mid to late twenties. You have so much time and with no children, there is no end to the fun you could have.
Let me tell you something else girl, I don’t even remember the names of the guys I was with when I was twenty. The ones I do remember give me the shivering willies when I think of them. I want to ask the people reading this to do me a favor. This one is for Mandi, actually.
I’d like to show Mandi how relatively unimportant this guy is. So, please, in the comment section, tell me where the person you were in love with at age twenty is. Unless you are twenty-one, I bet they are not too close. Mandi, this guy will be a footnote in your life story. Please don’t waste too many tears on him. People are either honest or they are not. There is no in between. This guy is basically a dishonest person and I wouldn’t give you two cents for him. OMG, you can do better. I’ll speak with you later.
While he watched it, he would stroke my body all the while not taking his eyes off the t.v. He would do this for the WHOLE movie. When it was over, he would treat me like the men treated the porn actresses. It was very hurtful when he did this. I once tried to stop, and he said "at least let me finish before you go and cry about it...dont be such a bitch!"
This is exactly the kind of guy that we all fear. Now, you know this guy wasn’t acting like this when he was just dating this lady, she wouldn’t have gone back twice. So, he KNOWS that this isn’t the way to win girlfriends and influence women, but he chooses to use her for his own purposes. This is a perfect example of a man using a woman as a toilet for sperm. I hope he doesn’t have the nerve to call this behavior “making love” because it surely is nothing even resembling love. He knows this may make her cry, yet he doesn’t care a bit. As a matter of fact, the crying should be a clue that something is bothering her. When you love a woman, you are as hurt as she is when you see her crying. This lady’s tears were just an annoyance to this man, not a concern.
I'm with Vetter. If I'm with a date, I'm with her. What the hell am I ogling other women for? I think it's a clear sign of disrespect.
Of course it is. Everybody knows that it is. It’s just that some people are very inconsiderate. I think I mentioned that before. They simply don’t CONSIDER the fact that someone else may be hurt by their actions If they HAVE even considered someone else’s feelings, then they have decided that it doesn’t matter. In other words, they have actually thought to themselves, “This may hurt someone’s feelings but I enjoy it so much that I am not going to stop it.” That is also another allusion to the “if it feels good, do it” mentality. People somehow feel entitled to whatever they find pleasurable. Vex certainly did. And then, if you stand in the way of their pleasure to any degree, they become very angry with you. Vex did that as well. And when they do that, they have to justify the cruelty so they begin to degrade you and tell you what YOU have done wrong. It is so damned predictable.
Now, as to my ogling, i just can't help it. In fact, I often call attention to it by cocking my head back & forth like Nipper the RCA dog does when he hears his masters voice.
Yep. I admit, it most certainly is innate in the male of the species and I never faulted anyone for that. But, when there is a lady right next to you, it really is rude to do it. The ability to control certain basic urges is one very important thing that sets SOME of us above animals.
Jesus! You've gotta be making that up! Please tell me that was a joke, anonymous.
Nope. It isn’t a joke. Guy, this is what a lot of men are like. That’s why the person made that Alan Alda comment. This is not at all hard for me to imagine. I run into men like this all the time. They aren’t necessarily “bad” guys, they are just self-centered. It could certainly be worse. I wouldn’t DATE this guy, but he very well could be fun to hang out with, who knows? At least he is being honest. I respect that. I can always handle the truth. I would rather have an honest man who looked than a dishonest one who didn't. First, I am going to look for one who agrees on both notes.
As to what you said to the guy in McDonalds, you were well within your rights. Just as I would have been when I burst out laughing in your face.
Yeah, but trust me (not that it matters to you, but of this I am sure), everyone in the place would have thought you were an ass. But, GOD BLESS AMERICA, you are right!
Jill assures her that nudity is "natural" and as such, should not be censured or censored. Heckert's character replies that diarrhea is also natural, but she wouldn't care to see it performed on stage.
Anne, my father is a great one for using that kind of logic. There are many, many natural things that we wouldn’t want to be exposed to, diarrhea and flatulence are two that come to mind immediately.
Your blog is making me grin....Do you ever wonder if people are reading your blog? I do...sometimes I feel like I'm writing into a vast space-- I'm compelled to write 'cause I'm a writer...but at the same time, I don't want to write in a vacuum, and I guess blogs are just that.But, know that his stranger, some women who lives on a mountain in NC read some of your words and smiled, and related to some things, and well, I stopped by-- a visitor to your blog.
