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Saturday, April 30, 2005

The following post is 100% my opinion.

Usually, when a person passes away...

...they leave their children behind to remember them. We bury our parents and then we go to the cemetery to remember them. We tell our children stories about the people we've loved and lost and somehow, their memory is kept alive.But when your only child is the main suspect in your murder and the police never find your body...who remembers you?My father's sister was murdered by her own son. And my aunt wasn't his only victim. He murdered an ex-girlfriend and then set fire to the trailer that held her dead body. I assume that the ex-girlfriend's family is remembering her...but who will remember my aunt?

Mary Ann was a beautician. She only had one child and she never thought that she would even have that baby. He was her miracle child and she and my uncle spoiled him rotten. They were so happy to have that baby that they did everything in their power to make life easy for him. Mary Ann and her husband moved from New Jersey to Georgia years ago to live in the country and away from the congestion of the city. They loved their little place in the beautiful hills of North Georgia. Mary Ann lost her husband to a stroke a few years ago. She was living alone with her son when all of a sudden, everyone stopped hearing from her.

When anyone, including the cops, called to speak to Aunt Mary Ann...he had a different reason for her inavailabilty. He made a huge error, he never told the same story twice. He wote tens of thousands of dollars of checks on her checking account within weeks. In this state, they have to prove that the forger did NOT have the permission of the account holder before they can convict a person of forgery. Can you believe that? Also, he made numerous suspiscious purchases with her accounts, like numerous cars and trucks full of gas at the same gas station. And 3 or 4 stereo systems a day from the same stores. I don't even remember all the things that he did with her money...but he went through it like it was water.

He did eventually get arrested and he has already served the time for that crime. When the cops got a search warrant for my aunt's house, they found a bunch of stolen guns and he went to prison for "theft by possesion or something like that. Actually, that's what the cop told me...I think it ended up being a lesser crime. I'll get the link to the Georgia Department of Corrections for you if you want to see what he went up the river for. Also, they have his charming picture. I'll try to post that. Yesterday, it didn't work.Anywa, Aunt Mary Ann was the third of 7 children and most of her siblings are rather elderly themselves right now so they don't have the energy to initiate searches for her body. They all live in states far away from Georgia, where my aunt lived, and that makes it even tougher for them to do much about the murder. Of course, they call the police every so often but they haven't gotten any answers at all. They know that the son is most likely the one who murdered their sister, but if the cops can't prove it, how can they? At least the cops KNOW it, whether they can do anything or not. If all that I can do is have people KNOW that he did it...that's better than nothing. And if the cops KNOW that, that makes them my friends. This is NOT a situation where you don't want the cops to back away at all.

Once I called greta van Susterern and she wrote back that she forwarded my e-mail "to her producers" but nothing ever came of that. I wouldn't have sent it at all if she hadn't said RIGHT ON HER SHOW...that she wanted us to write in with unsolved murders. So...I did. But nobody cares. It touches you guys because, as I learned a long time ago (and I said it many times in the first 6-8 months of the blog before I got sick of saying it or thought that you were sick of hearing it. But, I haven't said it in a long time.) the people who read this blog on a regular basis are almost always thoughtful, kind people. Not perfect, but not evil either. So I know that you understand how it must suck to know a murder victim, much less having one in the family. Murder is such a hideous thing. Can you imagine taking a life? And like everything else in the world...once you do it and get away with it, it gets easier and easier. Isn't that horrible?

My aunt and I were not very close but she's family. Her brother is my father and I care deeply about him. I care that he has to live with the knowledge that the man who murdered his sister will most likely get away with the crime. Mary Ann's other brothers and sisters will also have to live with that same knowledge.I don't know how on earth they have the strength to do that. If someone killed one of my brothers or sisters, I would do everything in my power to find the person responsible and hold him accountable. But if I couldn't, I would have nothing but prayers to help ease my pain.But, my original question remains...who remembers the people who die like this? What do we do as a society or as a family? Do we simply go about our lives and pretend that it didn't happen? Do we yell to anyone who will listen that there is a murderer running free? What do I do as the relative of a murder victim? What do I do to protect other people from my cousin?

All that I can think of is to tell you what I know. My cousin's name is Paul Robert Mergel, Jr. He was raised in New Jersey so he has a very pronounced Jersey accent. The last I heard he was living in Georgia but I have no reason to think that he is still here other than his children are still living here. Also, the fact that my father has control over his mother's estate gives him reason to stick around until the money is divied up. If my father succeeds in keeping the money from Paul, then his kids will be the beneficiaries so he will then have a reason to stick close to his kids. But, he could be anywhere.

The "man" is 5' 9" tall, and well over 200 pounds the last time I saw him in court. He has dark, curly hair and he is a double-murderer. I don't know how he got away with the murder in New Jersey, but he got away with his mother's murder by finding an excellent hiding place for her body. I happen to have his old New Jersey state ID card and I'm going to take a picture of it with my web cam and post it on the blog. It's not much, but it's the only thing that I can come up with right now.I'm going to give it some more thought and maybe even ask some questions of the police department that is handling my aunt's murder. That police department is the Murray County Georgia Police Department. I may be able to get another picture of him from the Georgia Department of Corrections web site and if I do, I'll post that picture as well. If you have the misfortune of meeting this "man", run away as fast as you can.

Meg

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That takes the strength of character that made a lady seek help for her sadness.

Is this the lady who wrote you saying that life wasn't fun anymore? If so, I'm happy to hear she got help. She really needed to find some help for that and I'm glad she got it before things turned ugly for her. :-)

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My friend's satellite is out!!!!

I am going to have to call a puter dude friend of mine and have him copy it to disk. It is raining in Georgia today and she just called to tell me that her staellite was out. How's that for luck.

Darn, I'm wishing I had HBO right about now. Sorry Meg, but I made a chioce a long time ago to try and minimize the amount of bad influences our, my, daughter is exposed to. One of things I put limits on is TV. No HBO, no ShowTime, no Starz, so I won't get to see you tonight, but I can hope it goes over well. I hope watching it cause you to relive the joy you had in doing it.

Hey, don't feel badly, the reason I have to watch it elsewhere is because I don't have it either! I don't blame you one bit. But, thanks for the kind wishes, I hope I do get to see it tonight. Damn it.

Meg,You look so different in this picture was it a very long time ago?

No, it was taken last spring, before I got so sick. I lost 80 pounds between being sick and being abused and dumped. The jerk was already cheating on me when he took that picture. It was taken at the same time I took the one I posted of him. Now I know why he was smiling so big with those nasty baked bean teeth of his. Notice he has no eye teeth, in his family, they pull crooked teeth, in mine, we get braces. Yeeesh, I get the willies just thinking about kissing that thing.

OK, now I have to go call a friend of mine to make sure I get this movie on disk.

See ya!

Meg

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"Me thinks"? "Take hims back"? Meg, This phrasing only works for Gollum/Smeagol. Suggest he needs to spend more time in the daylight and get a life beyond the fantasy of Lord of the Rings.

LOLOLOLOL, Marc, you are so right, I can’t believe I didn’t catch that!!! I am a HUGE Rings fan, which is why Vex took my trilogy when he was sneaking out of the house all last summer. He didn’t care about it, but he knew it would hurt me. What a charmer. Luckily, I was given a boxed set for Christmas. You are so right, this nut does speak like Gollum, I imagine he is about as attractive.

You know, in all of the time I have had this blog, I have gotten perhaps 3 negative emails, this nut’s being the most recent. I am actually glad that I do hear from an occasional nut...it makes me ever so much more appreciative of the normal people. The stark contrast between decent people and whack jobs reminds me to be thankful for the normal people. There was a time when the nutty emails bugged me, but as I said, I have learned to be grateful for them. After thinking about it a bit, I wouldn’t be at all surprised to learn that this one came from a trailer park off of Wade Green Road in Kennesaw, Georgia. They seem to be written by the ilk of person that would not be able to find their own partner, but rather be happy with anybody else’s.

I am very perceptive and I can pick up on a tricksy person quite well, especially now that my mind is no longer being manipulated. I get such a kick out of knowing that those two sleaze balls are manipulating each other. My only regret is that I won’t be there to see them on the day that they finally realize that they are both slugs. Vex can work out all he wants to, he will never know the happiness of being a decent human being, free of guilt and regrets. It is an absolute impossibility for a human being to be truly happy when they haven’t the guts to be honest with themselves.

If Gollum truly thinks that I would ever go back to slumming, he/she is dumber than dirt. As though I would go through all of the effort to write all of this in hopes of getting IT back...I made sure that the restraining order was incorporated into the divorce. That means that as long as we are divorced, he can not come near me without being arrested. I was the one who filed for the divorce, I didn’t buy Vex’s BS, “I just need a 2-3 year break from our marriage, I don’t want a divorce.” In other words, he wanted to go out and get some “strange” (as he puts it) and then be sure to have an open door back to me. I could have had him back by now if I had wanted him, of that I am positive. When he asked me to wait for him, he let me know that he was just out for a good time and I hope he has been having it...the criminal trial will be soon. Not one freak in his freaky family has ever called to apologize or do anything that would mitigate my experience, not that it would have worked, but if it were my brother/son who abused a woman who was too sick to even take care of herself, I would have called and apologized myself. But then again, I was raised with a degree of decency that does not exist in any one person he is related to. Of course, it’s hard to say who he is related to because his mother won’t tell her kids who their fathers are and if those young “men” are really Vex’s, I am very glad that I never let his genes mix with mine. People in my family graduate from high school and then some, in his family, they don’t. They tend to have 4 kids before they are 20 and that is never conducive to a decent education. Well, I am going to take a quick nap before I go to my friends to watch the movie. My back is killing me again and I prefer to sleep through the pain.

See ya!

Meg

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Darn, I'm wishing I had HBO right about now. Sorry Meg, but I made a chioce a long time ago to try and minimize the amount of bad influences our, my, daughter is exposed to. One of things I put limits on is TV. No HBO, no ShowTime, no Starz, so I won't get to see you tonight, but I can hope it goes over well. I hope watching it cause you to relive the joy you had in doing it.

