My father told me that I should have given my husband’s IQ tests. In retrospect, he was right. I should have waited until I saw any signs of a sense of humor. That would have made all the difference in the world. If nothing else, I’m a bit more discriminating these days. But, even a seasoned woman of the world such as myself falls into the trap of a jack ass dude. I’m not foolish enough to actually lose anything except my time and that’s bad enough. Recently I walked right into one of those traps  and I’m rather embarrassed to own it online but I do so with very altruistic reasons. (Patting myself on my back), I feel the need to reap justice/revenge within the social, legal and moral constraints that I have chosen for myself. Usually words are my best weapon so I must use them when I feel the desire to punch someone in the face. 

(This post is a digression of something else that falls under any category of tactics at my disposal. But I digress on a regular basis so it  doesn't matter.)

Recently I “friend-ed” who I thought was Christopher Knight on Facebook. He accepted and one of  my friends also friend-ed him when she saw that I had done it “successfully”. Then, the other day he IM”ed me. This is the actually IM history that I shared with this nimrod with my commentary in black italics, the conversation has my comments in pink and his in blue.:

Hi

Imagine my surprise!

Good morning! What are you doing up so early?

checking up some mail

I should have paid more attention to the odd phrase used here.

an you?

I let that one go.

I always get up early, I love the peace and quiet.

Hahhahah

Really, why was that funny?

I write so it's a good time to do that.

So, do you ever make any more volcanoes?

Nope

In hindsight, he steered clear of anything Brady.

Too bad, you did show promise!

what do you do for a living?

Once again, in hindsight, he was choosing his bait.            

I'm a retired nurse.

He liked that answer.

how many kids do you have?

More bait shopping.

Yep, I love my job. My back hurts like you wouldn't believe but I earned it in a great way.

i will be going to Turkey for a movie

This is part of his scam, he’s setting up his problem.

Mine are all grown up, I have 3 of them, all in their 30's. I started you. I got divorced and decided a dog would be a great option for a lonely chick so I have fallen in love with dogs.

Cool, I have no dependents. Mo’ money, mo’money.

I started you, LMAO...young.

Turkey! Wow...what type of movie and how long will you be there? I also work in moies, medical advisor and occasional background work

movies...dang my spelling sucks

oh

i know what you mean

I don’t even know what he means.

just have to keep it to my self

Once again, up a reason for not being able to answer certain questions.

when i get there will can send to the media for every body to now

Oh, that's cool.

will talk to you much later

OK, great chatting now! Have a lovely time, good luck and be safe!

thanks

Ciao~!

OK, I guess he doesn't scam on the first date. Or, these eunuchs could specialize in different parts of the scam. Maybe this guy just looks for appropriate victims and another dude closes the deal.

Chat Conversation                      

Hello

I didn’t see this for hours after he sent it. Dang, I might have totally missed Peter Brady!

Saturday 1:29pm

Sorry I missed you! If you'd like, you are more than welcome to call me at *%$-^%$!-(&*% anytime. As I said before, I have odd sleeping habits so don't let the time hinder you. The worst that could happen is that I am asleep in which case I won't answer.

BTW, if you'd like to read some of my funny stuff, email me at megkelsobroderick@gmail.com so I can send it to you. I'd love to make you smile.

Saturday 5:11pm

ok dear

OMG! He’s back! Peter Brady has nothing better to do on a Saturday afternoon than to chat with ME online!

Cool! Would you rather I try to copy and paste it into this? I'd understand if you're not comfortable giving out your email addy.

i just email you

I picture Peter as having much better internet and grammatical savvy I should have paid more Attention to that. I will in the future.

Oh, OK. uno momento

I'm still waiting for it to get here, let me double check my addy...

that's right...did you get the M from com? It wasn't on the same line as the rest

megkelsobroderick@gmail.co

m

see? the stupid m is still a line away!

have you receive the mail

nope

got it, now I'll send you something that I find funny...

ok

OK, sent it.

oh i saw it

Now, he said he saw it when all he had time to do was open the email I had sent, he certainly didn't have time to read a sentence of it. Whoever he was, he lost me at this point. I hate a liar.

what are you doing at the moment                 

Or, “Do you have time for a quick scam?”

