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Wednesday, June 21, 2006

I've been dating a married man...

...and of course, I had no clue. It isn't Biff, thank the Lord...it's the "wonderful" guy who took me to that great restaurant. I say, "thank the Lord" because I've slept with Biff, I didn't sleep with the married dude.

He doesn't know that I know yet but he will find out soon. I haven't decided how to let him know, but when I do, it's going to be in a very interesting manner. If anyone has any ideas as to how I can let him know that I know he's married, leave your idea in the comments section or email me at megbkelso@gmail.com.

I found out quite by accident. My friend who I occasionally take care of and I went to the wound care center this afternoon and when we got back to her house, I was chatting with her daughter. The daughter is married to an attorney and the bum is an attorney. I mentioned that one of the guys I was dating was a lawyer and she asked me what his name was. When I told her, she told me that the bum was married. It was quite a coincidence because of all of the law firms in Atlanta, the bum happens to work at the same law firm as her husband.

I would LOVE to tell you all his name, but his wife doesn't deserve that. I would hate to be the cause of the type of pain that Gial Glenn put me through. Let's just call him "John" for now.

John is very good, I never suspected for a moment that he was a married man. None of the regular clues were present. He gave me a phone number and I called him quite a few times. He took me to an apartment once and I assumed that it was his home. It was a studio and quite sparsely decorated but he said that he hadn't lived there for very long. He gave me his work number but I don't call people at work unless it's very important and I never had a good enough reason to call the bum at work.
His car didn't look like there had been a child in it. He drives a BMW and a sporty little one at that. It's a two seater, not something that I would expect a married man to be driving.

Damn...I never saw this coming at all! I told the woman who told me not to say anything but I would bet 4 bucks that she'll tell her husband. That's a lot of money for me because other than the alimony check that I just received, I only have 6 bucks to my name. I just hope that she doesn't tell anyone else that might send the word back to the bum. I want to be the one to let him know. I just have to get creative about this. I'm far too stunned to be very creative right now. But that's OK, I'll figure something out.

I won't tell his wife, but I want him to think that I will. We've made out a few times and therefore, he has made me a woman who made out with a married man. Aren't there enough trashy women out there? Do people have to drag decent human being's into their webs of deceit? Damn, I'm annoyed.

OK then...ideas are running through my head already. I could go to his studio and stick a note on his door saying that "I'm sorry I missed you...I'll be over at your house." Or, I could tell him that I just got a call from his wife and that she's on her way to my house and I need for him to come over and protect me.

That asshole even told me that I could decorate his place if I wanted to! We went shopping one day and I chose a lamp for the table next to his sofa-bed. He was going to take me out for my birthday and I can't think of a better time to spring the news on him. What a wonderful birthday present that would be!

OK, help me out here, how can I let this man know that I know he's married in a way that would totally FREAK him out?!?!?

I'm going to go think on that one for a while...any suggestions would be GREATLY appreciated!

Meg

27 Comments:

Blogger Preston Lancashire said...

Hi Meg,
it would be nice to get him to spend a load of money on you first,
string him along for a bit.

Just bear in mind he's a lawyer, he'll be clever enough.

I think you should do a bit of homework, find out his wife's name and what she does, then maybe you could drop her name in the conversation as a new/old friend or something, or maybe she's asked you to do something round at her/there house!

Take your time and think of something good.

June 21, 2006  
Blogger Crissi said...

Hee hee! It's too bad you didn't sleep with him, because then you could have given him the pregnancy scare....

June 21, 2006  
Blogger Meg said...

WHOA!!!! That WOULD have been good! You know, it's not too late, LOL. Damn these ethics of mine!

Meg

June 21, 2006  
Blogger Meg said...

Preston,

I already know her name. Now we're getting somewhere, I didn't think of that! She is a housewife so I can't say anything about her job. They have 5 kids. That poor woman has enough problems and probably not a moment to spare. I just spoke to the woman who told me that "John" was married. I was mistaken about something, he doesn't work at the same firm as my friend's husband, they just have worked together in the past. So, I don't have to worry about one man trying to protect the other by giving him a heads up unless he goes out of his way to tell him. I'll know if he DOES find out...he won't call me for the birthday date. Not unless he's a true idiot.