Have a great evening.

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By the way...

The movie I did last fall premieres tonight on HBO. It is called Warm Springs and I have posted some of the pictures from the shoot. If you have HBO and nothing else better to do, watch for me tonight. I am going to be watching it with my friend who is homebound. She was the first person to call and tell me when it would be on and that was about a month ago so she got dibs on me. I have heard that the movie has gotten excellent reviews so I am really excited about watching it. If you spot me, let me know!!!

Meg

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I wore this costume in a scene where I enter a passenger car of a train. These costumes were actually antique clothing, they were beautiful.

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This is one costume I wore, I think I was wearing it in the scene where FDR changes the name of the town to Warm Springs.

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Cynthia Nixon plays Eleanor.

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Here I am with Kenneth Branaugh, he plays FDR in the movie.

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The "Five Elegant Ladies', look for us...I am the one on the right.

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Rick sucks!<3,> The NY chicks

Yes!!! He does.

me thinks the door is still open to rick. me thinks this whole thing especially all the date storys are just to make him jealous enough to leave gail and come back to you. you always take hims back. why is this time any diferent?. if he'd come back he'd be back.

Me thinks you ARE Rick. Nobody else on the planet would be so stupid. Come to court and hear me testify about the violence...see if you still think I would let him back...that...my odd little friend, is the difference. That and I am not about to watch him pay another 18 years of child support to another woman’s child. Especially when the women he chooses are such trashy skanks...they never let him see the kids, they end up hating him and life is just miserable. Then, he goes and screws another one...I don’t want any STD’s and one of his ex tramps (Don’t think we are friends just because I listened to you, I just wanted the info) told me some freaky things about him...I am clean and I like it that way. :)

some people mistake them for "people with dark skin". some people mistake them for "half irish". even without my glasses i know what i'm looking at here.

Ah...I see. Obviously the same illiterate jack ass wrote both of these...oops, I forgot to add bigot. It’s amazing how prejudice can ooze through a computer like this...man IT IS 2005!!!! Even my hideous Vex wouldn't say something like that...for all of his faults, he isn't a bigot.

When I was a little girl, I was sitting on the couch in front of my grandmother. I was playing with pipe cleaners and I twisted two of them into a shape I had seen some boys at school doodle. All of a sudden and without warning, I felt a sharp burn on my right ear. My grandmother had whacked me “up side the head” for making a swastika. I didn’t know what I had done and she had never hit me before so I was quite taken aback. I went outside and sat in the garden swing.

She came out a few minutes later and tried to explain what that thing meant. She explained how some people hated other people just because they were different. I asked her if Gladys was different. Gladys was a lady who worked in Grandma’s restaurant along with her husband and they had 16 kids. They would occasionally take me home with them and I just loved them. Grandma said that yes, there were people who would hate Gladys because she was different. I asked her why God made people different. She thought for a few minutes and then she asked me to look at her garden. She asked whether or not I thought she should have planted one kind of flower instead of all the different kinds that she had planted. Naturally, I said that it was prettier with all the different flowers. She said, “That’s why God made us different, so when he looked down on what he had done, it would be more beautiful.”

Now, this woman was born in 1917 and was raised in the mountains along the border of Virginia and West Virginia. She knew people who fought in the Civil War. She was a perfect candidate for bigotry, but somehow her family raised her to be a true Christian, not a true religious nut, but a true Christian. Thank God. She raised a wonderful daughter who married a wonderful man and the two of them not only taught us tolerance by example, but they went out of their way to make sure we grew up without prejudice. How sad that this whack job didn’t have the same kind of parents.

Being raised the way I was, in the open minded suburbs of Chicago, we never saw bigotry. Oh, I’m sure it was there, it just wasn’t cool to let anyone know. When I moved to the South in the early 80’s, I met people who used the N word in conversation with me. I always asked, “What in the world makes you think you can speak to me that way?” When I was working my way through college as a waitress, a nice older couple sat at one of my tables. They sat there and chatted with me, telling me about their church and their grandchildren, they were just lovely. Then, when they left, they shoved the tip into my hand and said, “We didn’t want that colored girl to take this.” Well, that “colored girl” was in college too. Today she is a pediatrician. I gave them their money back and told them that the “colored girl” was the one person in that restaurant who wouldn’t have stolen that stupid tip. I was so disappointed.

It was almost as disappointing as this comment was. They were older and raised in a time and place where I understood why they acted like that. I had a very good friend named Patricia. I also had a Great-Aunt named Mamie. I was very close to both of them. I told Mamie about Patricia and I told Patricia about Mamie. One day, I was taking Aunt Mamie fishing because she loved to go and she had outlived 4 husbands (she always married older men saying, “I’d rather be a young man’s sweetheart than an old man’s slave.”) and she lived alone. We stopped to gas up the car before we drove to Smith Mountain Lake to fish. By coincidence, Patricia pulled up in her car at about the same time we pulled up. I was so happy, I could introduce my aunt to my friend. After I did, and we drove away, Aunt Mamie said, “I never had a colored friend.” The way she said it showed her disdain for my friend and even a little for me. I didn’t know what to say.

Later on, I told Patricia about it. She said, “Well, you know, the way she was raised, you really can’t expect her to feel differently.” Patricia was so kind and forgiving, yet my aunt was staunch and uncaring in her attitude.

When I was hosting comedy shows, I would go to comedy clubs looking for talent to book for my shows. I didn’t care what “color” the people were...I wanted funny folk. Most of the people I hired happened to be African American. So, I worked with many of them and when some of them eventually hosted their own shows, they would ask me to perform for them. I spent a lot of time in urban clubs and I was never once treated as badly as some of them were when they performed for me at “white” places. In my entire life, I have never been treated badly by a person of color but I most assuredly have been treated badly by a few white people. You do the math.

"Me thinks"? "Take hims back"? Nice grammar, are you Rick? LOL ;-)Seriously, dude. Have you seen his picture? There's no way. Hobos will look like a better option now that his talons are out of her and she's thinking clearly.

THANK YOU GUY!!!!! Your email came at the perfect time, I was ready to post this and checked for emails first, I am so glad yours was there, now talk about serendipitous! And by they way, the hobo that came to my house last Thanksgiving WAS a better catch than the Vexster could ever hope to be. Underneath his hobo-ness, I could see a man that looked just like a young Rod Stewart. It's a shame that alcohol got him. Vex has no excuse like that, he is a jack ass sober.

Meg

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"Me thinks"? "Take hims back"?

Meg,

This phrasing only works for Gollum/Smeagol. Suggest he needs to spend more time in the daylight and get a life beyond the fantasy of Lord of the Rings.

Glad you are having fun, -Marc

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Meg,

I am happy to see that there is life after hell. It spirits me. Thank you for words, and for sharing your thoughts.

Oh my God!!!! That is why I am here!!!! Just so that someone, anyone, a bunch of people, whatever, will see exactly that!!!! Yeah, I do remember your earlier comment and I thank you for that. See what I mean about being your own best friend? You gave me great advice, now give yourself some, or at least take mine...there IS indeed life after hell and leaving the devil behind is the best thing that could possibly happen to you! It certainly was for me. Well, I am going to go to bed now...with a huge smile on my face. Not just because of Ralf, but because somebody gets it...thank you so much for letting me know.

Good night all,

Meg

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MargaretHave you ever consiedered that Rick might still love you?What would it take for you to take him back?

What? Perhaps a severe brain injury. Are you nuts?!?!

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me thinks the door is still open to rick. me thinks this whole thing especially all the date storys are just to make him jealous enough to leave gail and come back to you. you always take hims back. why is this time any diferent?. if he'd come back he'd be back.

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"Me thinks"? "Take hims back"? Nice grammar, are you Rick? LOL ;-)

Seriously, dude. Have you seen his picture? There's no way. Hobos will look like a better option now that his talons are out of her and she's thinking clearly.

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Can you BELIEVE I was sad when this woman beater cheated on me? Gag me with a spoon. Gail Glenn can have him, and, knowing him, any other nasty bimbo who asks can have him as well.

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Rick sucks!

<3, The NY chicks

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Blogger That Weird Guy said...

Feel free to post pictures of yourself, your dates, your lovely daughter, your cute grandkids, etc...

But please stop posting pictures of Danny DeVito's uglier brother. It's unsettling. ;-)

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Wow.
The perfectly shaped head for a tin-foil pointy hat. Absolute symmetry.

(I can't believe I'm having so much fun already and I've still got YEARS to catch up on!)
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Well I'm back!

And I had an absolutely wonderful time. Ralf was such a sweetie, I have a new appreciation for the German people. He was funny, kind and a gentleman. And add to that he is about as handsome a man as I have seen in a long time. I sometimes wonder if I deserve to have this much fun. What a shame he has to go back to Germany, I would love to keep him. He has only played pool twice in his life, apparently they don't have many pool tables in Germany. He is an electrical engineer and after he leaves Atlanta, he has a stop in Greenville, South Carolina and then he's off to Ontario before he goes back home. His English was excellent but every so often, he didn't know what I meant so I taught him a few new things. He wasn't sure how to refer to African Americans, in Germany the politically correct way to refer to them translates to, "people with dark skin". He wasn't sure how to tip so I taught him that as well. We have decided to be online pen pals and one day I hope I get to visit him in Germany.

Jeez, I had a lovely evening...I can't believe that a situation that nearly killed me has led me to this. If there is anyone out there who is dealing with a cretin and thinks that they have to stay, please, please, please, give peace a chance. Let yourself have an opportunity to be happy. I don't mean the cheap kind of happy that you experience when you cheat on the one who loves you, but true happiness that can only be found by living the right way and behaving in a manner that makes you proud instead of sleazy. Some of the rockiest roads I have ever traveled have led me to some of the most spectacular places I could have ever dreamed of. Give it some thought, you deserve it.

Meg

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Friday, April 29, 2005

So, halfway through the evening I put my hair in pigtails, call me kookie.