Making dinner for my dad. When did you see it?

Actually, I'm waiting for it to bake so I'm not really DOING anything.

oh

can i ask you for a favour?

Yeah, I know, the U in favour should have told me this guy didn't go to school in America but in my defense, I was catching on to the entire situation so one little detail like this one barely registered.

sure

am trying to send money to a friend in the state but i dont know why is not going from Turkey.....here..an he needs the money badly,i think his daughter had an accident,an the insurance company have not come to take charge...

Uh, huh…how much is he gonna go for?

probably like 800 $$$ if you can send it will be very grateful an i will send it back to you

Why not more? Anyone stupid enough to send $800 would just as easily send 2 grand.

Call me, OK?

I wanted a chance to bitch him out on the phone. So I did. After I verbally abused him, I hung up and sat at the desk. Quicker than you can say, “Women with Oprah arms shouldn't wave bye-bye!” he was IM’ing me again.

Hello

what are you saying over the phone?

you are not the guy in the picture. I know his voice. He doesn't have a middle eastern accent. Nice try.

oh how do you mean

i told you am in Turkey

what where you expecting from me

i cant understand you meg

hello

Chat Conversation End

So, the moral of the story is, beware of people pretending to be Peter Brady.

I Put 2 Posts Back Up...

...that I had taken down to avoid hurt feelings. It didn't work. Apparently, it did annoy one person but not enough for that person to call me and confront me about it. Rather, they called their own father who had never read what I wrote but chose to call my 80 year old father and complain to him about what I had written. I guess they were thinking that talking directly to me wasn't good enough when they could harass my father in hopes of causing a rift between the two of us. Knowing the yahoos involved, my guess is they hoped that my father would scold me, and if they were really lucky, he might even kick me out and leave me homeless again.

I tried to assuage people who may have been annoyed but it got me nowhere so I've decided to change my tactics. (I chose that word for someone who has a problem with the definition of it.) But, to protect my father from any further emotional turmoil, I chose to discuss it with him myself before I did anything. I stated my view and told him what I planned on doing. He understood where I was coming from but he didn't agree with my plans so we simply agreed to disagree. As it stands now, any further phone calls to my father are now without any logical reason.

I've been having one health problem after another lately including a heart attack, a stroke, renal failure and a diagnosis of "broken heart syndrome". My heart was demolished in 2004 so I'm surprised it took that long to attack me. The worst health problem that I have today is major depressive disorder and a hideous case of anxiety disorder. My depression has kept me isolated to the point that I haven't even been able to utilize my usual cathartic mechanisms, this blog and my writing.

When I began this blog in January of 2005, it helped me quite a bit. I had a place to espouse my honest feelings, raw and unpleasant though they may have been. Unfortunately, lately I've allowed myself to worry more about the feelings of other people than I did my own. That would have been fine if it had done me any good in my relationships with certain people but all it did was make me feel worse and eventually I suffered a heart attack...I actually had a HEART ATTACK! I attribute it directly to the way I allowed myself to be treated and my lack of an outlet for my feelings which I simply kept bottled up inside of me, much to my own detriment.

That's what I wanted to explain to you all and next I will start telling you all exactly what led me to this point. It won't be pretty but it will be honest. I will be admitting to some things of which I am not very proud. I've come to the conclusion that this tact is the only way that I can live with myself. Right now it's almost midnight so I'm going to go to bed. But as soon as I've gotten some shut eye and given the matter some more thought, I will be back to begin spewing the ugly truths that I can no longer keep inside of me without further harm to my own health.

Ciao, be back very soon...I promise. I need to sing a better song.

TIMELY RERUN

FRIDAY, DECEMBER 23, 2005

Kim Basinger seems to love backing causes...it would seem as though she is now vying for the title, “Saint of Mothers Who Assassinate Father/Child Relationships For No Good Reason”. After co-parenting daughter Ireland for 10 years, Basinger has decided that Alec Baldwin is no longer worthy of the role of father because there has not been enough “consideration for my time and work commitments” and Baldwin’s presence is a “disruption to Ireland’s life.”

Court documents filed by Baldwin request the “disruption” of “co-parenting counseling” and a change in therapists. Co-parenting counseling seems quite reasonable to most people. Especially considering the history of the couple who have been bickering over the 10 year old since their 2001 divorce.