Meg

June 21, 2006  
Blogger Cassandra said...

Meg -

I've given quite a lot of thought to vengance towards my ex, and I really have decided that the best road is the high road. I just ignore him....well, I did threaten a restraining order at one point.

Now I just read his weblog and laugh at him.

Cassie

June 21, 2006  
Blogger Cassandra said...

Meg -

Oops. I might've posted an empty comment.

I've decided, having given it much thought (esp now that my ex has used my email name to sign me up for nine million porn accounts), that the best vengance is simply to leave him in the dust.

Of course, I do admit to reading his myspace blog and laughing my ass off!

June 21, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ahh the opportunities. I'd have to think on this one a bit, to come up with the best scenario. I like the preganancy bit, but don't lower yourself to sleeping with him just to scare him. Besides, the bum would probably just offer to pay for an abortion. Or even worse just insist you get one on your own. Remember he is a bum cheating on his wife. Give it some thought. I'm sure you can think of something appropriate.
dixiebelle1990@hotmail.com

June 21, 2006  
Blogger Meg said...

Cassie,

Tell us where his blog is so we can ALL laugh at him!

Meg

June 21, 2006  
Blogger Meg said...

Dix,

Of course, I wouldn't sleep with the bum. With my luck, he'd have some hideous STD or his wife would walk in right at that moment...I doubt that she would buy the story that I was doing it for her,LOL.

Meg

June 21, 2006  
Blogger Cassandra said...

Meg & Company -

Gladly!

www.myspace.com/bludragon9771

Everytime I look at it I wonder a) how someone can change so much and b) how I ever stayed married to someone so different than myself for five years!

June 21, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ok, since he gave you the work number, tell him you called and since he was not available, you let the girl who answered know that you were his girlfriend and had a package for him. You could tell him that the 'sweet girl' on the phone was hesitant to give it to you, but after some prodding, she gave you his home address. :) Then you could tell him that his car was in the driveway but you were confused by the woman and children in the front yard, so you didn't stop by. Maybe he'll fess up.

June 22, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

okay...maybe he's no longer married?? I know my county has all that info online, so with a quick search you might be able to verify???

Just a thought....

June 22, 2006  
Blogger Anne Arky said...

I personally like Preston's idea of the name dropping and was on my way to suggest it when I read his. If she has a common name, just dropping her first name would only elicit a small reaction, but if you specifically ask, "So...how's Marilyn doing?" or "What's Marilyn doing this summer while you're trying to boff me?" it would probably get a different kind of rise out of him than he had in mind.

June 22, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If they worked together in the past, how do you know he isn't divorced?

June 22, 2006  
Blogger Meg said...

Cassie,

You've brought up a very interesting point and after I finish frying some bacon, I'm going to address just that.

Thanks you leaving us your ex's site...feel free to address anything that he may have said that you take issue with, here OR on his blog.

OK...I'm going to publish some more comments, finish breakfats and then write about exactly what you've just said. As soon as I read it, it made me think a LOT.

Meg

June 22, 2006  
Blogger Meg said...

Ann,

I love the way you can take a turn of a word. You're so good at that...I wish I could do it!

And, yeah, I liked it too. I'm seriously considering my options because I'm sure he's calling to set up my "birthday date" and my birthday is next Thursday. I have less than a week to figure this one out.

Meg

June 22, 2006  
Blogger Meg said...

AHA! Yeah, certainly I can use his work phone to get at him...that's a new thought! I just don't want to worry that someone at the office might be a friend of his wife's. But, I can say anything TO him without actually calling his job but I think that we're narrowing in on my starting place!

Meg

June 22, 2006  
Blogger Meg said...