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Have you ever consiedered that Rick might still love you?What would it take for you to take him back?

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Thank you, thank you, thank you, Rick...and don't ever come back, I enjoy smiling.

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I think I'm moving to Germany.

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You know, if that cowardly bully hadn't cheated on me, I would never have met this handsome German dude.

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Lucky, lucky me...

...I am met a German guy who is here on business and he is here all alone!!! Poor foreign dude, we can't let the poor guy sit in his hotel room now, can we? That would be just awful for diplomatic relations which are already a tad tenuous. So, being the good American woman that I am, I shall handle this one folks. I have already spoken to him, I am dragging his German butt over to a pool table so I can dazzle him with my skill. And I was afraid I would have to fly solo this evening, tsk, tsk, tsk.

I don't know about you but I think that a foreign subject is perfect at best and necessary at least. Especially one who will only be here for 2-3 weeks. And, for my own purposes, I am pleased to announce that he is 6'4" tall. I had to convert that from centimeters myself because when I asked him how tall he was, he said, "194." WOW!!!! Doesn't that SOUND really tall? Well, I am off to do the patriotic thing and escort this lonely man that is just so very far from home. Oh, and I best not forget the camera.

See ya when I get back...

Meg

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The fiend took this picture of me and then I took the one of him.

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Meg,

You look so different in this picture was it a very long time ago?

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Hi!

I finally got a chance to go to the hospital and get the documentation that should get me out of trouble for missing the court date for my speeding ticket while I was in the hospital. And Vex is still pretending to live with his sister, LOLOL. It is like when we were together, he knew he was cheating, I knew he was cheating and he knew I knew he was cheating but he stuck to his story like Gail Glenn sticks to married men. He doesn’t live with his sister, he knows it, I know it, he knows I know it but he wants to pretend otherwise. I hope that helps him in some way...what a total moron. You know how people look good to you if they are very pleasant but not so hot? Well Vex used to look good to me until I realized what a fiend he was. With him not around to manipulate my brain, I can now see him for what he is...a middle aged bald dim wit who has absolutely no courage or morals whatsoever. I am going to post a picture of him so you can see how blinded I was.

Anyway, someone commented that Anne Arky (not Arke, mea culpa) sounded fake. Of course it is a fake name but she is not a fake lady. She is a lovely woman who is a published author and an excellent poet. I hit the jackpot with her, I can tell already that she is the kind of friend who anyone would be lucky to have and I am soooo happy to have made her acquaintance. She is only one of the many benefits I have reaped from this blog. (By the way, Stacey, I miss hearing from you!)

Oh, and Guy, (also a fake name, I know their real names but I respect their privacy) I didn’t think you thought I was stupid:

Sorry if I implied stupidity. I didn't mean to do that. I'm glad to hear that you have thought about it and taken steps to protect yourself.

I just wanted to reassure you all that I WASN’T stupid, in case anyone WAS thinking that.

After reading a bunch of profiles of married men on the PlentyOfFish thing, I can’t believe I ever expected Vex to be faithful. Apparently, it takes one helluva guy to remain faithful to one woman and we have already figured out that Vex is less than a good man, much less a helluva guy. These guys are amazing, there was one who said how he wanted “a woman of substance, one who has a strong character and strong ethics...and she must be less than a size 12.” Most of them are quite secure in their sexual prowess, they haven’t lost any of their confidence, just their hair. It stuns me that these middle aged men are out there specifying that they want a woman under the age of 35, and they must be in good shape and it would be good if they were married as well. I guess that way, they figure that the woman has as much to lose as they do so she won’t be telling anyone about the affair.

Well, after writing that paragraph, I began feeling ill so I had to go and lie down for a little while. I feel better now. Before I came back to this post, I checked my email and found one from a reader that I haven’t heard from before. This is what he wrote:

Meg,I have been reading here for a couple months I guess, and it seems to me that it is about time to change the name of this place. Divorcing Rick now doesn't seem to apply. May I suggest, Enjoying Life Without Rick, or Enjoying Knowing One Day Rick Will Kick His A** for Letting Me Go, Or maybe something shorter like, Anchors Away. At any rate, it sounds like your studies have been enjoyable so far, have fun, and please be careful. Such a pretty person could be a target for some of this world's evil people.

Wasn’t that a very kind warning? I certainly appreciated that. Do you see why my self esteem has sky rocketed since I began this? Also, I must note that people who haven’t ever met me are more concerned about me than the man who swore to take care of me forever. As regards the name of this blog, I have been thinking about that myself. I had thought that I would change it on the day the divorce became final. What do the rest of you think? Do you have any suggestions for the new name of the blog? I really would be interested to hear some of your thoughts on that subject.

Well, it’s Friday evening and I have no man for tonight but I know where they keep them so I am going to get one. I'll take the camera along for you guys.

See ya!

Meg

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Actually Meg, you have heard from me before. I commented on your post of April 17th, which said in part ..."Meg, breathe; deeply and slowly. This life is your dance; don’t let others make you do the hustle if you want to waltz. Dance your dance, and enjoy every minute of it." (And yes I had to go back through them to find it, because no, I didn't remember the date, nor to honest the comment. Although re-reading reminds me it was a pretty good post, lol.)

You site caught my attention because I too have recently lost the one who promised to live me forever. Our divorce was finished one week before out twentieth anniversary. That was 4 moths ago, and I am still having a hard time with it. Most times I'm ok, but some times, well sometimes I'm not.

I am happy to see that there is life after hell. It spirits me. Thank you for words, and for sharing your thoughts.

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Meg,

Thanks for all your kind words. I've never been called a benefit before! I am reaping all kinds of benefits from your blog, and your friendship is one of them. You inspired me to create my own divorce blog, some twenty-plus years after the fact, and I owe you big!

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Good morning!

I went to the Marietta Diner last night to meet Anne Arke and we had the best time! (No, she is NOT part of my study.) We chatted for hours and I had the Gyro and she had stuffed mushrooms and we read poetry (hers, which was unbelievably good!) and we laughed. What fun, I think I have a friend!!!!!!

I had to take a break last night, not out of desire, just no man available for me to study but no worries, I have a few set up for the weekend. Sunday, a very nice guy and his dog are taking me and my dog to Kennesaw Mountain for a hike. I can’t wait. He is half Irish and I am all Irish so we have that in common, also he works in movies too. I do it as a hobby, he makes a living at it. Oh, he said I could post his picture so I will, actually, I will post it before I post this so that you don’t see him until you read this. He sent me a shot of him where he killed a lady (in a movie). My studies are going well, but then, I have always been a very good student, especially when I enjoy the material.

Be careful having the "strangers" pick you u at your house, it is a crazy world at times!

Don’t worry, for the most part I meet them at Starbucks or Schillings but when they do come here, it is only because I have spoken to them quite a bit first and then I find some stupid excuse to take them to my neighbor’s house before we leave just to make sure someone could identify them and their vehicle.

Okay, so which one was the guy who surreptitiously let it be known that he is still living with his (ex?) wife? I can't keep it all straight. :-)

YOU can't keep them straight? I need a secretary. Anne gave me some spread sheets last night and I am keeping notes so I can keep them straight. OK, that was Saturday man. But...I must say, he has convinced me that he was telling me the truth. As a matter of fact, as a result, he is moving out so that this is no longer an issue. I was amazed that he would have lied anyway because he sat down and said, “There are some things you should know...” He volunteered the info and more so I kind of have to give him the benefit of the doubt.

Daughter! Granddaughter! Wow!Well actually that's two distinct and very different Wows...a daddy Wow for that pretty girl in the fairy dress.and a something-else Wow for her aunt.

Hey dude, what about Grandma? She’s not so bad herself.

hmmm... reflexology. Perhaps I should take a course. What else? I have a friend who used to have a lot of success with palmistry (I see a short, dark stranger in your future, etc.)

Oh, yes, do learn this one. We were actually driving and he reached out and held my hand and then he started doing that reflexology stuff, I didn’t know what he was doing. I just said that it felt good and he told me what it was. He is a medical professional and as one myself, I know that we do have a few secrets up our sleeves when it comes to knowing certain places to touch...but I MUST learn this one! I would certainly suggest it to anyone out there who would like to have a little jump on the competition, I want him to do that again so I am going to see him again. The reflexology thing made up for his crooked nose, remember, give and take.

And if you can't be careful...Be good.

Honey, I can be both.

I usually try to set up the first date so we meet somewhere. I don't even offer to pick a girl up until the second date so that they don't have to feel weird about turning down the offer. :)

Guy, you are about as thoughtful as any one man could be. I better NEVER find you dissing yourself again! None of these guys asked to come to my house, the few who have gotten here were at my invitation, and that was only after I got to know them a bit. Also, I am not stupid, I know how to make sure that they know someone has seen them with me. I don’t do it like a cop, pictures or anything, I do it very slyly, “Oh, before we go in, I have to introduce you to my neighbor, she wants to meet you!” And, I do usually take a camera anyway, I have pictures but I can only post them if I have permission and I do for the guy who’s picture should be beneath this post.

Well, last night I made another list of married men for your perusal. I was stunned at the inordinate amount of attorneys on this thing, most of them posted their pictures!!! I know a dumb man would do that, but an attorney? Jeez. I like the one who took the shot from his neck down, the only person who would recognize him would be his wife. They are amazing, they all talk about honesty in a profile where they are cheating on their wives! Then there are the self proclaimed sex gods who tell us that they are very oral and know how to please a lady. LOLOLOL. To hear them tell it, they are all too good in bed for one woman. I am stunned at the sheer numbers of them, it took me half the night to list these and I was only half done when I had to go to bed. Well, I have some errands to run so I will be back in a little while.

See ya!

Meg

These married men are all from Georgia...like I said, I only got through half of them so when I have time to do something mindless, I will get the rest of them. Even if you are not looking for your husband here, they are rather entertaining. Don't worry, I'll get to the married women next.


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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Is Anne Arke real...sounds fake....