Hi....:-)
http://kathrynmagendie.blogspot.com/
Thank you Kathryn, it is nice to hear from the people who read what I write. Yes, I did wonder at one point if anyone was reading but now I get responses and they actually help me write. People who share their own stories with me let me know that I have struck a nerve with someone. I have a bunch of helpful hints for anyone who is writing a blog and I am going to write a complete post for them next. I am going to share some of the tools that I have found useful so come back later and sometime, before I go to bed tonight, I will have that post here for anyone that is writing a blog. I started in January and I have learned a lot of things that are very helpful. There are so many ideas that you could use that I want to devote an entire post to that alone. I will give you ideas and links to the best blog tips that I have found as of yet.
See you all later,
Meg
Should I consider this the first warning of what is to come? This girl has spent the last year trying to break us up, fist fight me, or a number of other crappy things she has done. She's vandalized his vehicle, and spread my name through the entire town.
...I decided to answer it at the top of the post I had already completed.
First of all, you don’t want to be associated with the type of person who would do those things in the first place. That he even dated someone of her ilk speaks poorly of him.
Secondly, twenty years old is far too young to get married...period. But when you add deceitful behavior (which, at the very best, this guy’s most certainly WAS), you have a problem whatever age your are.
Yeah, Mandi, that’s bad. I am so sorry. I am on my way out to a patient’s house otherwise I would call you right now, but I will call you sometime today. There is no excuse for his deception. If you give him every benefit of the doubt (which wouldn’t be smart), the behavior that you are sure of is not acceptable. Maybe he will, at some point, grow up. My ex did, but it was too late for us. Maybe yours will even learn quickly. But you can’t get married until he does. And it takes a long, long time to build trust up once it is broken. So, even you would have some work to do before you should marry him.
But, as pretty, smart and kind as you are, you won’t be alone for long. Trust me, you will not be alone for long! Go have some fun girl, you will never have a better chance than you have right now. I try to go out and have fun but I can’t because everybody else is younger than my children. I wouldn’t mind so much except for everybody calls me “Ma’am” all the time. African-American adults call me Miss Meg. These are old people terms and I can’t really have fun with people who call me old people terms.
The most fun I ever had in my life was when I was in my mid to late twenties. You have so much time and with no children, there is no end to the fun you could have.
Let me tell you something else girl, I don’t even remember the names of the guys I was with when I was twenty. The ones I do remember give me the shivering willies when I think of them. I want to ask the people reading this to do me a favor. This one is for Mandi, actually.
I’d like to show Mandi how relatively unimportant this guy is. So, please, in the comment section, tell me where the person you were in love with at age twenty is. Unless you are twenty-one, I bet they are not too close. Mandi, this guy will be a footnote in your life story. Please don’t waste too many tears on him. People are either honest or they are not. There is no in between. This guy is basically a dishonest person and I wouldn’t give you two cents for him. OMG, you can do better. I’ll speak with you later.
While he watched it, he would stroke my body all the while not taking his eyes off the t.v. He would do this for the WHOLE movie. When it was over, he would treat me like the men treated the porn actresses. It was very hurtful when he did this. I once tried to stop, and he said "at least let me finish before you go and cry about it...dont be such a bitch!"
This is exactly the kind of guy that we all fear. Now, you know this guy wasn’t acting like this when he was just dating this lady, she wouldn’t have gone back twice. So, he KNOWS that this isn’t the way to win girlfriends and influence women, but he chooses to use her for his own purposes. This is a perfect example of a man using a woman as a toilet for sperm. I hope he doesn’t have the nerve to call this behavior “making love” because it surely is nothing even resembling love. He knows this may make her cry, yet he doesn’t care a bit. As a matter of fact, the crying should be a clue that something is bothering her. When you love a woman, you are as hurt as she is when you see her crying. This lady’s tears were just an annoyance to this man, not a concern.
I'm with Vetter. If I'm with a date, I'm with her. What the hell am I ogling other women for? I think it's a clear sign of disrespect.