Of course, we are not privy to any of the particulars in the case. But one would expect that had Mr. Baldwin committed some hideous infraction in the time since the brutal divorce, Basinger would have seen to it that the media was aware of the situation. So, in this case, surely no news is good news. Yet Basinger's attorney fills 69 pages of court documents with reasons why she should not attend co-parenting classes with her ex.

Basinger seems to be leading the charge of women who seek to remove superfluous husbands by proxy. They effectively take away all access to their children from father’s who are guilty of nothing more than existing past their usefullness. Beyond child support, these women are convinced that the men with whom they produced these children serve no purpose. So, these men are banished from the lives of their children by women who find them to be more of an inconvenience than an asset.

Shortly after these men become burdens to their wives, all too often, they come home to an empty house. Phone calls fail to verify the location of the man’s family. That’s because the men don’t seem to call the people who DO know what’s going on, the police. Of course, he needn’t call them, they’re on their way over to arrest him for domestic violence or something worse. Now, the first step is done. He’s out of the house.

The next step is to keep him out of the house and that takes a very long time. But, as an affront to women who are truly victimized, these women manipulate the court system for years in their efforts. The more sadistic of these women begin poisoning the minds of innocent children. A “victimized” wife can get a man out of the house overnight. It takes a “victimized” child to keep them out for good.

The brainwashing that these children receive is extremely effective. It takes some particularly accomplished manipulation to evoke such “obsessional hatred”, that it “extends to the targeted parent's extended family without any guilt or remorse.”

In The Parental Alienation Directory, Dr. Douglas Darnall states that the young victims of mothers consumed with hatred, "have no capacity to feel guilty about how they behave towards the targeted parent or forgive any past indiscretions." Dr, Darnell describes a pattern of behavior that he has termed Parental Alienation Syndrome and it is not a pretty picture. Although men most assuredly have the ability to exact this behavior upon children, for whatever reasons, the majority of parents who inflict PAS upon children are women.

Loving mothers want to see their children surrounded by as many people who love them as possible. But the mother’s who cause children to have “difficulty making any differentiations between...personal experiences with the targeted parent” and “what they are told by the Obsessed Alienator.”, are more concerned with some fantasy life where the father simply does not exist than with the welfare of the children. In a society where we chastise men for not rising to the occasion when they father a child, how can we let these mothers off the hook when they steal not only the father, but the father’s entire family from the child? Grandmother’s, Grandfather’s, aunt’s and uncle’s are all fair game for these women.

When the accusations fly, the extended family is not immune. A women in metropolitan Atlanta accused her daughter’s grandparents of standing by while the father, “struck her once, throwing her to the ground. Then, he struck her again and she fell to the ground again.” In this devastatingly classic case of Parental Alienation Syndrome, this particular father is about the give up on his daughter after two years of fighting with his ex wife. He has been arrested 3 times, his elderly parents have been named in abuse accusations filed with the Paulding County Georgia court. During the Christmas holidays, the counselor ordered by Paulding County told this father that “the best Christmas gift that you can give your daughter is to stay away during the holidays.”

When Alec Baldwin requests a change in counselors, it’s entirely possible that he may have good cause. With “therapists” out there telling fathers that they can best serve their child by “staying away”, perhaps Baldwin’s request should be given due consideration.

Unfortunately, “severe alienation is usually irreversible” and more and more men like the Paulding County Georgia father are throwing up their hands in utter desperation after years of false accusations and alienation from their children. Until judges and therapists, along with the public in general, recognize PAS for the crime that it is, father’s without Baldwin’s resources will continue to “stay away”. Hopefully, Baldwin himself will continue...to the best of his ability...to be a “disruption” in his daughter’s life.

For more information, go to:http://www.parentalalienation.com/pasdirectory.htm

To My Grandchildren

Chandler Driggers Cardis, Campbell Driggers, Joaquin, Dillon Colletti, Patrick Colletti are my grandchildren and I adore them, love them and miss them too much to bear.

I also adore my daughter Annie and her wonderful hubby. I miss them as well. I miss and love my sons, William Cardis and Timothy Colletti.