April 29, 2005  
Blogger That Weird Guy said...

What fun, I think I have a friend!!!!!!

I'm glad you've found a friend in Anne. I don't know where I'd be without my friends. :-)

Also, I am not stupid, I know how to make sure that they know someone has seen them with me. I don’t do it like a cop, pictures or anything, I do it very slyly, “Oh, before we go in, I have to introduce you to my neighbor, she wants to meet you!”

Sorry if I implied stupidity. I didn't mean to do that. I'm glad to hear that you have thought about it and taken steps to protect yourself.

April 29, 2005  
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Meg,
Just a quick note here from your imaginary friend. LOL! I have been called "unreal" before!

- Anne

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This is a shot of him in his work as a model, I can't seem to find the picture of him in the movie but if I do, I will put it up here too.

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Meg,

I have been reading here for a couple months I guess, and it seems to me that it is about time to change the name of this place. Divorcing Rick now doesn't seem to apply. May I suggest, Enjoying Life Without Rick, or Enjoying Knowing One Day Rick Will Kick His A** for Letting Me Go, Or maybe something shorter like, Anchors Away.

At any rate, it sounds like your studies have been enjoyable so far, have fun, and please be careful. Such a pretty person could be a target for some of this world's evil people.

david

April 29, 2005  
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some people mistake them for "people with dark skin". some people mistake them for "half irish". even without my glasses i know what i'm looking at here.

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Thursday, April 28, 2005

OOPS...

...I underestimated the reporter from the AJC. She emailed me today that she just got back from Rome and she is ready to do the story. She asked for a few email addresses of readers and I did give her a few of the ones that I had. I only gave her ones of people that I knew wouldn't mind, at least I hope they don't! So, if you are a regular reader and poster, don't be surprised if you get an email from a reporter at the AJC in the near future and be sure to tell her what a wonderfully talented, perceptive, intelligent and witty woman I am!!!!

See ya,

Meg

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My beautiful daughter and her beautiful niece.

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This is my granddaughter with her princess dress on. My daughter gave it to her for Easter. She LOVES to wear it almost everyday.

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This is my grandson after he had his hair done.

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Good morning!

It occurred to me that any decent grandmother would show everybody pictures of her grandchildren so excuse me while I brag. Chandler is my oldest son's daughter. The little guy, Campbell, is her younger brother. His father disappeared so I adopted him as my own grandson. What a joy those two are. I am lucky enough to have them during the week right now while their mother goes to school to get a job where she can actually afford day care. I wish someone would have helped me when mine were little and I was single. Anyway, they are an absolute joy to have around even though they keep my house a total mess. I had just gotten rid of the herculon furniture and bought good stuff when the oldest decided to procreate and bring a little mess machine into my home. I wouldn't have it any other way. I had seen so many friends of mine who's kids got pregnant and they totally freaked but when the baby came, they were always as happy as they could be. So, when mine told me about the pregnancy, I decide to skip freaking out and go straight to happy. I have been happy ever since. She has finally stopped asking for Papa, he abandoned her along with everything else. It took a while. When he was here, she would want me to hide with her so Papa could come and find us. I remember one day right after he left that she wanted to hide. I hid with her but there was no one to look for us so it was kinda sad. But, she is resilient as most kids are and I imagine sooner or later she will forget all about him. I am erasing every sign of him from my life, so later on, no one will ever know he was ever here. Everyday I find something that needs to be trashed, a picture, a card that said he loved me, LOL, all of those things have got to go.

I just put Campbell down for his nap and Chandler is watching Veggie Tales which usually puts her to sleep so I have a bit of downtime right now. I think I will go and clean something so that they have a place to mess up when they are up from their naps.

See ya!!!

Meg

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Anonymous furriner said...

Daughter! Granddaughter! Wow!


Well actually that's two distinct and very different Wows...

a daddy Wow for that pretty girl in the fairy dress.

and a something-else Wow for her aunt.

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Wednesday, April 27, 2005

You know...

...I could really use a secretary. It occurred to me this evening that I have to start compiling some data while it is still fresh in my mind. I forgot the name of one guy I went out with and I became a little unnerved so I thought I better start documenting my findings...or at the very least, reporting the raw data. Now, I am not at all good with keeping records and stuff like that so if anyone out there knows about such things and can operate Excel or some such program, let me know.

In the meantime, here are some observations:

Saturday man: Age: 42
Height: 6'
Weight: Approximately 180 lbs.
Car: Mustang

Subject showed up on time with a rose and a Snickers bar. He immediately called an audible and changed our plans. Rather than go fishing, he made home repairs out of concern for my well being. I fed him and he complimented my cooking. After we ate, he took me to the Marietta Lanes and we shot pool. He did well and did not embarrass me. Halfway through the evening, he began to become comfortable with me as evidenced by touching me on my shoulder and putting his arm around my waist. He was very gratuitous and made sure that I was wanting for nothing. On the way out, I showed a glancing interest in a game machine. He went into his pocket and retrieved quarters and watched supportively as I won the small prize. He drove me home and was a perfect gentleman. Not one false move was made. Nice job.

Monday man: Age: 48
Height: 6'3"
Weight: 210 lbs.
Car: Mercedes

Subject came to my home to take me out to dinner. He came in and we had a glass of wine. He told me I was prettier than my picture. We left the house and went to the Buckhead Diner. I had a steak medium well which noticeably annoyed subject. He felt as though I "killed" the steak. I reminded him that it was already dead. Halfway through dinner he asked if I would accompany him to a business function at the Atlanta Country Club on Friday night. I told him that I was free on Friday but if Jude Law called, I would have to bump him to Saturday. He responded, "What are you some kind of comedian?" I said, "As a matter of fact sir, I am." He laughed. We sparred verbally all evening long and we both thoroughly enjoyed the challenge. When he dropped me off, he actually walked me to the door and kissed me on my cheek. The way his hand caressed my chin as he kissed my cheek assured me this was not a sisterly kiss. Once again, almost the perfect gentleman. One slight mis-step, he called me "hot as hell". I don't really know why, but that struck me as a tad offensive even though he assured me is was meant as a compliment. And, I must let that go as he sent two dozen iris's on Monday. They were absolutely beautiful. I said before there would be times when this will make up for that or vice versa.

Tuesday man: Age: 31
Height: 6'
Weight: 185
Car: Miata

Met subject at Sidelines to shoot pool and play trivia. He was waiting in his car reading a book when I pulled in. I parked right next to him by coincidence. I recognized him immediately from his description. We exited our respective vehicles and shook hands as we introduced ourselves. He appeared to be shy. Not in a weak way, more in a quiet, respectful way. He made little eye contact at first. We began shooting pool. He, like Saturday man, was pretty good. I was having a pretty bad night and did not perform up to par. The first trivia question was an R&B question that I cannot remember but I put Whitney Houston as the answer. He told me it was Billy Ocean. I trusted him and turned in his answer. The answer was Whitney Houston. He smiled and blushed. Then, he sunk the 8 ball and I was irritated, but in a good way. We continued to work as a team in the trivia contest which was a bonding type of thing and we also remained very competitive on the pool table which is a good thing for that spark type of thing. He asked if I was hungry and we ordered onion rings. They were very good. We were still hungry so he ordered the Lemon-Pepper Wings and they were fantastic. By the end of the evening, he had loosened up and appeared much more comfortable with me, making witty comments and pleasantly teasing me. He had to work and I had to get up at 7 so we made an early evening of it. We walked to our cars and he came to my open door to ask what the music I was listening to was. It was a ploy. He didn't really care about the music, he wanted to reach into my car and kiss me. I had to let him. He was pretty damn good at it. Once again, quite the gentleman. Today I received a nice email from him thanking me for the lovely evening and asking to see me again sometime.

Wednesday man: Age: 52
Height: 5'11" (LOL, I was just looking for the eleven button.)
Weight: 185
Car: 2005 Escalade that he picked up last week.

Subject and I met at Michaels Crafts. I bought some canvases and we then walked to the New China Buffet and had an absolutely lovely meal. Nice conversation, very nice man. After we stuffed ourselves like a couple of gluttons, we went to the mall and walked around. I like to window shop in the jewelry stores and I saw a pretty pair of ruby earrings. He offered to buy them for me. Very embarrassed, I wouldn't allow it. He asked if we could go to the music store and I said yes. As I was browsing through the CD's, he excused himself to "go to the men's room". He came back with the ruby earrings. I was very embarrassed and somewhat taken aback. Not enough to take the earrings aback, but somewhat. The mall closed and he asked if he could have some more of my time. It was still early so I said yes. We went for a drive and chatted. I told him about the break in and he offered to install motion detecting lights at my house. We will see if that materializes. I also mentioned that my cable was messed up and he insisted on fixing it for me. After spending the evening with him, I allowed him to do so. After he fixed the cable, he actually asked me for a kiss. I obliged. Then he asked me if he could put the earrings on me himself. I said yes. He did. Then, he held my hair up so he could see how they looked. He told me I was beautiful and took the picture of me that is posted here somewhere before or after this post. I take awful pictures but I put it there anyway. The date ended with him making me promise to call him tomorrow. He is an emergency room doctor and will be on duty at 7 P.M. so he said to call him early. I shall. Another perfect gentleman although he was very touchy feely, which I like, I just wasn't as comfortable with it on a first date. But, I must say, the reflexology thing he did with my hands was one of the most pleasant sensations I have felt in a very long time.

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Anonymous Jen Oz said...

Be careful having the "strangers" pick you u at your house, it is a crazy world at times!

April 28, 2005  
Blogger That Weird Guy said...

I agree with Jen. Better safe than sorry.

I usually try to set up the first date so we meet somewhere. I don't even offer to pick a girl up until the second date so that they don't have to feel weird about turning down the offer. :)

April 28, 2005  
Blogger Auntie Gromit said...

Okay, so which one was the guy who surreptitiously let it be known that he is still living with his (ex?) wife? I can't keep it all straight. :-)

And I agree with the other two commenters - meet in a public place for first dates... and personally I'd want to stay in public for the duration. I'm paranoid. (But remember, just 'cause you're paranoid doesn't mean they're not out to get you.)