I never considered that he may be divorced, that's certainly a possibility. But, he did tell me that he had never been married. Man, when they lie, they certainly do take it to the greatest extent.

I didn't think about the fact that he could be seperated, I was just going on the assumption that the studio was his little "love nest".

Meg

June 22, 2006  
Blogger Meg said...

Meg and Company -

If you are really that bored...:-)

He has a link embedded in there somewhere to his original weblog on another site. That's the one I take offense to. If you do go there, please not that:

1. He didn't have a job for two years. This required me to sell my car, stop going to college, and refinance our house twice as I was the sole source of income.

2. He also fails to mention that he had 12 gf's while we were married, and when confronted about them, he lied to my face.

3. And I should also mention that he slept with three of my friends.

Cassie,

For some reason, this comment wouldn't publish so I stuck it in a comment of my own. If you are aware of 12 gf's, there were most likely more. I've learned that when a liar admits to one thing, the truth is usually worse. And damn, 3 of your freinds???

You have as bad luck with husbands as you do with friends! At least I can say that Rick never slept with any of my friends, of course, not that I know of anyway. I don't know if that's because of Rick's own standards or if it's a comment on my friends. Of course, he kept moving me from state to state so I never really had enough time to make many friends. Also, we pretty much lived a quiet life at home so I never had space in my life for friends. I have more friends now (in Georgia) than I ever had during the 12 years that we spent living here together.

Never let a man keep you from developing a life or friendships outside of your marriage, if you do, when the marriage fails, you'll find yourself alone and friendless like I did.

Meg

June 22, 2006  
Blogger Preston Lancashire said...

Hi Meg,
another good revenge I heard was the lady put some prawns in obscure parts of the husband's apartment, it doesn't take them long to smell the place out and they're very hard to track down!

It would work just as well in his car!

June 23, 2006  
Blogger Meg said...

OOOOOOHHH! That's GOOD! That's REALLY good. Imagine this, a well hidden fish here or there AND a cute little pair of panties that could be found during the shrimp search. I've been struggling with whether or not I want the wife to know that her hubby is a cheat. I would want to know. I cretainly don't want her to kn0ow that it was ME that he was cheating with, I don't even know if I want her to know at all. I think that she probably does know what he's up to...to some extent anyway. My mother always told me to ignore an affair and wait until it was over because if you let him know that you DO know, you're sort of forced to take a stand. I couldn't do that but perhaps this woman feels the same way that my mother did. I could go round and round with this one.

Meg

June 23, 2006  
Blogger Meg said...

By the way, in the Georgia heat, a prawn wouldn't take very long at all to stink to high heaven.

Meg

June 23, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Why waste time playing games? You talk about not having time for players and then spend days trying to develop a play. Be an adult and just tell the asshole that you know he is an asshole.

And, that you don't want to be lied to, or talk with or otherwise associate with liars and cheaters. That you feel hurt and dissapointed and it is only your desire to be an adult that is keeping you from causing further hurt in his life. Request that he not contact you again. The end.

June 23, 2006  
Blogger Meg said...

Yeah, that sounds good. But, this isn't out of the hurt or disappointment, it's just for the pure fun of it. Shit and giggles my friend, shit a giggles.

Meg

June 23, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My bet would be that anonymous up there is a man who is cheating on his wife otherwise he would understand the point.

June 23, 2006  
Blogger Meg said...

That was my first thought but it's not necessarily so. He (or she) might just be a very serious person with a helluva lot more maturity than I have or maybe they just honestly feel as though that would be the best thing to do. One way or another, I always welcome comments. I have a feeling that this is exactly what my father would have said. Whatever, I'm on a mission to teach this guy a lesson. And no, it may not be my job. But, like I said, shit and giggles:):):)

Meg

June 23, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

"Yeah, that sounds good. But, ..."

And there you go, players attract players; adults attract adults. You can have a lot of fun as an adult. I just never thought that Jr High was fun or for adults. Enjoy schemeing I am going to go live and play while there is still time.

June 23, 2006  

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