Of course it is. Everybody knows that it is. It’s just that some people are very inconsiderate. I think I mentioned that before. They simply don’t CONSIDER the fact that someone else may be hurt by their actions If they HAVE even considered someone else’s feelings, then they have decided that it doesn’t matter. In other words, they have actually thought to themselves, “This may hurt someone’s feelings but I enjoy it so much that I am not going to stop it.” That is also another allusion to the “if it feels good, do it” mentality. People somehow feel entitled to whatever they find pleasurable. Vex certainly did. And then, if you stand in the way of their pleasure to any degree, they become very angry with you. Vex did that as well. And when they do that, they have to justify the cruelty so they begin to degrade you and tell you what YOU have done wrong. It is so damned predictable.
Now, as to my ogling, i just can't help it. In fact, I often call attention to it by cocking my head back & forth like Nipper the RCA dog does when he hears his masters voice.
Yep. I admit, it most certainly is innate in the male of the species and I never faulted anyone for that. But, when there is a lady right next to you, it really is rude to do it. The ability to control certain basic urges is one very important thing that sets SOME of us above animals.
Jesus! You've gotta be making that up! Please tell me that was a joke, anonymous.
Nope. It isn’t a joke. Guy, this is what a lot of men are like. That’s why the person made that Alan Alda comment. This is not at all hard for me to imagine. I run into men like this all the time. They aren’t necessarily “bad” guys, they are just self-centered. It could certainly be worse. I wouldn’t DATE this guy, but he very well could be fun to hang out with, who knows? At least he is being honest. I respect that. I can always handle the truth. I would rather have an honest man who looked than a dishonest one who didn't. First, I am going to look for one who agrees on both notes.
As to what you said to the guy in McDonalds, you were well within your rights. Just as I would have been when I burst out laughing in your face.
Yeah, but trust me (not that it matters to you, but of this I am sure), everyone in the place would have thought you were an ass. But, GOD BLESS AMERICA, you are right!
Jill assures her that nudity is "natural" and as such, should not be censured or censored. Heckert's character replies that diarrhea is also natural, but she wouldn't care to see it performed on stage.
Anne, my father is a great one for using that kind of logic. There are many, many natural things that we wouldn’t want to be exposed to, diarrhea and flatulence are two that come to mind immediately.
Your blog is making me grin....Do you ever wonder if people are reading your blog? I do...sometimes I feel like I'm writing into a vast space-- I'm compelled to write 'cause I'm a writer...but at the same time, I don't want to write in a vacuum, and I guess blogs are just that.But, know that his stranger, some women who lives on a mountain in NC read some of your words and smiled, and related to some things, and well, I stopped by-- a visitor to your blog.
Hi....:-)
http://kathrynmagendie.blogspot.com/
Thank you Kathryn, it is nice to hear from the people who read what I write. Yes, I did wonder at one point if anyone was reading but now I get responses and they actually help me write. People who share their own stories with me let me know that I have struck a nerve with someone. I have a bunch of helpful hints for anyone who is writing a blog and I am going to write a complete post for them next. I am going to share some of the tools that I have found useful so come back later and sometime, before I go to bed tonight, I will have that post here for anyone that is writing a blog. I started in January and I have learned a lot of things that are very helpful. There are so many ideas that you could use that I want to devote an entire post to that alone. I will give you ideas and links to the best blog tips that I have found as of yet.
See you all later,
Meg
posted by Meg Kelso | 8:42 AM
2 Comments:
Ok for Mandi...His name s David and he is scrambling trying to find a place to live. He has to move out of "our" house because we got divorced because he cheated on me with a 23 year old bimbo. So he has to move out cause we have a buyer for the house. He rarely sees his 4 year old son, looks like crap and is truly living the life of white trash.
I married him shortly my 21st birthdy and got divorced shortly after I turned 30. If I hadnt had a wonderful son I woudl say I "wasted" part of my prime....so think long and hard and DONT SETTLE!!!!
I have seen cases like Mandi's and it isn't good. You are right, Meg, being in her twenties she will not remember this guy's name as she get older only his actions. I personally believe that as corrupt as this guy is the only thing that will turn his actions around would be to see exactly what he is losing, namely Mandi. All it takes is to lose something that is really important to you, a love or your freedom (jail time) and he will see how bad his actions were and the end result of those actions. This is a downward spiral that you must climb out of immediately. My thoughts are with you Mandi and with you Meg.
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