April 29, 2005  
Anonymous furriner said...

But, I must say, the reflexology thing he did with my hands was one of the most pleasant sensations I have felt in a very long time.

hmmm... reflexology. Perhaps I should take a course. What else? I have a friend who used to have a lot of success with palmistry (I see a short, dark stranger in your future, etc.)

Gimmicks to get touchy-feely are what I'm talking about. Not because I'm sex crazed (that's a whole nother issue) but because I'm shy, awkward, lousy dancer etc. and I'll need ice-breakers (when I get around to my woman hunt).

Hmmm. Iridology. That would give me a good excuse to gaze into a woman's eyes. I've got good eyes, but tend not to look people in the eye enough.

By the way, I'm really enjoying your scalp-hunting, so far...

But be careful. What he/she said.

And if you can't be careful...
Be good.

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Tonight was fun!

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As usual you guys have come through...

...I truly appreciate your comments regarding drug abuse. I am sorry that anyone has to relate to this, but happy that people chose to share. I spoke to my father who hadn’t read his email yet so I told him what I knew which is pretty much what you know because of the email that Mike sent me and I posted. He asked what I thought he ought to do and I told him that he should send Mike a very supportive email. I was glad that my brother chose to tell us all about what happened because keeping it to himself would only make him feel worse and increase the chances of him using again.

After my mother’s father died, she began drinking very heavily. I was pregnant at the time and she would call me in the middle of the night quite drunk. I asked for advice from my best friend's mother who was a member of Al-anon. Her advice was to tell my mother that I loved her but I needed my sleep and that I would speak to her when she was sober and then hang up. I did that. Thankfully, my mom stopped drinking eventually. So, I know better than to enable someone but I don’t know what to do to actually help. The best I could do was let my brother know that I loved him and that I always would. That’s what family is for, if they need you, you have to be there.

The problem is that I've watched him start to get his life back together many times over my 32 years here, so it's hard for me to be optimistic about it. I do love the guy, though. Of all my uncles, he's the one that would unconditionally help me in any way he could were I in trouble.

Just like my brother, Guy’s uncle is the one he can count on. It would be so easy if the addict was a jerk...but when the addict is a kind and decent person, it isn’t so easy.

I'd be willing to bet your brother's substance use issues come from a naturally occurring chemical imbalance.

Well, we are finding out that there is a possible genetic factor involved in addiction and as I said, my mother also had a problem as did her father. One thing is certain, will power alone doesn’t do it. Addiction is most assuredly an illness and one that has no pill. And, as well as A.A. and N.A. work for some people, there is no universal one solution that will work for everybody.

I agree with you that the war on drugs is useless and should be abandoned. I think it creates an entire underground economy and breeding ground for crime and corruption.

Absolutely. They say that marijuana leads to bigger problems because most addicts who take the hard drugs used marijuana in the past. Well, most child molesters masturbated in the past, do we outlaw that as well? As long as marijuana is illegal, the only way to get it will be through dealers who have an interest in getting customers to try harder drugs. So, if you could buy it legally, it is possible that the people would never even meet a person who wants them to try the hard stuff. The illegality of marijuana is more responsible for the harder drug use, in my opinion, than the marijuana itself.

Sis and I used to talk every single day (Texas here, sis in Montana) and once she got herself hooked, she stopped talking to me.

How sad. Once again, what a nasty thief drugs are.

Sister is at a crisis point, but refuses to admit she has a problem. She has lost everything she owns (pawned everything she could, including all of her children’s few things they had), kicked out of her housing, selling off her food ...would take off for days and leave her 2 older kids home to care for her baby. Both the older kids have missed so much time this year due to my sister, they both have to repeat their grades.

And the woman, with any luck at all, will someday get help and stop the drug use. But there is no way she will ever get this time back. That is so sad for the kids and will be very sad for her when she finally realizes that she missed some very special time with her kids. That isn’t even considering the damage done to the kids themselves, it is awful that they will have to repeat a year of their education. They will be angry and could even end up using drugs themselves to deal with life because they didn’t have a mother to teach them coping skills.

Have you ever seen the show Intervention? I watched it for the first time last night and it hit home for me. One of the addicts had a sister she was really close to, and then the drugs took it all away.

I have never even heard of this show but I will be looking for it from now on and I will even suggest that my brother watch it if he hasn’t already done so. Thank you for that information.

I was sending money to help with the children, which I found out wasn't even used for the children.

Yes, in this situation, what do you do? I would send my mom money for the light bill and the lights would still be turned off. I just started paying the bill myself. She didn’t use the money for drugs, but her drinking made her behave very irresponsibly.

When a person begins abusing a substance, they stop growing emotionally. They cope by using so they do not learn the coping mechanisms that they should be learning. If a person begins drinking at the age of 16 and stops at 42, they are emotionally still a 16 year old. Now, they are middle aged and have the life skills of a 16 year old. What a recipe for disaster.

Being willing to get professional help is a sign of motivation and has a higher likelihood of success. I wish your brother the best of luck.

Thank you very much. Mike had fought long and hard to get over this problem and I cannot tell you how sad I am that he has relapsed. He is no stranger to professional help and he is more than willing to seek it. But, it doesn’t always take the first time, perhaps not the second or third time either. I am just so sorry that even if it does work this time, he may have lost the most important and most valuable thing he has ever had, a woman who loves him more than anything else in the world.

I really hope your brother can get the help he needs.

Thank you and please, everybody who believes in a higher power, say a prayer for Mike and his wife. I believe strongly in the power of prayer and I humbly ask for as many of you as possible to pray for my brother. I love him so much and if he knew you, he would do anything he could to help you. That’s what is so sad about this, he is one of the kindest, gentlest, most loyal men I have ever met and he deserves better than he has done for himself. Thank you all for your support.

Meg

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Blogger Texas_Ivy10 said...

The show Intervention comes on A&E. I am not sure what day/time.

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This is the email that I received from my brother,

And I am so proud of him for his honesty, that is a new thing with Michael. His wife's name is not Sue, I changed it to protect her.


Dear Family Members,
I am writing this E-mail to all of you to let you you know my current situation and what I plan to do. I haven't been a good husband, family member, or friend. I have been dishonest in all relationships and am ready to face the consequences of my actions, I hope. I have relapsed- I used cocaine again-I can't figure out why just yet, but I am seeking aid to that end. I know alot of people who can help and have started that process. As far as Sue and I are concerned; for all intents and purposes it looks as though this is the end of our marriage-- I spent money as if it were mine, not ours, and have lied to Sue about owing money. I don't know what brought on the relapse but I feel I'm not as ready for all of the responsibilities as I thought I was. I'm so sorry and I pray God and all of you will forgive me. I don't know what I will have to do next- that depends on the choices made by Sue and my parole officer- but I will keep you informed. I love you all and hope that this won't push any of you away from me.
Love,
Mike.

Do any of you have anyone in your lives that has had problems with drugs? How are they? Did they overcome the troubles? So many divorces are caused by drugs that I didn't have to think long before I posted this letter.

Of course, I wrote to my brother telling him that I loved him unconditionally and that he hasn't let me down, rather he has, once again, let himself down. This time he took a wife with him and she is a good one. He is going to lose more for this relapse than he has ever lost in the past. He will lose his wife, his step-son and the child that they were trying to have. He will lose him home, his dreams and his clean time (which was considerable). Basically, he will lose his life as he knows it. I certainly know what that is like, one day you have a life that you are comfortable in and the next day some one (like Gail Glenn) or some thing (like drugs) has stolen it all from you. Drugs are a nasty mistress, they both do pretty much the same things. They steal your family, your livelihood, your health and your happiness. Gail Glenn and cocaine have stolen from our family so much that we will never be able to get back. Two happy households, totally trashed by the trashiest of all things, a slut and drugs. Both cause misery, disease and heartache. There is a place where my brother went to find drugs, he never should have gone there anymore than Vex should have gone to that Kennesaw trailer park. If both of them had stayed where they belonged, everyone concerned would be much happier but Mike couldn't stay away from drugs anymore than Vex could stay away from sluts. Promises, vows and loyalty, all forgotten and trampled upon. Drugs, like sluts, make people forget their priorities and tell them things that they want to believe and the truth and the things that are truly important in life are forgotten. Who do you suppose is behind it when a person breaks all of the vows that they made before God? I think I know.

Meg

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Blogger That Weird Guy said...

Wow Meg... sorry to hear about that. I have an uncle who is much the same. I'd like to say that he's all good now and there are no problems, but that would be a lie. He is getting better (with the help of my Mom/his sister) and he's starting to get his life back together now that he's almost 50.

The problem is that I've watched him start to get his life back together many times over my 32 years here, so it's hard for me to be optimistic about it. I do love the guy, though. Of all my uncles, he's the one that would unconditionally help me in any way he could were I in trouble. Oh, I couldn't count on him showing up anywhere, but if I went and got him he'd be there for me as long as I needed him.

Basically a heart of gold and a head full of air. The only difference is that your brother apparently found a good wife. My uncle was married to a loser for a while. She did help clean him up, as did the kids, but she was a royal pain in the a$$.

The one truly encouraging thing I saw was that he is willing to get help for the problem. My uncle would just try to stop and would eventually fail. Being willing to get professional help is a sign of motivation and has a higher likelihood of success. I wish your brother the best of luck.

April 27, 2005  
Anonymous Kyle said...

I'd be willing to bet your brother's substance use issues come from a naturally occuring chemical imbalance. I'd also be willing to bet that most all of his problems come not from the use but from the fact that 10 cents worth of cocaine costs $100.00. The time has come to abandon this futile and liberty robbing "war on drugs". The "war on drugs" is nothing more than a war on your freedoms. Adults don't need protection from themselves.
Kyle

April 27, 2005  
Blogger That Weird Guy said...

Kyle,

I agree with you that the war on drugs is useless and should be abandoned. I think it creates an entire underground economy and breeding ground for crime and corruption. I believe that recreational drugs should instead be legalized and their production and sale should be regulated much like alcohol.

I have to disagree about that being the cause of most, if not all, of her brother's problems though. Drug abuse has other far-reaching issues beyond just financial problems. Liquor is legal and affordable, yet many families are broken up when someone loses control over the substance and turns into an alcoholic.

April 27, 2005  
Blogger Texas_Ivy10 said...

Meg,

I am really sorry to read about your brother.

I have a family member who is an addict. My sister is addicted to Meth. It has become a huge issue (seemingly only for me right now). I posted all about it in my blog, but have since deleted all but my recent posts on the subject. I just couldn't keep dealing with it and decided I didn't even want to look at my own words. Sister is at a crisis point, but refuses to admit she has a problem. She has lost everything she owns (pawned everything she could, including all of her childrens few things they had), kicked out of her housing, selling off her food stamps (yes she lives off the government, a huge source of irritation for me. She doesn't try to help herself), would take off for days and leave her 2 older kids home to care for her baby. Both the older kids have missed so much time this year due to my sister, they both have to repeat their grades. I could go on and on, but no point. I wrote a long letter listing out all of the problems she has had... didn't help. Sis and I used to talk every single day (Texas here, sis in Montana) and once she got herself hooked, she stopped talking to me.

I really hope your brother can get the help he needs.

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I had a very sad email this morning...

...I have a wonderful younger brother who has had problems with drugs in the past. Somehow, he found a wonderful woman and they married. This morning I received an email from him (as did everyone in our family) explaining that he had relapsed and used cocaine. Of course, when he used again, he lied to his wife. He is waiting to find out what she wants to do but at this point, it looks likes they will be getting a divorce.

My brother is the second to the youngest in our family. I am the oldest so I remember the day he came home from the hosptial. He was so cute, I actually charged my friends a nickle to see him. He grew to be a very handsome and kind man. He had asthma as a child and he was in and out of the hospital all the time. I remember coming home from school one day and the kitchen was full of neighbors. My mother asked me to look around and see who was there. I saw Michael sitting in the playpen. He was so tiny and so sick...but he was smiling through it all. He has always been the kind of person who would give you the shirt off of his back but somehow he has never cared enough about himself to stay out of trouble. Nothing he ever did was aimed at anyone else, his trouble always involved him doing something stupid. When he was 12, he met a young man who's name was also Mike. Those two got into more trouble than Bonnie and Clyde. My parents were politcal people and they could always get him out of any jam he was in but that seems to have been a bad thing because he has been in so much trouble as an adult that I have to wonder if he wouldn't have been better off if my parents had handed him over to the cops when he stole a pick up truck and went for a joy ride at the age of 12. The other Mike's parents had lost one child to drugs and they weren't going to sit back and watch it happen again so they put their son in military school and he turned out fine. My brother, on the other hand, has always been in trouble.

Somehow, my beautiful baby brother grew up without any decent direction in life so he has floundered around ever since. I don't know what to do to help him and I don't think there really is anything that I can do except let him know that I love him unconditionally. I am so sad today.

Drugs are such a hideous thing, they steal more from us than any thief ever could. The guy who broke into my house couldn't have possibly taken more from me than drugs have taken. They took my brother. I want him back.

Meg

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This one made me cry.

Have you ever seen the show Intervention? I watched it for the first time last night and it hit home for me. One of the addicts had a sister she was really close to, and then the drugs took it all away.

I know exactly how it feels. I lost my best friend (sister) to drugs... and she doesn't even see it. The meth (this is sisters drug of choice. Poor mans crack) makes you forget about everything you ever loved and valued. It hurts to see sis abandon her children and all the rest of us. The more I try to help the further she pulls away. I have finally given up. She is older than I am and if she doesn't want help, refuses to admit she needs help and asks for it, there is nothing more I can do. I do know one thing I can do, stop enabling her. I realized in January when things started to really get bad for her, that I am at fault too. I was sending money to help with the children, which I found out wasn't even used for the children. I convinced my mom to go get sis and those kids after they got kicked out of the housing. The big plan was a homeless shelter. They came down to Texas 3 weeks ago. Sis decided after 1 day she had to go back to Montana. Mom refused to pay for it, but sis found the money somehow. She is going back to Montana next Monday, and leaving the 2 older kids here and taking the baby with. It's such a long story... Just wanted to say I know how you feel, and it turned into a rant. haha Sorry!

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Tuesday, April 26, 2005

This test confuses me. I had to self-rate myself based on my married life just out of curiosity of the vibe I gave off.Here is my confusion of my score of 7, which is supposedly bad:2 He promised that "he would never" cheat on you: Yes NoSo I'm supposed to refuse to promise not to cheat? I pretty much promised not to cheat when I took my vows, so I lost a point there.4 He recently started working out: Yes NoI was feeling a little out of shape and wanted to look good for her (and my health). This is bad? Lost a point here.5 He's been spending more time away from home: Yes No Lost another point here. We moved to a new town just before we got married, so I was spending some more time away from home because I was finally making friends (guys). But I understand where this is coming from. Just explaining where my 7th lost point came from. :)9 He assured you that he will always take care of you: Yes No We discussed what would happen if one of us was unable to work or got really ill... and I assured her that I would always take care of her. Chalk up another 2 loser points for me. Why? I did say for better or for worse, didn't I?12 He bought you something really nice for no reason: Yes NoThis one totally befuddles me. Sometimes you just see something that you know she would totally love and you buy it for her. She'd do the same for me (of course, turns out she was cheating... maybe there is merit to this question after all. LOL). Anyway... 2 more points against me.7 - 10: You're not the only one on his mind, even if he hasn't acted on it.No way in hell is that accurate. There was nobody after she left. I didn't even have any female friends (outside of my wives friends) at the time.

I’ll give you that...there were a few questions that seemed odd to me as well but all in all, the test is pretty accurate if you add a reasonable person’s intuition. I understand what Guy meant, I had a problem with the same questions he did. So, for this blog anyway, we will leave those questions out and give people the benefit of the doubt if they haven’t been doing some of the obvious things like treating you differently. As well as some questions were odd, others were left out, like, “Has he stopped making love to you” or “Has he begun making love to you like he never has”.

I still stand by the test, I just think you have to have a little common sense to pepper it with.

Meg

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Now, here is a test...

...that a good friend sent me. It is a test that will tell you if someone is cheating on you. I took the test and according to it, guess what? Rick was cheating on me! It is an excellent test and quite indicative of a cheating bum. Here is the link:

http://www.nypost.com/entertainment/45364.htm

Take the test if you think you may be being cheated upon and please let me know how it turns out for you!

See ya,

Meg

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This test confuses me. I had to self-rate myself based on my married life just out of curiosity of the vibe I gave off.

Here is my confusion of my score of 7, which is supposedly bad:

2 He promised that "he would never" cheat on you: Yes No

So I'm supposed to refuse to promise not to cheat? I pretty much promised not to cheat when I took my vows, so I lost a point there.

4 He recently started working out: Yes No

I was feeling a little out of shape and wanted to look good for her (and my health). This is bad? Lost a point here.

5 He's been spending more time away from home: Yes No

Lost another point here. We moved to a new town just before we got married, so I was spending some more time away from home because I was finally making friends (guys). But I understand where this is coming from. Just explaining where my 7th lost point came from. :)

9 He assured you that he will always take care of you: Yes No

We discussed what would happen if one of us was unable to work or got really ill... and I assured her that I would always take care of her. Chaulk up another 2 loser points for me. Why? I did say for better or for worse, didn't I?

12 He bought you something really nice for no reason: Yes No

This one totally befuddles me. Sometimes you just see something that you know she would totally love and you buy it for her. She'd do the same for me (of course, turns out she was cheating... maybe there is merit to this question after all. LOL). Anyway... 2 more points against me.

7 - 10: You're not the only one on his mind, even if he hasn't acted on it.

No way in hell is that accurate. There was nobody after she left. I didn't even have any female friends (outside of my wives friends) at the time.

April 26, 2005  
Anonymous Mandi said...

This test didn't really work for me either. Like That Weird Guy, I'm going to list each question and a detailed answer to it. :) I added some of the onew I answered "no" to because I had comments about those questions.

2 He promised that "he would never" cheat on you: Yes
Most guys would promise you they won't cheat on you. The decent ones tend to do it more when they know you've been cheated on before.

3 He suggested, maybe even jokingly, that you see a therapist: Yes
He only did this when I started yelling about the kitchen sponge being used to clean the bathroom sink. When it comes to cleaning, I am insane. I know this, lol.

4 He recently started working out: Yes
Getting a new job that is 100% physical will make you want to get healthier the first time you come home ready to pass out from exhaustion.

5 He's been spending more time away from home: Yes
The above mentioned job is 50 miles away. ;)

6 He bought himself new clothes: Yes
He grew tired of me getting angry about his 'nice' clothes getting crapped up at the twice mentioned job.

7 He made unexplained charges on your credit card: Yes
As it turned out, it was suprise presents for me.

8 He wouldn't tell you how much he made on a deal or job: Yes
He was saving up for those presents from Question 7. It was only a $20 difference each pay period. No biggie.

9 He assured you that he will always take care of you: Yes
A good honest man (or woman) would want to make sure the person they plan to spend the rest of their life with will have a nice life to live. ;)

11 He told you he feels like he "needs more space": No
I think when someone tells you they need space, they've just broken up with you in a nice, non-confrontational way. Anyone who still thinks they have a relationship after the 'space talk' needs their head examined by the afore mentioned therapist.

12 He bought you something really nice for no reason: Yes
Isn't that what loving people do? I buy my loved ones presents all the time for no reason other to show them I love them and was thinking of them.

13 He hasn't wanted to talk about your relationship: No
Most guys have issues talking about their relationship, with anyone.

14 He told you his life is very "complicated" or "confusing": No
My life is complicated and often confusing. Why shouldn't a male's be?

15 He introduces you to a new woman he "just met":No
Hmm. If he introduced me to a woman. I'd assume she knew we're together, lol. I don't care if he female friends. I guess I'm not the paranoid type who thinks having a female friend means he's sleeping with her.

This quiz was entertaining to take. He scored an 11. I laughed. However, were someone to actually take this quiz seriously, every man would be considered a cheater. If my boyfriend was NOT partaking in the activities of questions 2, 6, and 12, then I would think something was wrong with him, me, our relationship, etc.
I do see how all of these things rolled into one guy would be a huge sign that he is cheating. However, a few of these things occur in normal, healthy, happy relationships. In mine, anyway.

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You know...

...When you are trying to impress someone who you’d like to date, never make fun of the place they are from, at least not in the first email. I received an email containing the following sentence:

Where are you from? Oh God I never thought about it but you could be a yankee lol.. I don't hold that against you, anyone could have had the God awful misfortune to be born up there

OK, now, I am not prejudiced againts southerners at all, never have been. But, I did see television shows with people like Gomer, Goober, Opie, Sheriff Roscoe P. Coltrain, Jethro, Grandpa Jones, and people singing the following:

Where oh where are you tonight,
Why did you leave me here all alone,
I searched the world over,
And I thought I found true love,
But you met another,
And pthpthpth you were gone.

Anyway, I had to post... did ya notice on the profile you posted of the married guy, the guy rated HIMSELF as a "10". Too funny - he has 2 fans, one being himself. Ha!I was surfing some of the guys in my area, Houston, and they are no better. Surfing them is good for a hearty laugh on a bad day! hahaha

Well, Michelle, I am glad to finally hear from you! Yeah, that guy thought quite a bit of himself...didn’t he? If you find any good ones online in Houston, send ‘em here! I would love to out all of the cheaters. By the way, they don’t ALL have to be men, that wouldn't be fair so send any female cheats as well!

Here are some married men or men who “would prefer not to say”:

http://www.plentyoffish.com/member514119.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member7349.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member261272.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member422543.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member275176.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member149721.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member340137.htm (this one is a hoot, check out his first date preference!)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member99074.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member503389.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member372524.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member383210.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member87841.htm (Another hoot, and another one who thinks all women will be amazed by his oral talents.)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member39935.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member67873.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member371825.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member416262.htm (this one is a TEACHER!)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member244469.htm (This one doesn’t say he is married, but he does list his occupation as a “metrologist” and he is another ORAL character.)

OK, enough of the men, for now. Let’s see what the married women are up to:

http://www.plentyoffish.com/member352631.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member291371.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member352631.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member471445.htm (this one says she is only living with someone but I see why, look at her!)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member445558.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member263485.htm (This one is just a whacko)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member517155.htm (Another married, horny teacher)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member518003.htm (Not married, but one must wonder what service she provides)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member464218.htm (OMG! Once again, not married, just a freak)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member513759.htm (Not married, just cheating.)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member214182.htm (Another cheater)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member509719.htm (Single but trashy)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member443548.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member386065.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member291371.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member272639.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member311576.htm (This one is single, check out her profession)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member291371.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member272639.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member118115.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member13370.htm
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member11982.htm

OK, amazing, isn’t it? I live such a sheltered life and never even knew it. I thought married people were basically happy but from this tiny slice of life, I see that far too many of them are spending far too much energy on extra-curricular activities rather than on their marriage. Like Vex, they will never know the joy of sticking out a marriage, for better or for worse and when every new relationship gets boring, they will go onto the first thing that seems exciting, never knowing what they have lost. They will never learn how to keep the marriage happy and they have absolutely no respect for the vows they took in front of God and their family and friends. Sadly, they will end up miserable and alone with nothing but memories of cheap sex and trashy people to look back on in their old age.

That list is full of miserable people and as long as they try to find happiness through their gonads, they will always be miserable. Isn’t it pathetic? Aren’t they pathetic? And to think, for every one of them, there is a hardworking man or woman who thinks that the person they make love to has been saving themselves for the poor sap who has spent the day trying to make life better for the family. Jeez, this is not at all what I expected but it must be part of my study. This list is full of people from Georgia. Next time, I will choose another state and expose the cheaters there. If you would like me to do your state, let me know by posting a comment.

See ya,

Meg

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Ok then, I have an idea...

...MarriedAtlantan gave me an idea...I am going to find the married men who are cheating on their wives and put them up on this blog. If you see anyone who’s wife you know, send it to her so she doesn’t suffer any longer than she has to. I wish someone had done that for me when Vex was using the computer as a sex toy.

Recently, I have had two guys who I was ending relationships with try to mess with my head. That is so obvious and humorous. One said, “You will never find a man with your attitude...I think you are going to be lonely for a long time.” That’s for dumping him, he wanted me bad up until then. Another guy tried it too but I forget what he said exactly. I suppose women are as capable of doing things like that as well. You know, that last little dig that is supposed to make you feel all shy and as though you can’t get a man so why try. Vex did it, he told me that, “No man would want a woman with a f$#ked up p*&sy like yours. It is so tight that they wouldn’t want you because no man wants a woman he can’t stay inside of for more than 3 minutes without coming.” I think he was trying to make me too self conscience to ever go to bed with another man but what he was really doing was lying to himself about his lack of staying power.

Perhaps if his wife nailed HIM to a tree, the problem would solve itself.

If his wife is anything like me, she is in too much denial. Even if she saw her husband nailed to a tree with some women’s boob hanging out of his mouth, he would say, “Who are you gonna believe, me or your lying eyes?”

Okay-aren't people aware of "Computer Etiquette"? When they type in all caps, they are yelling. I am not a computer know it all or anything, but I always thought it was irritating when people would send me e-mails in all caps, then someone told me that is was considered yelling.

I have never understood the need for the yelling...I guess they think that they are so all-important that they have the right to type in caps.

Let Mr. Fixit show you how guys should be...he seems like a genuine person with good intensions. This sounds like he is being open and honest and he may really have thoughts of some sort of relationship with you. You should be leanient with him and no spanking. Does he like small hands?

Well, Morbidity, you know you like small hands, you told me you did. Why did you put that proof of authorship in the comment and then call yourself anonymous?

Well, a friend just told me that his "daughter" sent him a birthday card that said, on the front, "You're an..." and then you opened it up and it had a homemade pop up that said "Asshole". Now, you know the mother was in charge of this, she had her 9 year old daughter create and send her father a birthday card that said, "You're and asshole". Now, that's the kind of parent who has no business raising a child. Obviously, this "mother" is so selfish she would have her daughter behave like that just to hurt the father. He was very upset but I told him to take it to all the lawyers and the ad litem in Cobb County. The ad litem is doing nothing to help this man see his daughter, rather she is trying to keep the child with the whacked out selfish freak instead of a reasonable, loving father. If you have any time to do so, call Cobb County DFACS and tell them they need to think about what is best for the children and not the mother.

Well, I am off to find married men cheating by dating services so we can help as many married women as we can!

See ya!

Meg

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Monday, April 25, 2005

Oh my gosh!

Here is one confident man! I may answer his email just to see how much of this is true...what do you think I should do?

I AM EXTREMELY YOUNG FOR MY AGE,(I'M REALLY 58 BUT YOU'D NEVER GUESS!!), SEXY, SOULFUL, SPIRITUAL, AFFECTIONATE, SENSUAL, SEXUAL, SENSITIVE, LOVING, HONEST AND OPEN. A TRUE GENTLEMAN 24/7. CALLED BEAUTIFUL, GORGEOUS, STUNNING, OFTEN.(I DON'T AGREE BUT YOU MAY), I HAVE ALMOST WAIST-LENGTH BLOND AND SILVER HAIR AND A BEARD. NO TATTOOS OR PIERCINGS, VERY NICE NATURAL BODY THAT COULD PASS FOR HALF MY AGE :) I'M LOOKING FOR ONE LADY TO LOVE. SHE IS - HONEST AND OPEN, ATTRACTIVE, SLIM TO LIGHT MEDIUM, INTELLIGENT, SEXY, SOULFUL AND HOPEFULLY SPIRITUAL.

But then again, he added this later:

I DO LIKE NASCAR ON TV HOWEVER AND COULD BE PERSUADED TO GO BOWLING OR PLAY PUTT-PUTT

Nascar and putt-putt? Are there a lot of women trying to play putt-putt?

Ooh, this one sounds bright:

I am a good guy and I would like to know more about you. I am easy going and easy to communicate with. I work out regularly to stay in shape, and I look much younger than the picture I have on this site. Jim Big Boy

In other words, “The picture that makes me look old and fat is not really indicative of what I look like but of every single photo I have of myself, I chose THIS one!”

You know I love a bright man:

Nice profile. Give me a chance to say hello sometime. Contact me via e-mail.Bob

Oh...email? Well...OK. I wanted to shout out my window...but if you think email is best...well then, I will use it.

Hiya Cutie,Looks like we have a lot in common. Wanna talk?

Well, now...how could I possibly not want to talk to a charmer like this? As though his invite wasn’t tempting enough...his screen name is CunninlingBill. As intriguing as that MIGHT be, I think I’ll pass on this one.

I love ‘em when they are self confident:

well what can I say about myself just another boring kinda guy who likes good company

That is his entire description of his self. Oh well.

Now, for some real fun, you have to check out this guy’s profile. Now, keep in mind that PlentyOfFish.com has a section that is specifically geared towards sexually perverted freaks. But this guy CHOSE to put his profile up on the main dating site:

http://www.plentyoffish.com/member316720.htm

Yikes, yikes, yikes.

OK, I am going to go have an experience. I haven’t decided what kind yet, but it will be fun and I will probably tell you about it soon.

Meg

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Blogger Purple Hat said...

Okay-arent people aware of "Computer Etiquette"? When they type in all caps, they are yelling. I am not a computer know it all or anything, but I always thought it was irritating when people would send me e-mails in all caps, then someone told me that is was considered yelling.

hahahahaha!!!!!! Now that I think about it, those e-mails make sense now. LOL!!!

April 25, 2005  
Blogger Texas_Ivy10 said...

Hi Meg. I found your blog a few months ago. You're a great writer. (neither here nor there but...I too am going through a divorce).

Anyway, I had to post... did ya notice on the profile you posted of the married guy, the guy rated HIMSELF as a "10". Too funny - he has 2 fans, one being himself. Ha!

I was surfing some of the guys in my area, Houston, and they are no better. Surfing them is good for a hearty laugh on a bad day! hahaha

Have a nice day Meg!

Michelle

April 26, 2005  

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OH MY GOD!!!! The men are doing it too!!!! I apologize to the women for thinking only THEY were acting all bimbo! This guy actually used this as his profile photo!!!!

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Meg...


...this is a hilarious post. the shit these guys write, it is so ridiculous, it almost seems made up.
on another level, isnt it sad that we are surrounded by this?


Yep, but on my honor, they are all real! Remember, Elvis impersonators can get lucky so who’s to say what some women might not enjoy? Yeah, it is sad, especially when you consider that IT WORKS for far too many of them!

Tell him that since he and his wife seem chummy enough to live under the same roof, perhaps he should bring her along the next time, lol. I am kidding, of course. Although, he could be kept around for free home repairs. Those are always the best kind.*hugs from NY*"There are easier things in life than finding a good man. Nailing Jell-O to a tree, for instance."

Well, somehow, he found my blog and read what I wrote! He is insulted that I didn’t believe him...I think he is behind the comment telling me to give MrFixItMan another chance.

whats up how r u doinG?so i seen ur profile thought i would say helloso how was ur weekend? d*mn it was cold windy as can be d*mn lolhopefuly ur monday is goin good so far?so do u have a yahoo id ? or aim?i have like 15o ther pix of meo n my companys website www.k2brecordz.com and theyro ntha picturesp age i mtha one with NO hat on in all tha picswell give me shout sometime if u want

Yes, I am always interested in the illiterate. This was an email to me, I have no clue what language it is or what this guy wants from me. I did notice that he is 24 years old, though. What in the world do these men want with a woman my age?

i love cmaping, partying, and clubbing

So, can we see some more of your words?

Well, I haven’t left the house because I have no car keys. I am waiting for people to call me back so they can tell me what I have to do, but they all have cars so I have to wait for them to come home before they call me.
The part of my studies that includes online dating is taking up quite a bit of my time now. Not just the actual field work...this stuff makes you think! Why would guys write some of the silly stuff that they do write? I don’t know how many women would care or even notice but so many of them have such rotten spelling and grammar that I am surprised that they ever get dates from 5th grade graduates. I think all online dating sites should have spell check. Obviously, none of them do, if they did, sooner or later somebody would use it.

Oh! I was looking at one profile and accidentally hit a button that took me to a list of women who have sent them their profiles. I am stunned! Some of the women are wearing little more than a bikini. There was one chick who didn’t even include her head. She just put up a picture of herself from the neck down wearing nothing but a skimpy bikini. I didn’t read their profiles but I am curious, when they verbally describe themselves, do they do a general “I like to hang glide and jump out of airplanes. I am in great shape and I love to travel around the world, stopping in the capitals of every country I visit to meet the heads of State.” OR do they just, keeping in line with the picture they sent, say something like this, “I love sex. I had some last night. I rarely go 12 hours without at least touching a penis and I would love to have you request that I sit on your face. I am great at oral sex, I even have many references. I cover my teeth with my lips so I don’t hurt anyone. Naturally, it goes without saying that if you want my bare teeth on your penis, I can arrange that as well. I am very flexible. Once I saw Linda Lovelace interviewed and she said that the secret to a really good deep throat experience is to lie on your back with your head hanging backwards off of the foot of the bed. Have the guy get on his knees and put his penis in your mouth. Start sucking and between the your sucking and the thrusting of the man’s hips, his penis will be able to penetrate your throat because of the position your head is in, it opens your throat up and he can enter without gagging you. You know what? Linda was right! I do it all the time and it works great. I don’t gag or anything. I have had quite a bit of sex so it’s really a flip of the coin as to whether or not you put your penis in my mouth or my vagina, either way, it’s not so tight. Most nights you can find me in a Kennesaw Georgia trailer park screwing married men. Email me and let’s see what comes up!!!! Whatever it is, I can handle it!"

Oh well, next time I think I will read the profile just to find out. I think I am going to go read some more of them so I can find other stuff to thrill and amaze.

See ya soon,

Meg

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Sunday, April 24, 2005

Raw Data...

You know how when you are with a person and the two of you are having a lovely time, you just sort of listen to what they say and then later on...when they are gone, you begin to analyze what they said? Well, I just analyzed myself into quite a little tizzy.

I let a major huge obvious line of bullshit pass right under my radar all because I was looking goo-goo eyed at Mr. Fix-it man. ME! A full grown educated woman that lives nowhere near Gail Glenn or her nasty little trailer park. I let a man say the following, not all at one time, but over the course of a conversation:

"I am divorced. After I moved out into this great house, my ex-wife fell under hard times financially and she was about to lose her house. She had rented out some rooms but mean people who didn't pay moved in so she asked me to help. I kicked them all out and moved into an area all of my own, she has the rest of the house and I am going to help her until she gets her disability on May13th. She has nothing to say about what I do or who I see but I choose to say nothing because it really no longer has anything to do with her."

Can you believe that I fell for that? OK, lesson: Take notes and contemplate sensibilities at some point in time.

I may let him fix a couple more things before I send him packing.

Well, I still have to meet LA man so I must go and act as if.

See ya,

Meg

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Let Mr.Fixit show you how guys should be...he seems like a genuine person with good intensions. This sounds like he is being open and honest and he may really have thoughts of some sort of relationship with you. You should be leanient with him and no spanking. Does he like small hands? lol

April 24, 2005  
Anonymous Mandi said...

Tell him that since he and his wife seem chummy enough to live under the same roof, perhaps he should bring her along the next time, lol. I am kidding, of course.
Although, he could be kept around for free home repairs. Those are always the best kind.

*hugs from NY*

"There are easier things in life than finding a good man. Nailing Jell-O to a tree, for instance."

April 25, 2005  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Perhaps if his wife nailed HIM to a tree, the problem would be solved...

April 25, 2005  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Perhaps if his wife nailed HIM to a tree, the problem would solve itself.

April 25, 2005  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It was so good I had to say it twice...

April 25, 2005  

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Meg...


...I'll bet that evil Kevin was behind this break in.

Nope. Kevin wasn’t real. The busted door and the police report is. Call the Marietta Police Department and ask them.

Meg,Oh my god woman! If it's not one thing it's another. I was wondering if you have a fenced yard? You're probably wondering why I want to know.When I lived in Louisiana (New Orleans area) I adopted a dog from a friend of mine. He's a registered rottie trained to guard. He is very sweet and loveable. He gets along with other dogs, and loves kids. When I moved back to NY, the ex's dad offered to keep Max with him until I could find a home for him. 2 years later, he's still in LA.Anyway, if you're interested in a housebroken slobber machine who loves to cuddle but will protect your life when the need arises, let me know. --

Well, Mandi, I certainly appreciate the offer...but I have my own slobber machine. The cops said they don’t get all territorial until they are a little over a year old and this guy is 6 months old. So, if the cat burglar comes back next year, he will have something to contend with. Not only a large dog...but a door that is securely locked. I feel better now.

OK, last night was wonderful. We went out and this time I got some pictures. Once again, I had a nice time. I remember saying that by this time next year I would be thanking Vex for cheating on me. I was wrong by a far sight. I am already thankful. What a peach. The nicest thing he ever did was find a bimbo in a Kennesaw trailer park. Let me tell you something...of this I am sure...Karma will see to it that those two suffer their transgressions in spades. Vex knows that...or he did before he went back to the ghetto. Perhaps slumming has clouded his vision the way mine was clouded when I went slumming with him. He once said that he missed the happy confident woman that I was before I allowed him to bring me to his level by his constant lying and manipulation and degradation and violence and intimidation...the list goes on. Well, that woman is back, better than ever and as it stands now, Vex, Michael Jackson and O.J. Simpson are the only men I can think of off the top of my head that haven’t got a chance at her. Even Vex would admit that a new and improved version of the old me would be head and shoulders above the bimbo he currently balls.

The better other people treat me, the more I see how miserably I have been treated for the past 23 years...and it STILL hasn’t stopped. If Vex were smart (I know, we have already decided that is not the case...just go with me here), he would just let us get divorced whatever the terms because I am not going to be on the market for very long. The only thing that will stop me now is a wedding ring so if any man wants to slow me down, he best cough one up before I pass him by. Not that I would accept just anyone...but I am not about to wait around for any one particular guy to get in touch with his feminine side or behave all wishy washy (Oddly, “wishy” came up as not a word but “washy” passed right by.) If you don’t tell me what YOU want, I will go with what I want. I MIGHT want to tell you how I feel. But then again, I MIGHT be too afraid to be rejected so I would probably wait for a guy to say something...sorry dudes, I know it isn’t right, but that’s the way I see it. And...at a certain point, if he hasn’t said anything, I check my feelings and move along.

So, is anyone going to tell me that I could pass up a good one if I think like that? Well, to me, a good one is a man who knows what he wants and makes his intentions clear at all times. There are men who will say, “Listen, I want to discuss our relationship and where we are going with this.” I like that.

Like I said, I will always tell you what’s on my mind. I just do that without planning...my father used to say that my words should spend a little longer in my brain before they make the move to my mouth.

Anyway, it's not that I want a man who doesn’t think before he speaks, rather one that likes to lay everything out on the table so we can all see what’s going on. That is always a good thing to me.

Well, I have a class tonight. My subject is flying in from LA and we are going to meet for a late dinner. We were just IM’ing and he has left for the airport. I have some preparation to do before class starts so I have to go for now. I will see you guys later!

Meg

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